End of monogamy

"So in this new high tech world of available pussy, is monogamy still a possibility?"

Yes Sir it is. It is a matter of personal belief, personal choice, and personal honor in not betraying the person you are married to, or engaged to, or in a SERIOUS committed relationship. It doesn't matter how available the woman is. Or how the technology enhances that availability. You as an individual make the decision to commit to a monogamous relationship or NOT to commit to one.

@Alucard: Curious, have you ever been married for any length of time?

I used to pass judgement just like you (on fidelity and many other issues) until I gained more experience on the realities of life.

Now, I don't judge so much.

"Polygamy" is not synonymous with "dishonorable" or "unfaithful", nor is "monogamy" a synonym for "honor" or "fidelity".

Anyone who automatically associates any of those is ignorant of the meanings of the words.

No, I have never been married. I was in a relationship that was serious and might have lead to marriage.

The point Sir is that this is something I believe in deeply, based on my observations of the world and life for many decades. I express it here because it appears that many members don't seem to believe in or honor a commitment to another person that they are in a serious committed relationship with. They appear to just want to run around & fuck whoever they please, whenever they please. It is simply MY opinion. I have NO way to impose my opinion on anyone, and it is NOT my place to impose it on anyone. I simply hope to get people who do commit infidelity or have no intention of being in a monogamous relationship to perhaps reconsider their actions and think about the emotional impact on the betrayed person.

I believe that monogamy is possible. and it is a personal choice & decision.

Your opinion only gmd. Since you appear to not wish to be monogamous based only your past postings, I'm not surprised at the opinion you expressed. And it is typically one that OPPOSES my opinion Sir.

" I simply hope to get people..." That is not expressing an opinion Alucard. That's being a preacher trying to convert people to YOUR way of thinking. Post things that you believe in and actually like, and cut out the YOU SHOULD and YOU SHOULD NOT crap!

"Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same thing."--Oscar Wilde

According to OP, I am not like most men since I don't just take any pussy that walks up to me. Smell and hygiene is a super big factor along with looks.

@Estie: The OP did qualify it as "fine" pussy.

@OP: On the one hand, some of the "costs" of monogamy will decrease over time. Risk of STDs or unwanted pregnancies will decrease. Right now there are abortions but that is mostly the woman's decision. If man cheats and knocks up a woman and she goes through with it and demands child support! I'm thinking of something on the male end that they could take that would render their all sperm infertile for the period they were having sex. I'm Merck is working on it right now. :-)

OTOH, there will always be costs of polygamy and it's not clear to me which side is the worse off. Males could lose if their woman gets impregnated by another man he unwittingly raises it. Women risk their man deciding that not only do they like that woman just for a fling but actually want to leave their partner for her. Actually men risk that too, but I think men are programmed to want more partners, so I guess the cost/benefits will continue to favor monogamy due, mostly, to the "falling in love" risk.

@Estafador: lol. No, "opportunity" would be defined as being able to fuck objects of our desire, not the hag emptying trash for maintenance.

Lots of dudes will testify to being faithful but if they had a smoking hot 23 y/o babydoll as an option, most would cave eventually.

Alutard: "No, I have never been married. I was in a relationship that was serious"

"and might have lead to marriage"

How much did you spend in this hooker total that it was considered serious?

"and might have lead to marriage"

Ah, yes, if she only got off the streets and your weekend passes from the asylum were permanent... A shame...

@gmd +1 concise and nicely stated.

Alucard states the obvious = 'it's his opinion' in order to give himself another opportunity to shift focus to himself and be critical and argumentative.

Alucard, just state your opinion and then shut up.

Monogamy is still viable.

Sure there may be more avenues for availability than ever before, but lack of avenues has never been a problem for somebody seeking infidelity, particularly if paying for it was included. It isn't called the oldest profession for nothing. Yes there may not have been extras readily available in the VIP room but there were massage parlors and streetwallkers and whorehouses. Incall and outcall escorts were not an invention of the internet. They were in yellow pages and classifieds in streetcorner newspapers.

Monagamy is a choice

@jackslash - wasn't Oscar Wilde gay?

It isn't a large percentage of men that go to strip clubs in the first place, an even smaller percentage indulge in extras, so if your argument is based on the availability of P4P monogamy is just as viable as it ever was.

"At no other time in history has fine pussy been more easily accessible than now."

You need to read up on your history. Pussy was far more available at all times in US history up until WWI. We're just now starting to return to normal after a hundred year slump.

The exclusive pair bond was meant to make sure kids had two devoted parents. It was a limited success at best in accomplishing that. Obsolete not with birth control.

Maybe it was also meant to prevent VD.

@duo--Oscar Wilde, I think, should be classified as bi-sexual. He was married and had children, but he also had gay lovers. His affair with an aristocratic young man led to a scandalous trial and his imprisonment for homosexuality. Wilde's life and career were ruined by the laws of Victorian England.

No Alucard, it really is not "[my] opinion only". The definitions of "monogamy" and "polygamy" are pretty clear and available in most any dictionary. Try oed.com or dictionary.com, for example. Neither definition precludes being faithful or unfaithful, honorable or dishonorable. The world is replete with examples of unfaithful monogamists and faithful polygamists.

In point of fact, you are also wrong about me personally. I can be, and am, faithful (in the actual definition of the word, not the definition improperly conflated with the concept of marriage; see above links) in my monogamous marriage. I can, and do, enjoy a polyamorous lifestyle without being unfaithful to my wife.

I realize that might be hard for someone like you to fully believe, lying as far outside your experience as it does, but it is true nonetheless.

To your point however, I do often disagree with you, but that's because you're often wrong, jumping to conclusions and making unwarranted assumptions, especially about people you've never met, and not because of any dislike I might harbour towards you.

my experience of monogamy came to a halt in 2011. and since then... having enjoyed many ladies... to go back to monogamy would be next to impossible.

@justme62: I tend to agree with you. After 30+ years of polyamory, returning to sexual monogamy would, I think, be very difficult.

Fortunately, it doesn't look like there will be any need for that any time soon.

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"Stop necroposting"

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