Single Moms

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JohnSmith69
layin low but staying high
Earlier this week, I had a wonderful girl friend experience with an adorable 22-year-old with a massive natural breasts. Yes, I do sometimes have sex with older women.

After the sex was over and we were talking, she tells me about her one year old son, and shows me pictures. She loves the kid and everything, but he is clearly a huge burden on her and not what she was planning for her life at this stage. I didn't say this to her, but in listening to her I cannot figure out how she or any other young woman these days could end up pregnant if they didn't want to. All you have to do is take one pill every morning and it's over 99% effective in making sure that this doesn't happen. And if taking a pill is too much work, you can get a shot every few months and that takes care of this potential development as well. It couldn't be any easier.

In light of this, how is it possible that so many dancers end up being young single mothers? There really is no legitimate excuse that I can think of. The only possible explanations that I can see is that they don't understand basic biology, they are among the most irresponsible people on the planet, or they want to have these kids.

I imagine that most of you will vote for the incredibly irresponsible option. But that still seems insufficient to explain why such large numbers of dancers are single moms. Anybody understand this?

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shadowcat
10 years ago
Religion is what prevents a lot of females from using birth control or getting abortions.
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ATACdawg
10 years ago
1. Failure of the Pill. My first daughter is a testament to this - we had been married for nine months at the point we became pregnant and thatade her just nine months earlier than planned.

2. Leaky condom

3. Father bails on the girl.

4. Guilt-ridden Catholic who thinks the rhythm method is the only God-blessed method of contraception. We call people using this method parents.

5. An ethical decision that doesn't include the father because of known issues.

I know firsthand examples of the above in both civvies and dancers.
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motorhead
10 years ago
"or they want to have these kids"

I think that is the correct answer. Sure, a few mistakes might happen, but most strippers come from a broken home and are screwed up mentally. They think having a kid as a teenager will fill that void they feel.
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dtek
10 years ago
Why do you think anyone needs an "legitimate excuse" to become a parent? People (all of us) make decisions, good and bad, all the time. Dancers are no different.

For what it's worth my daughter (not a stripper ;) became pregnant and had a baby while she was in high school. I think (but don't know) that it was due to a combination of feeling a need for intimacy with her boyfriend, believing she was at a point in her cycle where she wouldn't get pregnant, and making the poor choice to "make it feel better" by not using a condom.

People are particularly prone to making poor choices when immediate gratification overcomes the potential long term consequences. Younger people (and immature older people ;) are especially susceptible to this style of bad choice.
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jackslash
10 years ago
I think most strippers have babies because they want them. They know how to prevent pregnancy and they can get abortions if they become pregnant by accident.

Many strippers have complained to me about their exes who don't care about their child. And then they tell me that the child is the one good thing that came out of the relationship.

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Diva1975
10 years ago
Motörhead hit the nail on the head
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Aaron_hip
10 years ago
No offense to strippers. But it has to take a lot of bad lucks from leaky condoms or failure to take the pills to lead to a pregnancy *and* them becoming strippers. If it's just a unplanned pregnancy for a couple in a normal relationship, the mom wouldn't become a stripper a year later.
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HungryGiraffe
10 years ago
Agree with comments about these girls wanting to be Moms for a variety of reasons. Beside motherhood is a great thing. It's just that in today's society it's tough for a teenage or young adult to give a child their very best, but it's not impossible. There are many worse thing that can happen to a young woman besides single parenthood. It's not a death sentence.
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HungryGiraffe
10 years ago
My first ATF, the one with the beautiful lips in my avatar, loss a child in her early 20's and longed to be a mother. I've lost contact with her, and am pretty certain she dropped out of stripping to become a Mom. That was her plan. Stunning woman. Miss her.
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Papi_Chulo
10 years ago
IMO the biological pull of being a mother is probably a lot stronger that for a man behind a father.

As others have said – for many women it is a conscious decision – as one dancer that was 36 y/o (but look damn good) told me w.r.t her 21 y/o son – i.e. she had him when she was 15 – and she told me she had him b/c “I wanted something/someone to love me”.

Many of us male PLs can get by w/o love by going to SCs or visiting escorts – i.e. by fucking – but women are just a bit of a different animal and seem to need emotional love a lot lot more.
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JamesSD
10 years ago
When I was 16 my 16 year old gf was on the pill. She took it most days. She "only" missed one or two a month. It's fortunate she didn't get Knocked Up.

Reliance on condoms + booze can be trouble too.
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goonster
10 years ago
For young women, the biological drive to have a child is a lot stronger than a lot of us guys realize. Couple that with bad decision making skills and generally terrible taste in men and there you go.

Recipe for single mom.
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ndnman
10 years ago
I ask myself that question all the time, how in 2015 do you manage to get pregnant if you weren't planning on it. Having a kid has become so cavalier i think. It seems people will put more thought into purchasing a new TV or phone and actually consider the ramifications of such a purchase. But having sex and possibly getting pregnant hardly registers a blip. That was my biggest fear early on that i passed up a few sure things. I didn't want the burden of a kid. I'm in early 40s now and the wife and i have no kids. So, we're a happy, carefree couple. :-)
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BigPoppa99
10 years ago
Something I believe everyone forgot to mention, is women use a baby to sometimes secure a man. Thinking if I have his child, he won't leave me; he will love me. A lot of it has to tie into feelings of low self worth, etc... And to no surprise, most of the time this happens to be strippers.
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DandyDan
10 years ago
Most of the ones I know about wanted to be mothers.

One thing no one has said is how much it costs to get on the pill. Maybe it costs too much. Also, strippers aren't all the brightest and perhaps they don't know the pill exists. I suppose there is always abortions, but those are few and far between and probably cost a lot of money they don't have.
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PhantomGeek
10 years ago
Accidents do happen.

One girl I know, she and a friend of hers went into a ditch during a snowstorm. They were already curious as it was, so one thing led to another and nine months later, they were parents.

A couple I know, she used spermicide, he used a condom, but damn if that kid was bound and determined to come into being.

Another girl I had heard about, she was on her third child -- and apparently she had no idea how it was happening.
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Tiredtraveler
10 years ago
Stop playing the religion card! At least 90% of all American Roman Catholics practice birth control.
1] Condoms & pill have been vitually free at planned parenthood and most city/county health clinics for decades
2] Ignorance of contraception (rare but still occurs)
3] They have become alienated from their parents or their parent(s) are too wrapped up in themselves to give a shit about their kid, the girl wants someone who will love her unconditionally and thinks a baby will fill that need not realizing how much work and cost babies require.
4] TV portrays bad boys as being romantic & able to be reformed...not: his line "I love you baby" is BS. When she gets pregnant he's gone. Abortion is a hard decision and the abortion is very destructive on a girl's emotional stability no matter if she is religious or not (seen it in a friend), its a maternal instinct thing.
They truth is the young think it will never happen to them!!
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