I've always wondered how they are, are you garanted to get laid if you come single ( my gf would never do something like this) . Just wanna hear some stories about it because i was invited to one called bowery bliss in NY and for single men it's 120$ and discreet door to come in and only invite.
Kind of like going to a nude beach. Sounds awesome, right? But the only people who go to nude beaches are horny old guys with wrinkled shit you really dont want to see. And swingers clubs are similar. And the women who go there are generally unfuckable. Yeah there are exceptions, but dont count on it.
My wife and I have been swingers for years. You have ZERO guarantees of getting laid and should never expect that. Most single guys follow couples around like puppy dogs hence the term "creepy single guys". If you expect to have any success you really need to bring your A++ game. Here are some pointers for you:
1. Dress to impress
2. Be well groomed above and below just in case
3. Don't be the creepy single guy
4. Don't gawk
5. Don't touch without asking first
6. NO means NO, don't ask why
7. When approaching a couple speak with the male first out of respect
8. Don't get drunk
Finally: if asked to participate with a couple, remember to make sure the husband gets 20% more attention. Its a good rule to follow unless you find yourself in a cuckold situation or something like that.
What do I mean by unfuckable? Well, think about it...do hot chicks need to go to swingers clubs, or do they get more than enough opportunities for sex? The only qualification for going to a swingers club is the kinky desire for sex in public with strangers. So swingers will generally be average or way below average women who are either doing it just so their husband wont toss them aside, or, less likely, because they're into that. Unlike strip clubs which generally only hire hot or reasonably attractive women.
Swingers Club: Sounds like a big orgy, but usually is a big awkward turnoff. I think there are groups of people who get together and swap wives and maybe some GG and MM action, but these are very private groups and you would need to know someone in the group to get in...and of course you would need to bring wife or girlfriend for all to enjoy...maybe.
"but these are very private groups and you would need to know someone in the group to get in...and of course you would need to bring wife or girlfriend for all to enjoy...maybe."
Umm, no. Not necessarily. There are many clubs open to the public. Long ago I went a few times to the Red Rooster in Vegas, and there are a bunch more there. San Francisco also has some, and I'm sure there are many more around the US. Open to just about anyone. Nothing secret or special about them. And generally open to single males, but I recall I had to pay more than couples or women for admission.
I have a bouncer friend from an old favorite club that has also worked at the local swingers club in Miami. He said it was nothing like what one might think. Offered to get me in, but decided against it. Wearing a suit (I don't even own one) was just something I was not going to do. Some may think that's stupid, but a suit is NOT me!
It was my understanding that most swinger clubs will not admit a male unless he has a female with him. Of course they will gladly accept a female on her own.
I had a soccer mom I used to see that was dying to go to one with me (I think I was the only person she perceived as brave enough to go through with it). In the end we never went and I never admitted I actually was not brave enough to go and was quite creeped out about it. It's not like there are stripper quality girls running around like the FKK clubs described on this board. The soccermom's fantasy was to go and be watched, not to share. She was/is a nympho so I'm sure she would have gone past her usual boundaries if given the opportunity.
Thads
3496 E St
San Diego, California 92102Reviewed on: July 14, 2009
Visited on: Sunday Afternoon
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UPDATE 2009 THADS IS A SWINGERS AND SINGLES ADULT CLUB... not a strip club. This is where all of your fantacys can come true. The whole thing about Thads is that you go in and have a fun time meeting folks discretly. Males are naked, women can be or no more than lingerie is allowed. LOCKERS WITH LOCKS ARE PROVIDED FOR FREE. There is a nice pool, jacuzzi, BYOB bar, free food, water and sodas. Stripper pole and dance floor for all women and men to have fun teasing others. A pool table and plenty of seating all around inside and outdoors. Sundays are really fun open from noon to midnight. BBQ food and lots of folks enjoy sunning naked by the pool playing, drinking and eating. There are lots of clean beds all through the house and back club house. A massage table etc... Open Wednesday until Saturday at 4pm and most days close at 3am. Set schedules are on the outdated website www.thads.com Women return for free anytime. Men if you bring a female with you the total charge is only $30 before 9pm. After 9pm it doubles. Bring your own towel or borrow a clean one for only $5. Normally there is a 1 fem to 2 men racio. I personally enjoy sucking two mens cocks at the same time when I am getting fucked over and over with several men wearing condoms. Sometimes I enjoy couple swaps in the couples only section. Other times as I just love to watch. We all get to do whatever we want there. I hope you all will visit me soon because I love cock and sometimes I enjoy a nice french kiss... from other females. Signing out a Thads lover, sexyredhead over and out dated July 14, 2009.
Sounds ok, but not for me. Too many gay overtones (men walk around naked,
etc..)
The public clubs are designed for couples to hook up AND to take the money of single guys. That's why they often have a separate area for women and couples.
The private clubs are where you generally find more attractive people but obviously this takes some knowledge to get involved in. Again not geared towards single men.
Some Swingers Clubs admit single men and others don't. For some, the singles night is Friday, and the main core of the club comes on Saturday night, and these are couples.
The women at swingers clubs are hornier than the men. They really get off on it. But then they are married. They look down on strippers and escorts. The most important thing in a swing club is that the women not be getting paid. Where this has been violated, it always leads to problems.
Now this Thads in San Diego that mikeya02 posted about is famous for letting lots of single men in. But sometimes the ratio is so high, that most go home getting nothing. Also, that sort of ratio turns the women off. High percentage of military men and black men.
Also at Thads they are careful about making sure money is not being exchanged. They don't even want outside contact information exchanged. This is why they want the men buck naked, where as the women can be in high heels and lingerie.
At some clubs kind of on the border between Swingers and pay for play, there will be one woman paid by the house. Her job is to make sure everyone goes home happy. But this is not the common practice.
Most swingers clubs are completely controlled by well off married people, and the women have absolute power. They are really elitist. When you read their stuff, or stuff about them, this always comes through.
There is to an extent a newer generation of Swing clubs coming on where the people are younger and not always married. But even in these clubs it is couples only.
I speak here of Club Kiss in San Francisco and Club Orage in Montreal. There may be others.
The most typical fees are $60 couples, $100 single men, and $20 for women.
So the best way is just to get to know some of the people, and then get paired up with one of their women, and go to one of these newer types of more open minded clubs not dominated by married and elitist people.
I do not think it a good idea at all to go to one of these clubs single, looking to get laid. It does not work well.
Many of those who go to swingers clubs have zero sex, or only sex with the person who brought them. This seeing and being seen has a powerful effect on people. For that reason alone, the experience can be worth it. But I would not want to go as a single male, and I would not want to go to one of these clubs dominated by married people.
The ask before touching rule is absolute!! They want this, in order to make it safe for the women to parade around naked. You have to go along with it. If it were me, I might just try offering my hand to a woman and then leading her to sit on my thigh. That way I have complied with the rule, and I've been very laid back about it too. But I have not actually had to speak a question to her.
No, I don't think most strip club patrons would like swing clubs. Strippers are more fun than the swing club women. At a strip club you are in charge, you are king, you can dress anyway you want. At a swing club you are there to try and impress snooty women.
We don't do swing clubs, although we swing. Some allow single men to pay to get in and single men to us are ants at a picnic and are avoided. Rather just set up a pool party, invite 10 cpls and some single bi females and enjoy labor day weekend.
Never been to one. My understanding is that, as jerikson said, most swingers are people you wouldn't want to swing with. I'll stick with hot stripper, thank you very much.
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1. Dress to impress
2. Be well groomed above and below just in case
3. Don't be the creepy single guy
4. Don't gawk
5. Don't touch without asking first
6. NO means NO, don't ask why
7. When approaching a couple speak with the male first out of respect
8. Don't get drunk
Finally: if asked to participate with a couple, remember to make sure the husband gets 20% more attention. Its a good rule to follow unless you find yourself in a cuckold situation or something like that.
Umm, no. Not necessarily. There are many clubs open to the public. Long ago I went a few times to the Red Rooster in Vegas, and there are a bunch more there. San Francisco also has some, and I'm sure there are many more around the US. Open to just about anyone. Nothing secret or special about them. And generally open to single males, but I recall I had to pay more than couples or women for admission.
Slick, go to your room. No dinner.
1. Dress to impress
2. Be well groomed above and below just in case
3. Don't be the creepy single guy
@lotsoffun201 - you first 3 rules eliminate 90% of the board, lol
@Ranukam - see #3 above
I had a soccer mom I used to see that was dying to go to one with me (I think I was the only person she perceived as brave enough to go through with it). In the end we never went and I never admitted I actually was not brave enough to go and was quite creeped out about it. It's not like there are stripper quality girls running around like the FKK clubs described on this board. The soccermom's fantasy was to go and be watched, not to share. She was/is a nympho so I'm sure she would have gone past her usual boundaries if given the opportunity.
3496 E St
San Diego, California 92102Reviewed on: July 14, 2009
Visited on: Sunday Afternoon
Dancers on Shift: Unknown
Dancers
ValueAtmosphere
Overall
UPDATE 2009 THADS IS A SWINGERS AND SINGLES ADULT CLUB... not a strip club. This is where all of your fantacys can come true. The whole thing about Thads is that you go in and have a fun time meeting folks discretly. Males are naked, women can be or no more than lingerie is allowed. LOCKERS WITH LOCKS ARE PROVIDED FOR FREE. There is a nice pool, jacuzzi, BYOB bar, free food, water and sodas. Stripper pole and dance floor for all women and men to have fun teasing others. A pool table and plenty of seating all around inside and outdoors. Sundays are really fun open from noon to midnight. BBQ food and lots of folks enjoy sunning naked by the pool playing, drinking and eating. There are lots of clean beds all through the house and back club house. A massage table etc... Open Wednesday until Saturday at 4pm and most days close at 3am. Set schedules are on the outdated website www.thads.com Women return for free anytime. Men if you bring a female with you the total charge is only $30 before 9pm. After 9pm it doubles. Bring your own towel or borrow a clean one for only $5. Normally there is a 1 fem to 2 men racio. I personally enjoy sucking two mens cocks at the same time when I am getting fucked over and over with several men wearing condoms. Sometimes I enjoy couple swaps in the couples only section. Other times as I just love to watch. We all get to do whatever we want there. I hope you all will visit me soon because I love cock and sometimes I enjoy a nice french kiss... from other females. Signing out a Thads lover, sexyredhead over and out dated July 14, 2009.
Sounds ok, but not for me. Too many gay overtones (men walk around naked,
etc..)
The public clubs are designed for couples to hook up AND to take the money of single guys. That's why they often have a separate area for women and couples.
The private clubs are where you generally find more attractive people but obviously this takes some knowledge to get involved in. Again not geared towards single men.
The women at swingers clubs are hornier than the men. They really get off on it. But then they are married. They look down on strippers and escorts. The most important thing in a swing club is that the women not be getting paid. Where this has been violated, it always leads to problems.
Now this Thads in San Diego that mikeya02 posted about is famous for letting lots of single men in. But sometimes the ratio is so high, that most go home getting nothing. Also, that sort of ratio turns the women off. High percentage of military men and black men.
Also at Thads they are careful about making sure money is not being exchanged. They don't even want outside contact information exchanged. This is why they want the men buck naked, where as the women can be in high heels and lingerie.
At some clubs kind of on the border between Swingers and pay for play, there will be one woman paid by the house. Her job is to make sure everyone goes home happy. But this is not the common practice.
Most swingers clubs are completely controlled by well off married people, and the women have absolute power. They are really elitist. When you read their stuff, or stuff about them, this always comes through.
There is to an extent a newer generation of Swing clubs coming on where the people are younger and not always married. But even in these clubs it is couples only.
I speak here of Club Kiss in San Francisco and Club Orage in Montreal. There may be others.
The most typical fees are $60 couples, $100 single men, and $20 for women.
So the best way is just to get to know some of the people, and then get paired up with one of their women, and go to one of these newer types of more open minded clubs not dominated by married and elitist people.
I do not think it a good idea at all to go to one of these clubs single, looking to get laid. It does not work well.
Many of those who go to swingers clubs have zero sex, or only sex with the person who brought them. This seeing and being seen has a powerful effect on people. For that reason alone, the experience can be worth it. But I would not want to go as a single male, and I would not want to go to one of these clubs dominated by married people.
The ask before touching rule is absolute!! They want this, in order to make it safe for the women to parade around naked. You have to go along with it. If it were me, I might just try offering my hand to a woman and then leading her to sit on my thigh. That way I have complied with the rule, and I've been very laid back about it too. But I have not actually had to speak a question to her.
Read about swing clubs here, it is fascinating:
http://www.amazon.com/The-Lifestyle-Erot…
No, I don't think most strip club patrons would like swing clubs. Strippers are more fun than the swing club women. At a strip club you are in charge, you are king, you can dress anyway you want. At a swing club you are there to try and impress snooty women.
SJG