Paying for sex vs. "paying" for "free" sex

a) on average probably less $ assuming you don't wind up need to take the hiv cocktail for the rest of your life (rap it up!)

b) kids... they might be useful when you're old and decrepid (although, NO guarantee)

Ask alutard. He thinks there is no difference. LMFAO!

I spent an hour & a half in the sack with a stripper for free last night. I did take her to dinner and a few drinks first ($100), loaned her $150 to get a new phone (which will never be repaid), and a couple of weeks ago, took her shopping ($147). So, she is not a whore and I have no obligation or commitment in the morning after. This is the best arrangement IMHO.

^^^Rekwag,it wasn't free.

dice: it's never free. You pay one way or another. Sometimes for the rest of your life.

Granted.

Costs of "Variety" vs "Fidelity".

^^^Will you please be quiet.

I think you can make a good case that pay for play is better economically. But what about love, family and children?

I've yet to have a civilian stop mid BJ and tell me I have to buy her more dinners before I can pop in her mouth.

Pros might be cheaper but you should get a lot more for what you spend with civilians, if you aren't you need to find some different ones.

I think it all depends on what you are looking for in your life that makes the choice the best one.

Some guys have no interest in being attached to one woman and don't want to deal with the dating game in the hopes of getting some. Pay for services rendered then walk away, no strings.

Some guys want to be with someone they can love spend time with, do things with and the sex is important but not the end all be all. They don't mind spending the money on the woman.

The problem for guy number two comes in when the person they want to spend time with doesn't want sex at the same frequency or at all. Then they become guy number one.

^^^^ You always LOSE s_c!

If you want to be able to fuck whenever you wish, stick with Sex Workers or don't commit to a serious relationship, that way you don't betray a Significant Other.

lol sippy.

On the topic: Paying for stripper sex is definitely more expensive on a per pop basis than "free sex", at least over any stretch of time with any one woman. The problem is that "free" sex often comes with feelings and other things attached. When you fuck a stripper or an escort, then as the old saying goes, you not't paying for the sex, you're paying her to leave when it's done.

As a married guy, p4p side action is the only way to go. I have no interest in keeping a side girlfriend or mistress - it is way too messy.

Rick ... spot on.

There are very, very few women I've run across who are OK with "just sex." In fact, I've had a few times where I felt like OTC was on the table with a girl at the club, but I began to sense the OTC was going to be tied to some sort of eventual assurance of "other" OTC activities -- dinner, phone calls, social media, whatever. That's usually the point where I try to clairify: I have a SO and you have to be OK with the idea that this is about one thing and one thing only. I like you, but I don't need another girlfriend, just some company tonight. Usually that's meant the end of it, including any P4P OTC possibility.

I think this is also why a lot of escort service is less than stellar. I think a lot of women feel like they're resigning themselves to something anathema to their being by letting guys that don't want them "forever and ever!" get a piece.

The good ITC/OTC/escorts are able to take to it like us men do: The sex, itself, is the good part, while anything else that comes of it is bonus. And I really don't understand why more women don't/can't think that way. Hoping it's not something hard-wired but rather cultural such that, in time, we can change it.

A wise man once said, "The difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for free costs more." Amen!

I prefer to warm up 3 beef livers in the microwave, let them cool down to body temperature, stuff them into a tennis ball canister, and go to town.

The notion of "Variety" *versus* "Fidelity" is a false dichotomy. One can have both.

Well, *some* of us can, anyway. I can see where some might not get either one.

@ldk: Really? So if one of the dancers who fucks for money were to offer you "free" sex for life if you just marry her, that would be "more desireable" than just paying her a flat fee each time you want it?