Strippers never come up to me
First of all I am a former college basketball player and I am about 6 ft 3 inches and in great shape. I am 40 and still have the build of a basketball player. At normal bars I have no problem having girls come and talk to me. I got with a couple of friends who I would not call in shape and are pretty much the guys that never get girls. The strippers are always all over them. They go up to them before me and ignore me half the time. I have to actually approach most of them to even get conversation let alone a lap dance.
I just don't get why or how they would want to rub all over some dumpy looking heavy set guys compared to someone that keeps in great shape and has always had pretty good luck at normal bars with the ladies. I have never had the feeling of rejection like this before and now I have it with girls that won't give me attention even though I would pay them to! Crazy!
Any ideas?
I just don't get why or how they would want to rub all over some dumpy looking heavy set guys compared to someone that keeps in great shape and has always had pretty good luck at normal bars with the ladies. I have never had the feeling of rejection like this before and now I have it with girls that won't give me attention even though I would pay them to! Crazy!
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Well, as an unpaid spokesman for dumpy looking heavy set guys everywhere, I have an easy answer
MONEY
And believe it or not, some dancers are easily intimidated by all sorts of things, and won't approach someone that is out of their safe comfort zone.
Bottom line....it's them, not you.
That said, at my favorite club, there is a customer who is a well-known ex-Husker football player (by well-known, I mean that any Nebraska Cornhusker football fan who knows the history of Husker football would know who he is) and the ladies tend to ignore him.
I’m 45 and started clubbing at 30 – in my 30s often times more strippers passed me up for the older guys.
Strip clubs are about $$$ and not hooking up w/ a “hot guy” – to many a stripper; especially the business savvy ones; a good looking guy will not be as hard-up or willing to spend as much for female companionship b/c he can get that already – or so they think – i.e. a good looking guy may often be seen as a harder sale.
Many strippers can also be insecure and may think “there are prettier girls here than me – that good looking guy will not go for me”.
I’m a clean-cut whiteguy but I go mostly to all-black clubs b/c I like/prefer the chocolate – some black strippers will not approach me b/c they think I would like/prefer the thin, light-skinned, more Caucasian, looking black dancers; and not the thick dark-skinned ones which are actually my preference.
Often times; especially in certain clubs; “catching a dancer” is like “catching a taxi” – i.e. you have to be proactive and not just stand there – i.e. make the first move even if you think she, as the one trying to sale dances; should be the one making the first move.
No offense, but coincidentally a lot of fat, old, ugly dudes don't wanna give me 1 damn dollar because I guess I bring out their insecurities without trying. A lot of times it is the best looking person or people who I make all or most of my money off of? But I don't go up to people because they are cute or w/e. I just follow the money.
“Money rules. Especially in strip clubs. Those that can't compete eat shit"
Customers who see themselves as alpha males (aka ricks) tend to be demeaning to strippers. They think only flaky women would not find ecstasy in submitting to them sexual (for free). It's not necessarily the good looking guys. Men often think it's fine for them to be attracted to women for superficial reasons, but flaky for women to be attracted to men for superficial reasons.
Women expecting a guy to have a decent job and good looks though is shallow??? Lol!
I see a lot more bumass men doing nothing at all with their lives than bumass women in the same boat.
But I know they're working at the club and I don't waste their time. I tip buy drinks. I don't fondle them or anything.
I just talk to them and don't say or do anything sexual. After a few drinks they usually start touching my body. Kiss my chest and stomach. If you want to seduce a woman. Make her think everything is her idea. Make her comfortable. Return the same levels of vulnerability. Make a real connection. It's easy with the really young girls.
Terms like alpha or beta are stupid bs that the pua incel crowd makes up. Guys who live up to prescribed roles end up getting played lulz.
But never be cheap creepy or feel entitled at a club.
And if you come across like a trick/mark don't bitch about being treated like one.
Def my opinion in a heavy extras environment. For whatever reason, often the older uglier guy will really want to play hardball with a big smirk on his face…but the young cute guy is often just there to have fun and is more likely to be the easygoing spender. Possibly because he hasn’t figured out the club MO or possibly a generational thing idk
Giving up stable money for a one off isn't a good strategy in the long run. She should do both.
I have a few reviews that I said were written by the invisible man. SOme girls have even ignored me when I went to the stage to tip because I liked what I saw.
Just move on. There are other clubs with funner dancers.