There's a lot of talk on tuscl about mileage and extras, and sure, that's part of the strip club scene. There will always be that element, but trying to bank on it is just a formula for disappointment. Sure, it can be great to get that really special experience, but over the years when I look back on the most fun I've had in the clubs, it's when I put out positive energy and accept that it's just a fantasy that I end up with the most enjoyable experiences. My routine is to go in, have some drinks, chat with a few attractive outgoing ladies, take in the eye candy, and get some table dances, maybe a VIP dance if a girl is really my type. And that's it. I don't force the moment or try to make anything happen. If there's nobody there attractive enough, I don't do any dances. I make it a point to tip every girl on stage at least once, and am polite and funny because that is what comes back to me most of the time as a result. I'm not telling anyone how to approach the clubs or what to do/not to – I'm just saying what's worked for me. If I want sex, I'll go pick up someone or get a professional. If I want a diversion from reality, some beers and maybe a few laughs with some beautiful scenery, then I'm off to the strip club. I like the lights, I like the music, I like the party vibe. Anything more is a bonus. And the bottom line for me is accepting that while it's a profession for the girls and management, it's all about the fantasy for the customers. And what a fantasy it can be.
That sounds like my approach as well. Since my club isn't an extras club to begin with, I'm happy to just spend a couple hours in a fun universe. Whatever happens beyond that is the gravy!
Last night I got dances with a dancer who usually assist me in depositing dna in the CR and I didn't make a deposit, but I did have a blast. Life is a buffett where everything tastes good so enjoy it all and never assume or expect because that's where disappoint starts.
If you go only expecting to get off you would be better and cheap at an AMP or escort. Part of clubbing is the eye candy and the low pressure. I have gone to a club to just relax have a beer, watch the stage and watch a game on TV. I do not enjoy clubs that play porn instead of sports on the TV's.
I have to agree with Merle on this one. Most of the time I go, it's just to hang out and enjoy a fantasy. Of course, I am a regular at a club where extras happen, but even with that, extras are not that predictable because not every girl delivers there, plus lately, that place has just become too unpredictable in terms of who's dancing.
I'm with you Merle. With the propensity of dancers to provide extras during the last 2 years when I frequented clubs, I made it a goal to just go with the flow this year and not so much in hunting mode for extras. That said, my exoenses have remained the same, though I would say that I'm meeting more and different girls, and still having a good time. I don't turn away the once in a while extra though.
Wow. I feel like I have warped into some bizarre alternate reality. Am I where I think I am?
I for one don't pay for a fantasy. I pay to be entertained. Now that entertainment comes in different forms and not every night in a club is a FS affair, but OTC is where I often hope to be and I get there often enough to keep me happy. If clubs were nothing more than eye candy spots, then I would probably go far less often than I do.
Now I think we all know that strippers are less reliable than escorts, but those of us who choose to do p4p with strippers instead of escorts have a number of reasons for doing so, which have been discussed around here at great length.
In any event, to each his own and if you are getting what you want then good for you.
RickyBoy: "I for one don't pay for a fantasy. I pay to be entertained."
Like when RickyBoy paid a girl $125 just to talk to him for an hour and a half. Think the guy who invented The System could do better than that, but then again, The System is just a bunch of faggotry anyway.
The word “fantasy†in the context of dancers kinda makes me cringe a bit.
More often than not I hear dancers; and in particular SW dancers; use this word as a means to sorta justify low mileage and/or air dances. Some dancers seem to think it’s ok for the custy to just “fantasize†about what he would like the dancer to do rather than her actually doing it – and for him to pay up for this “fantasyâ€.
I don’t want to “fantasize†about getting what I want – I either get it or don’t get it – but I’m not going to pay *real* $$$ to fantasize about getting what I want.
I’m personally not much of an extras guy; but I do want and like VHM/UHM dances and a club visit where I don’t get this is often an unfulfilling visit for me personally.
There is a reason why extras are offered in a SC and why high-contact is the norm for the most part in most places.
But in the end – it’s w/e floats one’s boat – we all have different personalities and preferences.
LOL Fraudster. While you were stalking other men on a strip club website, no doubt as close as you actually get to one of those places, I did indeed pay a beautiful and entertaining girl $125 for her efforts. So? It wasn't exactly a fortune and she was well worth it.
I see why so many guys do not visit strip clubs. They think it's all about fantasy. When I visit I want a real girl in my lap and titties in my face. Then we can move on from there. Fantasy could kick in if you think every girl is available or you start thinking she lives a carefree life, doesn't use drugs, or smoke, has no boyfriend, no kids or that everything is rosy and she just loves to strip so much, she can't wait to take it all off for you because she likes to be naked all the time but there are stupid laws getting in the way.
I'm not going to pretend she's hot, she has to really be hot. I'm not going to just imagine touching her, the internet is a free way of doing that.
The fantasy comes in here and there. I wonder if there's an ounce of truth in it when she says I'm special, not like other custies. Or if it's anything more than play-acting when she closes her eyes and tilts her head back.
Fantasy comes from intimacy and the overflowing of horniness (wtf). It has to come from there.
I can't imagine myself getting caught up in the moment without that present from the dancer. There is no way I will go around it and say 'Hey looks like we are here.'
The willingness of the dancer to be caressed and kissed around the neck area going down to the navel, light touches from your fingertips.
You get the idea. That is how to start it and then what?
@ranukan, @corvus: we're talking about a rare item here. Strip club twins (Porcelain Twins) are kinda rare and they should be like "Damn, at least once I will get a chance." kinda experience.
Anyway, I remember it was always Amber who was nice and going my direction when at the rail. But then I made a bad pick because I couldn't not tell which one.
The Twins add to the fantazzy, definitely. Would I get another from them? I dunno.
I think it's the guys who tend to inappropriately fall in love who better keep telling themselves that it's a fantasy. That's not a problem of mine, and I don't go to the club for a fantasy. I go for a good time, and while there to find a girl I am attracted to and adore and to then MOVE HER OTC where a whole 'nother kind of fun happens. Nothing fantasy about it. But again, I'm not fantasizing that she's in love with me, or falling in love with her, so I don't have to sweat metadiscussions about whether it's fantasy or not.
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No disappointment or frustration there, just simply letting it flow.
Unless there's a connection, there's no intimacy and no fantasy. And a little self-control can save you from wasting your dough on the wrong lady.
I for one don't pay for a fantasy. I pay to be entertained. Now that entertainment comes in different forms and not every night in a club is a FS affair, but OTC is where I often hope to be and I get there often enough to keep me happy. If clubs were nothing more than eye candy spots, then I would probably go far less often than I do.
Now I think we all know that strippers are less reliable than escorts, but those of us who choose to do p4p with strippers instead of escorts have a number of reasons for doing so, which have been discussed around here at great length.
In any event, to each his own and if you are getting what you want then good for you.
Like when RickyBoy paid a girl $125 just to talk to him for an hour and a half. Think the guy who invented The System could do better than that, but then again, The System is just a bunch of faggotry anyway.
More often than not I hear dancers; and in particular SW dancers; use this word as a means to sorta justify low mileage and/or air dances. Some dancers seem to think it’s ok for the custy to just “fantasize†about what he would like the dancer to do rather than her actually doing it – and for him to pay up for this “fantasyâ€.
I don’t want to “fantasize†about getting what I want – I either get it or don’t get it – but I’m not going to pay *real* $$$ to fantasize about getting what I want.
I’m personally not much of an extras guy; but I do want and like VHM/UHM dances and a club visit where I don’t get this is often an unfulfilling visit for me personally.
There is a reason why extras are offered in a SC and why high-contact is the norm for the most part in most places.
But in the end – it’s w/e floats one’s boat – we all have different personalities and preferences.
A dancer has to be horny to sell a fantasy.
Guess Im going to have a horny dancer in front of me spinning around the pole.
Finally figured out The Porcelain Twins, who is Heather and Amber. I won't tell because it should remain a secret.
@Ranukam: I'm sure you know the Twins, care to tell me how to figure who is who?
The fantasy comes in here and there. I wonder if there's an ounce of truth in it when she says I'm special, not like other custies. Or if it's anything more than play-acting when she closes her eyes and tilts her head back.
I can't imagine myself getting caught up in the moment without that present from the dancer. There is no way I will go around it and say 'Hey looks like we are here.'
The willingness of the dancer to be caressed and kissed around the neck area going down to the navel, light touches from your fingertips.
You get the idea. That is how to start it and then what?
Anyway, I remember it was always Amber who was nice and going my direction when at the rail. But then I made a bad pick because I couldn't not tell which one.
The Twins add to the fantazzy, definitely. Would I get another from them? I dunno.