What is the best way to....
ask for extras without getting slapped, thrown out, arrested, or treated badly?What has worked, and not?
I imagine it takes some familiarity between dancer and customer...
Are there "code words" that everybody (except me)knows?
Not sure I really even want extras...but I am intrigued....
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A few weeks ago I was getting LDs from a very hot dancer at a club in San Diego. After about 4 dances she told me she was convinced I wasn't a cop and started getting a lot more up close and personal. The club had recently been the focus of a trial and conviction of it's owner for bribing city officials and the girls where all a bit nervous about getting in trouble for too much contact. As I was getting up after getting about 45minutes worth of dances the lady slipped her business card in my shirt pocket and told me to feel free to take advantage of the information contained on it. Unfortunately I was leaving town a day later and we didn't have a chance to get together. Hopefully I'll be back in the area soon.
Question: If an undercover cop is asked if he's LE, does he have to say yes? If he lies and later busts the dancer, does she have a defense because he lied. ChiTown, let's hear it.
2) more minor concern: strippers worry about LE. Even if you're not looking for full-blown (so to speak) acts of prostitution, strippers are sometimes scared, depending on local mood of LE. I've had air dances because I looked like LE. So, my first step with any stripper I don't know is to let her know that I'm not LE. Reaching for a breast or a kitty will send that message; just do it softly and be willing to take no for an answer. I've had dancers be a bit standoffish until I made the right move, then they settled down for some serious lapping.
AIDs-> condoms
Law enforcement--> A dancer who is well-known to you.
Robbery/assault--> Meeting in a fairly public place where you have at least as much control over the environment as the other person;
It comes down to each man's personal risk tolerance.
At least this is what I hear from the older boys.
I agree with AB that there are some real safety concerns to be considered, especially if one is an out of town businessman hitting an unfamiliar club. I am amazed at the guys who will go to a dancer's residence, at which they are completely vulnerable to any potential set up. I am even a little leery of hotels that have separate entrances to each room directly from outside (such as Red Roof Inns), as opposed to those that involve entering the rooms from an interior hallway.
Remember the words of that contemporary English philosopher Elton John:
You feel her nails scratch your back just like a rake/
That's one dude gone/
Just one more john who made a mistake.
That's depressing. If you don't have any more fun with her in your hotel room, away from the club, than you did at a crowded club, then I don't think the OTC was worth it.
I read reviews here and chat boards elsewhere, but don't remember extras being a topic freely discussed.
(Some will not have anything to offer ITC but may propose OTC stuff to you at this point: If they do always be aware that since they know you want something the first price they are going to quote will be insanely high. Never take it unless you also routinely burn money in your fire at home. In fact, I would stay away from them for a couple of weeks and ask again to see if the price has gone down yet...)
If she follows up with "what did you have in mind?" then start with the tamest thing beyond what she is currently doing, and work your way up. Do it with a sense of humor, of course, and you WILL NOT offend any stripper by asking. (Even if you do there are tons of other strippers you can get dances from instead so who cares?)
First some subtle ones:
1) The dancer encourages more and more contact on your part, asking if you enjoyed it or if you'd like to do more. Or if she asks if you'd like to do something that is outside club rules or overtly sexual even if you don't. This can be disguised as dirty talk, but it can be a scam for a VIP so be careful. The point is if she puts the idea of getting more in your head, it is often an indication she wants you to consider asking.
2) The dancer asks what you're doing after you leave the club.
3) The dancer mentions rules of the club, such as "We're not even allowed to joke about meeting outside the club." or "If they catch us doing X or Y we get fired on the spot" in a manner that indicates she is willing to bend them as long as she doesn't get caught.
4) The dancer mentions when she gets off work and mentions where she will be. Usually a neutral public place like a coffee shop or bar.
If more than one of these is used in one visit I'd gamble that she is offering an OTC meeting. The more obvious ones:
1) Leading questions, such as "When do I get to see you naked?" can be an invitation for you to offer an OTC meeting.
2) Mentioning that she works OTC sometimes. This will probably at first be something legal like bachelor parties or private lapdances, but it is usually an invitation to ask her about it and start negotiations.
In general dancers aren't stupid about saying things that can be taken as an invitation. Most of these are for new customers who they are trying to feel out without exposing themselves to LE. If you get to be a regular or known in a club you may just get asked outright. (I've been more than once) As I said, never having taken up an offer I can't offer much past this point, but remember some dancers can be planning something other than rendering services for a fee, especially if they know you will be at a specified place at a specified time with a load of cash. Aside from being illegal it can be dangerous or even fatal, so consider carefully wether you are in any condition to make sound judgements.
"Don't sample the goodies unless you are prepared to go through addiction AND withdrawal."