What should I do with unreliable CF?
VeryBigDawg
Georgia
First, some back ground. Over the last several years have seen the same gorgeous stripper at the same club. I usually see her 2-3 times a month and get 3-4 lappers every time I am there. All is bliss. She has become one of my CFs.
Last week I see her and get some of the best UHM dances from her, which has become par for the course with her. So I pay her and she goes off on a tantrum that I should be getting more lappers from her, give her bigger tip. The upshoot being spend more $$$$$$$ on me. The discussion ended poorly with me saying get away from me.
So today I am at the club minding my own business, when she sees me and comes over all apologetic, lovey dovey, kissy; and says how great it is to see me, blah, blah, blah. I swear these strippers have 6th sense to know when PLs are tired of their SS. I gave her the cold shoulder.
So what should I do next time I see her?
1. More cold shoulder?
2. Kiss and make up?
3. Another option?
Call me "Confused in Atlanta".
Last week I see her and get some of the best UHM dances from her, which has become par for the course with her. So I pay her and she goes off on a tantrum that I should be getting more lappers from her, give her bigger tip. The upshoot being spend more $$$$$$$ on me. The discussion ended poorly with me saying get away from me.
So today I am at the club minding my own business, when she sees me and comes over all apologetic, lovey dovey, kissy; and says how great it is to see me, blah, blah, blah. I swear these strippers have 6th sense to know when PLs are tired of their SS. I gave her the cold shoulder.
So what should I do next time I see her?
1. More cold shoulder?
2. Kiss and make up?
3. Another option?
Call me "Confused in Atlanta".
26 comments
In any event, I think it depends upon your personality. I'm a very forgiving guy, especially when the woman who has offended me will let me play with her tits. So I would just get over it quickly, keep playing with her if the mileage is good, but have fun with her friends too. It takes the fun out of strip clubbing for me to have dancers there who I don't like and won't speak to.
It sounds as though this relationship might have run it's course in your mind by how you are talking. Only you know that answer.
Hit it and quit it.
But we all know the little head will win, which agrees with sclvr5005: hit it and quit it while you've got hand
Substitute "what you want" for "sex" if all you really want is UHM lappers.
At some point, every dancer will push towards VIP. Usually when that happens I'll see what I can actually get there.
Like any time a stripper asks for more money, you have to ask what service she'll provide to earn it.
If this happens once I'd give her a pass. Maybe she was PMSing. Her rent may be due and she's freaking out about money. As long as the dances you get are good for the money, forgive and forget. But if it happens again I'd cut her loose.
You might consider putting her on a sort of probationary period, maybe 90 days, see how she does during that time. It isn't necessarily something you need to tell her, though letting her know just how pissed off you were when she started demanding money would probably be a good way to let her know there are ground rules to this business relationship -- rules on both sides, not just hers.
And whatever you do, make sure she realizes this isn't something exclusive -- you're there to have fun, with or without her. You don't have to say it in so many words, but a couple extra lap dances from some other dancers could make the point.
Odd are things have reached their expire date... if you have a 2nd option at the same club, work that for awhile and see what happens.
If you want to be a happy PL, think about how nice it is to watch the stage show, and slip a dollar or two to the dancers who put on a good show. Makes it a lot easier to wait for the dancers who are really worth your time and money.
Don't get all misogynist or dancer-hating. You can get the same kind of shit from somebody trying to sell you a car, who either isn't very good at it or is content to only sell to idiots.
It's easier for me because, generally, if a woman is 20 - 40, healthy, and her hips are wider than her waist, she'll be hot to me. My scale is more like 1 - 4 not 1 - 10. It would have to be a really pathetic club for me to be all obsessed about getting busy with one particular dancer.