My CF just said something strange to me. Anyone care to interpret?

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CaptDan
I met my CF in October of last year. For the past month or so, we've been having lap dances with the intent of me LDKing. (It was actually her idea. Her grinding abilities are ridiculous, by the way.) Anyway, last night in the middle of a dance, she leans in and says she wants me to start whispering filthy things to her, what I'd do to her if I could. So I did.

Shortly after we met, she gave me her phone number. It was mostly restricted to text messaging her about her work schedule, and we didn't really talk about anything else. Once in while, if one of use had a particularly shitty day, we'd send a text or two about it, but that's really it. Anyway, after the dance ends, she says to me, "I want you to call me tonight after I get done work. I want to talk about what you just said to me and we can see where things go." Unfortunately, she was nearly arrested last night after work (or so she says), so we never got to talk. She texted me earlier today saying to call her again tonight after she's done work. (Which is in about 2 hours) She still wants to talk about the same things as last night.

Of course, the first thing that popped into my mind was she's about to offer me OTC extras. Here's the problem with that theory: There's two issues. One, back in October, I was telling her about this one cam girl I know who offered to let me fuck her for $4000. Her response to that was, "That's disgusting. I could never have sex for money, I have too much pride in myself for that." and, just last week, she said, "This job has ruined me on sex. I can't remember the last time I've wanted to have sex with someone. There's no desire there at all for me anymore."

Okay, guys, what do you think is going to happen when I call her in a few hours? OTC Extras doesn't quite feel right, given her previous statements. Then again, nothing quite feels right given those two statements she told me. I'm just trying to get some idea of what to expect, you know?

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SlickSpic
11 years ago
She's gonna ask you for some KFC, XXXTRA-KRISPAY!
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ilbbaicnl
11 years ago
Me personally, I would think I had a better chance of a good time taking a shot with an escort from the internet.

Is there anything about this chick that's especially hot to you?
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motorhead
11 years ago
A woman says something a man can't understand? Shocking! Positively shocking!
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Papi_Chulo
11 years ago
I have to be honest – unfortunately I tend to be a glass-half-empty kinda guy.

Is there a significant age difference b/w the 2 of you?

Of course there is no way to say for sure; but I’d be tempted to think she may be reeling you in – most dancers get involved OTC for financial reasons IMO – whether overtly or not – so I would def have that in mind if she starts telling you about life issues requiring $$$ (even if she does not overtly come out and ask; she may just throw it out there hoping you’d bite).

Then again; many dancers probably date; or have dated guys (non P4P) they met at the club. Do you normally score with women of the caliber of this dancer? If not, more reason to be cautious as to her true intentions.

Just my 2 cents.
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CaptDan
11 years ago
As for age difference, yeah. I'm 14 years older than she is. I seriously doubt she wants to date me. I've seen pictures of her exes, and they all look nothing like me at all. They all look like guido douches, really. I, on the other hand, am a fat comic book t shirt wearing nerd. (Though you'd be surprised at how much attention an X-Men or Avengers shirt gets. A different stripper there took her boot off once to show me an X-Men tattoo she had on her calf.)

Anyway, the girl who I'm supposed to be calling soon is maybe a 6.5 or 7, which is right in the range of what I can normally get.

Finally, as for if anything about her is "particularly hot", um, kind of. I think she's cute and she can use an aerial hoop, so that's pretty hot. (This is someone using an aerial hoop: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7ke9s3NU4… in case you've never seen it before. The girl in that video is a _lot_ better at it than my CF, though.) Appearance wise, though, she's maybe a bit above average. There's definitely girls at the club who are way hotter than she is.

I think I hit all the major questions that were asked of me.
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rh48hr
11 years ago
Just go into the conversation with your eyes open. Don't get reeled into giving her money. If she offers P4P, go for it if it's not too expensive. But don't offer money and if she asks for a loan tell her you don't have any disposable income. She may offer otc to loosen your wallet.

If she just needs some dirty talk accept it for what it is and enjoy it if your into that kind of thing.
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Alucard
11 years ago
Ignore anyone talking about KFC.

I believe that it will be about money in some way, shape or form in the end.
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pabloantonio
11 years ago
I think she is finally ready to fuck your brains out.

Enjoy the experience.
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Alucard
11 years ago
^^^ At some COST, as I doubt it will be free Pablo. LOL
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sofaking87
11 years ago
I suspect that it's an appeal for money, hopefully she'll trade you sex for that cash.
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CaptDan
11 years ago
She hasn't ever really asked me for money, though. Well, not directly. She'll passively aggressively hint she needs money (and sometimes gets it from me), but has never just directly said, "Can I have money?"

But I'm starting to wonder if she's messing with me. Last night, the cops were harassing her, tonight she sends me an imessage from her ipad saying she lost her phone and can't find it to talk to me.

So, who the fuck knows? I think if she wanted something (like money), she'd have borrowed someone else's phone to talk. Who knows?
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SlickSpic
11 years ago
@Captain Dan-Strippers are notoriously unreliable. Never take it personal when a stripper flakes. GMD said it best-Get involved with a stripper and understand where you stand in her totem pole. I paraphrased
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jackslash
11 years ago
This bitch sounds too flaky. Find a better looking stripper and fuck her. Don't pay more than $300
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SlickSpic
11 years ago
@Jack-I knew this flakey stripper. I bought her some Head n Shoulders after she gave me head and I busted nuts all over her shoulders. No more dandruff.
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georgmicrodong
11 years ago
Why is she being "harassed" by the cops? Drug issues? Driving without a license or insurance? Child protection stuff?

When she said "I want you to call me tonight after I get done work. I want to talk about what you just said to me and we can see where things go," what specifically was she talking about? Did you describe a specific sex act, or the kind of sex you like, or maybe the kind of sex you thought *she* likes, or what?

Maybe you turned her on enough (stranger things happened) that she's rethinking the "ruined for sex" comment and starting to overlook your age and fat nerdiness. My AFT is 25 years my junior, and I'm probably at least as overweight as you but, for reasons that I've outlined elsewhere, I believe she enjoyed what we were doing.

On the other hand, as long as you're prepared for a con, and avoid getting yourself into a sticky situation, such as going to her place so her guido boyfriend can rob you, you should be OK, especially as long as it's only talking.

Hell, maybe she just wants some pointers she can use when she goes to work for the phone sex company.
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Estafador
11 years ago
Just remember this...you're not trying to start these phone conversations...she is. So your not the PL in this situation. Sounds like she wants some phone sex....nothing more. I wouldn't stress it. Unless you asking to talk with her over the phone, none of this is your problem. Just say OK whenever she does lose her phone. If she was serious, she wouldn't keep losing her phone. Hell, the harassment is probably true. Do you ask her to explain the harassment in detail?
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CaptDan
11 years ago
Oh hell NO, @georgemicrodong. She lives in New Jersey, in Trenton. There is no way in fuck I'm going to Trenton to see her. So I don't have to worry about her tricking me into going to her place and robbing me or something. Hell, I'd be more worried about getting car jacked by random lowlifes on the way to her place, honestly. You couldn't pay me enough to go to Trenton.

As for cop harassment, she won't say. The only thing I know is it was a traffic stop of some kind. Once again, she says she needs to go to Wildwood to see some relative later today and will call me after that. She also says she fell asleep as soon as she got home last night and it was her sister fucking with me over text message, not her. (I actually believe this because she never uses punctuation in her texts and whoever was texting me last night was using periods.)

Either way, I think I'm giving up on this. I have enough stress in my life right now. If she actually calls, she calls. There's a new girl at the club who is a 9 or 9.5. I should just try to get with her, I think.
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rattdog
11 years ago
you are right about Trenton - the capital of nj is downright a shithole of a city. just waiting for a train to get back to new York is kind creepy. you see dudes scoping around looking like they are trying to plan a grab and run. even a documentary on cable was aired on the gangs that are in Trenton. maybe not as bad as Camden but probably almost as bad as Newark.
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georgmicrodong
11 years ago
@CaptDan: Well, like I said, as long as you're thinking with the head on your shoulders, you should be OK. If she wants sex, she'll let you know. If she wants money and is willing to trade sex, she'll let you know. If she wants money and doesn't want to trade anything, she won't let you know, but it shouldn't be too hard to figure that out.

And what's so stressful about a girl who wants to talk about sexy stuff? If she does great, if she doesn't so what?
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