Telling a dancer your not interested
OhReally
Enjoying a drink and watching the stage, a dancer sits with you who you know you won't buy a dance off of. This bugs me because I go to the same club and never buy a dance off certain girls but some still come by and try when the club is slow. I feel like I'm wasting their time during the conversation and want them to go away. Today I changed my seat away from the stage when she went to do her set and she got the hint.
What's the best way to tell her?
What's the best way to tell her?
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I know a waitress who knows my likes/dislikes. When she sees me, she let's me know who's working and if she wants me to have her grab so & so. That's customer service.
So moral of the story every girl takes regection differently but i still vote for be polite and direct
"But ooh, this time I'm telling you, I'm telling you
We are never, ever, ever getting a dance together"
I don't feel like I should need to make up any lies about not having money, or waiting for some girl I'm not waiting for, that's what guys who are scared of strippers do. Be straight, be confident, but smile and be respectful and treat them like people, tip them a little if they've spent a bunch of time with you before you dismiss them.
This bears repeating again: I can't tell you how much more fun I have in the club, and how much more I enjoy how the girls treat me back, and how much I enjoy not feeling awkward/embarrassed/intimidated by strippers, since I adopted the man-the-fuck-up policy. You have to at least try it! Remember, be respectful!!! Being mean to cover up your discomfort is not what I mean -- being confident enough to treat people right is.
SlickSpic: thanks man! high praise from the legendary slickster
I think I get what Subraman is saying. We are the ones going in there to spend money. We don't have to provide service to the ladies, they are there to provide us a services for our money. An annoying stripper is like an annoying salesperson at any place. I'm not going to buy a car off of a pestering car salesperson. There's a reason most people don't like to hear the phrase "can I help you find anything" while shopping and usually reply with "Just looking".
There just needs to be a balance between salesmanship from the ladies and honest answers from the guys.
If one has the rep that you do in Follies at their club. not to worry about what you do. Tell her to piss off and if she were to go crying to other dancers, they would likely tell her to piss off as well. Pretty much how it has worked in my regular clubs. Never had a dancer, bartender/maid, bouncer problem. I try to know the owner or at east the # 1 manager as quickly as I can.
Another dancer wasn't that persistent all in one night. However she didn't seem to want to take no for an answer. On following visits she didn't give up. I resorted to saying things like I didn't want to spend any money on lap dances. She offered to do it for free if I didn't like it. After I said no again, she offered to take me to her home. I thought she was bluffing but decided to say no thanks anyway. She never bothered me again.
So far I only remember 3 dancers who didn't seem to understand what no or no thanks meant.
Of course sometimes you might think a dancer is bluffing when she is not. If I don't want a dance, why would I want to go home with her?
I guess there will always be some strippers who don't get it that, when they act like they are selling a high-mileage used car, it's like they're saying they have a high-mileage used ass.