Dancers fishing for compliments
shadowcatAtlanta suburb
Last week a dancer asked me how I liked her new hair color. She has died it blue. I thought that it looked like shit but remembering my married days, I told her it looked great. I don't think that there is anything to gain by telling them the truth. Just tell them what they want to hear.
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last commentWhich club was this babe at? Blue hair sounds kinda cool!
Women love compliments. So do I. Who wants to hear the truth?
Does this dress make me look fat?
I don't like blue, yellow, pink or any other unordinary hair colors. It just doesn't look good on most women IMO.
I like the traditional...black, brown and blonde hair colors
It was done out of kindness not malice. I would've responded in a similar manner.
Shadowcat, I don't know about you man, but ladies like it when I keep it real. And I usually have no filter so it doesn't matter for me. I remember I told a girl (in a semi-nice way) that her hair is fucked up and she thanked me because she would get a lot of people lying to her even though she felt otherwise. Told a girl very bluntly that her necklace is ugly. She spited me at first; thirty minutes later, she asked my opinion on a new necklace and more. Telling ya man, ladies love honest opinions.
I'm honest with my ATF since we're friends, but the other dancers I'm polite even if I'm groaning inside. I suppose hair can be changed, but if a dancer has a stupid boob job and asks if I like them, I'll say yes.
Blue hair is strange, but at least she's not a red head.
Tumble wears a dress? No wonder he tries to putn on a tough guy act around here
I bet you didn't mind the blue hair so much when you were watching it bob up and down in your lap. ;)
@rockstar, I agree. If it's something that can't be changed there's probably a lot of downside to being honest. Boob job, bad haircut, bad dye job, or if it's her gunt making her look fat and not the dress. It's not like she can go into the dressing room and fix it in 5 minutes.
But if it's a dumb necklace (like in estafador's example), ugly dress, then being honest at least shows one isn't a total kiss-ass PL.
The only thing she is fishing for is your wallet by resurrecting a dead conversation. 90% of initial conversations are BRUTAL, but a good sales person does not take no for an answer. On the flip, you do sometimes find that 10%.
If it doesn’t look good; I’ll tactfully say so for her sake b/c it could end up hurting her business.
Plus; if there is a way she can look better; why not make her aware of it.
I don't tell her what she wants to hear, I tell it like it is.
Blue hair looks good on a Smurf.
I would have asked her age. If she inquired why I would have told her that 22 years ago I went on a bender and fucked a parrot. I was afraid she might be my offspring.
I am a fan of the basic real colors, but I've seen Blue and Purple go well on the rare person.
I find that the situation dictates whether I tell them the truth or I smooth it over.
If it means that I'll get a better lapdance I'll tell them just about anything that they want to hear.
Breasts by Dow Corning
Hair by Crayola
Lips by a backhand.
Lol motor and slick
I prefer bubble gum pink to blue, but blue can work.
"Personally I like it, but most customers might be too uptight for it" should be in your custy phrasebook. Probably custy-crap cause you don't actually like it. So what.
Do we need to add CC to the glossary?
Dancers quickly learn not to ask me such questions, if they don't want to know the answer, because I tell it like it is. The questions I get asked most often are
"Do you like my new hairstyle?" or other hair changes
"How do you like this dress?"
"How do I compare to whatever dancer?" or "What makes you want dances from this other dancer?"
In each case I'll let her know. Often when asking about other dancers, the dancer uses what I tell her and she gets better. The few times a dancer has gotten ticked off because I told her why I like the other dancer, it hasn't been any loss, because the dances haven't been that good.
The only blue haired ladies I know are in their 80s. Why would a 20something dancer want artificially colored old lady hair?
@dallas that entire post sounds backwards as hell
A better comment would have been: I was so busy ogling your incredible body I never even noticed you had a face let alone hair.
I got a lap dance from a young dancer with blue hair. I made a comment about her hair. It looked interesting. Reminded me of an alien girl. I didn't tell her that. I think I just told her she had a sci fi look to her. The only reason I could think of for blue hair is that she wants to be different.