Sorting Out SS - My Current Personal Soap Opera
rockstar666
Illinois
Thursday, August 28, 2014 6:17 AM
When I first met my ATF 3 years ago I fell hard for her, like any PL. I wanted to get to an OTC relationship ASAP, but as it turned out she didn't do OTC with anyone, me included. She's bi which I accept, even though she had a b/f throughout her life. So I figured just seeing her at the club was fine for me; I'd have my fun with her having dances and just talking and that was that. Over the course of the first year, we got to become pretty good friends. She gave me all her personal info (FB page, home address, phone #, etc.) and she mine, and we even had an OTC date or two that didn't involve sex (or money) although at the time I thought that was where we were going.
Then a year later she brings up OTC, as in having sex this time, although she was vague on the details. Naturally I'm game, but it never really worked out. I'd make a date and she'd back out at the last minute, or she'd make a date and then later cancel...typical SS. So finally I said, "Look, I know you're having issues with this, let's just see each other at the club like we have been and have that kind of relationship." This was obviously a big relief to her as she's just not into sex for money. And we resumed as friends.
Then a year goes by and my singer quit my band unexpectedly, and she wanted to audition (she's done some singing in the past and made a CD at one point). I practiced with her to help her learn the songs (originals) before having her meet the band, so she'd be prepared. Well, the audition day comes and she flakes out again. I was pretty mad, but blamed myself since she's been a bit of a flake. I thought since this wasn't about sex maybe she'd show up this time.
Another year goes by, and I still see her at the club, still close friends. The club relationship works well for both of us. Keep in mind she makes very little money off me so it's not like she couldn't live without me if she didn't like me. Well, she texts me a couple days ago and invites me to see her new apartment and says she'd like to try some music again. She promised to practice, and put the time into it that is required. She's broken up with her last b/f too. So I'm going over to her place tomorrow after her shift to hang out and talk. Or more than talk?
The timing isn't so great for me as I have a full time band (albeit a cover band; I prefer to play my songs so I'm up for a side project). Having had a crush on my ATF for over 3 years now it's hard to not see this through, but if she flakes out yet again it won't be a shock. Frankly I can't understand what this is all about...I can't really believe she wants to turn our friendship sexual (more sexual than minor ITC extras) but she's had b/f's so it's not like it's not possible. I put her flaking out at at least 50% but I'm a PL, right?
I'm not really asking for advice, but any comments are welcome!
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