They're girls. Alone with a stranger. Doing something that their mothers and fathers would go apeshit if they knew about. They're probably fighting their gag reflex when they're naked with you, because it's likely they wouldn't give you the time of day if you weren't paying her.
Jerikson, you should try Red Lobster. They have endless shrimp. That way, you won't get cranky and make downer posts, because some whale ate all the shrimp at a buffet......lol
Was I wrong? I wasn't attacking jvTroop, just stating what if fairly obvious that many/most girls feel when they're in bed naked with a stranger who's paying them for sex. Geez guys don't get your panties in a bunch, but the fact is that it's probably fairly close to what they're feeling, so don't be surprised if they're not wild nymphos jumping all over you. They're human beings, and they're women, with feelings, correct? Sorry if that's a downer and bursts your bubble....
Think of it this way....let's say you're in the mall and some chick comes up to you. You'd rate her probably a 4, some guys might say a 7, whatever. You're not really attracted to her for whatever reason. And she says she's really into you, and will pay you $500 bucks to fuck her.
Now, here's a chick that you probably can't get it up for, you're just doing it for the money, you don't know her, and you're in bed naked with her. So tell me, are you all excited and horny and fun having sex with her, or are you cold and "shy" and just going thru the motions?
"Every stripper I've been in bed with was not shy, but rather a frisky freaky side of them showed up. Talking about 3 only..."
And if you've ever been to other countries, like Tijuana Mexico, or Brazil, you know that other cultures tend to react differently. Not sure why, but some chicks in other countries are fucking insane in bed. Go figure.
"They're probably fighting their gag reflex when they're naked with you, because it's likely they wouldn't give you the time of day if you weren't paying her. "
Thank you jerikson for once again giving us the up close and personal perspective of a dancer.
I've met plenty of girls over the years who were relaxed in the clubs, but who seemed far less confident in my hotel room. In my experience, the key to having a good OTC outing with girls who are insecure is to keep things light and try to put them at ease.
It's all about finding the right girl... which isn't always easy.
First off I think it comes with experience. I think a lot of times when 2 people have sex for the first time it's a little awkward. Ways to make it less awkward usually involve getting to know someone better (like dating), drinking alcohol and lastly, having sex without any money transaction involved.
To add to the awkwardness, throw in the money involved, that the event is usually happening in a hotel, meeting for the first time as well as trust issues on each side makes it all the more awkward (I can't tell you how many times I've met a stripper for the first time OTC that I think I know pretty well, and fear that when I open the hotel door I'll get robbed - don't laugh, I know guys it's happened to).
I also think if you're doing this with a younger girl they may be a little nervous, I usually get the "I just want to please you routine" and that translates to "they don't want to make any initiative for fear of pissing you off and will follow your lead instead." After a few times of this you two can relax and hopefully the sessions will become more intense. You gotta remember, if a stripper has any wits about her, she wants to make the experience enjoyable for you so you'll want to do it (and pay) again. I think most think if they play it conservative they're playing it say. No fingers up your ass unless you ask them to do so! lol
There was some truth in what Jerkison said although it could have been said much more eloquently. Some girls may see this as a business transaction while you're trying to create a passionate encounter. A lot of times some strippers are ogled so much inside the club I think they kinda forget what passion is all about. I have found that if you want passion and freaky-ness... find a lonely housewife that never gets fucked and watches porn a lot. They will give you much more passion and experiences than your AVERAGE stripper. Then again you may get lucky and find one like alabegonz has.
Like this dancer who I was chatting a while ago, she mentioned about her friends texting her. She took the convo to the texting part so I could ask her phone number, but I just plowed through it like she never opened it, she felt a little sad because I never asked her number. Then she said she was bit shy about talking phone numbers and I just completely ignored it like she never said it.
Moving on, my beer and my night was all about eye candy and meeting nice beautiful women.
samsung sez: "3 dancers is not a large enough sample size. Even some escorts have been cold and too business like."
Really? Hard to believe that an escort would ever be cold and business-like. Clearly, the reason an escort or an OTC stripper is with you is because there's a deep seated love in there somewhere. Aside from just having the hots for you and desperately wanting to have sex with you, maybe they might even be thinking of marrying you in the future. Who knows?
So when an escort or OTC stripper seems cold and business-like, I think that a lot of them just might be a bit nervous being with the man of their dreams, and don't want to mess up their first night with the love of their life.
I agree, you should try a larger sample size. Maybe the others are more confident with their future husband and dream lover. You just have to try.
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Gee, I wonder why she's "shy"......
Shadowcat i may need to try that and thank you
Now, here's a chick that you probably can't get it up for, you're just doing it for the money, you don't know her, and you're in bed naked with her. So tell me, are you all excited and horny and fun having sex with her, or are you cold and "shy" and just going thru the motions?
Maybe that's how some girls feel OTC. Or worse.
Yeah and fish don't like water.
And if you've ever been to other countries, like Tijuana Mexico, or Brazil, you know that other cultures tend to react differently. Not sure why, but some chicks in other countries are fucking insane in bed. Go figure.
From everything I've read, most sex workers are boring in their civilian lives.
Thank you jerikson for once again giving us the up close and personal perspective of a dancer.
jvTroop --> ignore list
Last time I took a dancer there, my D was sore next morning and tender for 2 days. I wonder how she was given my D's condition.
Talk about being gentle.
You guys must have taken the WRONG girl.
I'm going to the gym now and hit the SC later.
Talk among yourselves, figure it out dudes why these girls are shy.
First off I think it comes with experience. I think a lot of times when 2 people have sex for the first time it's a little awkward. Ways to make it less awkward usually involve getting to know someone better (like dating), drinking alcohol and lastly, having sex without any money transaction involved.
To add to the awkwardness, throw in the money involved, that the event is usually happening in a hotel, meeting for the first time as well as trust issues on each side makes it all the more awkward (I can't tell you how many times I've met a stripper for the first time OTC that I think I know pretty well, and fear that when I open the hotel door I'll get robbed - don't laugh, I know guys it's happened to).
I also think if you're doing this with a younger girl they may be a little nervous, I usually get the "I just want to please you routine" and that translates to "they don't want to make any initiative for fear of pissing you off and will follow your lead instead." After a few times of this you two can relax and hopefully the sessions will become more intense. You gotta remember, if a stripper has any wits about her, she wants to make the experience enjoyable for you so you'll want to do it (and pay) again. I think most think if they play it conservative they're playing it say. No fingers up your ass unless you ask them to do so! lol
There was some truth in what Jerkison said although it could have been said much more eloquently. Some girls may see this as a business transaction while you're trying to create a passionate encounter. A lot of times some strippers are ogled so much inside the club I think they kinda forget what passion is all about. I have found that if you want passion and freaky-ness... find a lonely housewife that never gets fucked and watches porn a lot. They will give you much more passion and experiences than your AVERAGE stripper. Then again you may get lucky and find one like alabegonz has.
If you haven't figured out by this time, you will never figure it out.
Haha, sucks to be in that situation.
Dunno, these women asked me to go out after the shift. I did not open nor hint anything close to going out.
My bad, it was my fault for jumping the gun on that one.
Moving on, my beer and my night was all about eye candy and meeting nice beautiful women.
What a nice Friday night it was.
Really? Hard to believe that an escort would ever be cold and business-like. Clearly, the reason an escort or an OTC stripper is with you is because there's a deep seated love in there somewhere. Aside from just having the hots for you and desperately wanting to have sex with you, maybe they might even be thinking of marrying you in the future. Who knows?
So when an escort or OTC stripper seems cold and business-like, I think that a lot of them just might be a bit nervous being with the man of their dreams, and don't want to mess up their first night with the love of their life.
I agree, you should try a larger sample size. Maybe the others are more confident with their future husband and dream lover. You just have to try.