Am I right to be kind of offended?

8/19/2013 3:54:30 PM

I haven't been on TUSCL in a long time (looks like things haven't changed, btw - not sure if that's a good or a bad thing! lol). I also haven't been clubbing in about half a year because I've been busy taking care of work and life and everything, but things are starting to clear up and I have some cash to spare, so I shot a text to a dancer I had been seeing fairly often for about two years before things started getting so hectic. She let me know that she's now in a relationship so she won't be providing the same services she used to, and that one of her friends (who I used to also get extras from who was quickly on her way to becoming my ATF) is now engaged so she won't get me in touch with her (I had seen her several times but never got her number).

They moved clubs, and, when I prompted about where they had gone to so I could at least see them again, she responded that the club they had moved to now was "clean" and that she'd prefer not to tell me which club so that it would stay that way. Not wanting to blow it up, I simply wished her well and cleaned the contact off my list.

Now, I don't consider myself a particularly unsavory person. I go to clubs for the same reasons many TUSCLers go to clubs, but I keep well groomed, dress well, tip well and am very courteous. I know it probably wasn't her intention, but the implication there was that by inviting me to her new club, I would somehow turn it into some brothel which is I guess what they were trying to escape. But as a long-time loyal customer, I don't even get the damn courtesy of knowing where they are so I can stop by and say hi? Not because I want extras, but because I genuinely want to see them?

Seems kind of fucked up in my opinion. Am I overreacting here or am I justified in being kind of upset by this?

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tumblingdice

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11 years ago

They don't have S/O's,they are simply licking each other.And you didn't tip that well.Trust me onthis one.

deogol

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11 years ago

Did you expect a real friendship with OTC?

JohnSmith69

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11 years ago

My guess is that you have such a large penis they just couldn't take the thought of you entering them again. Either that or you are not as great of a tipping benefactor as you think

Alucard

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11 years ago

Move on, it is their LOSS regarding potential income from you.

gatorfan

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11 years ago

A clean stripper I bet

duomaxwell

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11 years ago

Don't take this the wrong way, but maybe seeing you would bring up unpleasant memories and feelings for them. Kind of like seeing an ex-boyfriend, but one that paid you to blow him in a strip club.

Papi_Chulo

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11 years ago

Yeah. As Duo and others have said â€“ perhaps they are trying to clean up their act and you coming around w/ your generous tipping may be too much of a temptation and they may fall back to their sucking ways?

zipman68

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11 years ago

Or you turn 'em on TOO MUCH and they are a-scared o' falling for you! Just tell yourself that my friend.

Or text her again and tell her you'll pay her $5000 for an ATM experience, just like in the pornos! Maybe that will turn her on!

goodsouthernboy

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11 years ago

I'm with Bullwinkle and Papi.... It seems as tho I generally tend to agree with these two.

sharkhunter

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11 years ago

I wouldn't take it personal. Dancers sometimes change clubs and don't bother to tell most of their customers where they went to. Sometimes if business sucks at the other club, they come back. If you had their phone number and were staying in touch, then you probably would have already known where they went.

sharkhunter

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11 years ago

I believe for a dancer two weeks might seem like two months if their life is hectic. 6 months might seem like 5 years to some other people without hectic lives. I'm not sure. Maybe I got too close and it seemed like life was in the super fast lane.

An alternative to find out where she went is to see if she left any friends behind at the old club. You could always sneak some questions in like if you weren't dancing here, are there some other clubs you thought about? She might let it slip, one club might be where her old friend works. Some dancers and females are sneaky with prying information out so turnaround is fair play IMO. If the other club is far away. Sorry.

georgmicrodong

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11 years ago

Just take it at face value. They're trying to put that part of their lives behind them, and since you're part of that, you need to stay behind too. Even if she's lying, so what? All good things must come to an end.

ilbbaicnl

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11 years ago

@shark why would you want to find a dancer who has told you she doesn't want your near her?

@endless Maybe she and her friend are now clean, but the new club is not completely clean. It's in her interest that the extras dancers (current or would-be) don't bank and decide to quit, so she doesn't have to compete with extras. So, from her point of view, bad idea to bring a custy she knows is in the market for extras to her new club.

Also, she may have, in good faith to her promises to her new SO, told him (her?) who her old regulars are, so he could be sure she wasn't seeing any of them any more.

snakeguy

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11 years ago

These kind of "relationships" are always somewhat temporary, I am sure there are many other dancers who would appreciate getting to know you. That is in fact one of the advantages to strip clubs, you get variety. Move on and don't take it personally.

grand1511

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11 years ago

Move on, there are 20 new younger girls ready to replace those two from your memory bank.

SuperDude

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11 years ago

Dancers are fickle. Don't even attempt to understand their irrational behavior. Move on.

rh48hr

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11 years ago

I agree with super dude.

sharkhunter

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11 years ago

I was just saying that if you wanted to satisfy curiosity. Probably not a great idea to actually find her.

I once had a dancer I liked get ticked off at me and she quit and worked somewhere else a couple of months. One of her old friends told me where she was working. It satisfied my curiosity. I didn't want to contact her. I wanted to avoid running into her. A couple of months later she returned acting like nothing happened. I told her I was not some kind of sugar daddy and the first time she wanted me to buy something other than lap dances, she gets ticked off at me. I simply told her no,no, no. Some people do not have accurate expectations.

Experimental

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11 years ago

My guess is she isn't telling you the real story. But then, who cares? An OTC stripper is easier to replace than a light bulb. Go find a new one and stop being so butthurt cuz your old one moved on when you disappeared and ended the business relationship. And if you're looking for a girlfriend or even just a friend, strippers ain't it so no, you aren't right to be even slightly offended.

duomaxwell

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11 years ago

@grand1511 I like the implication that younger equals better

SlickSpic

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11 years ago

It sucks when you're late to the show and most of what you wanna say has already been said. What Bullwinkle & Duo said.

BigTuna1

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11 years ago

Rabbit21

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11 years ago

I'm with duo, take it at face value that she's trying to put the past behind her and move on.

tumblingdice

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11 years ago

Cheese and crackers boys,we are talking about strippers here.Whats with the mind meld with someone who creeped them out,under tipped,shit himself?How many Dr. Phil's can there be?

Estafador

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11 years ago

Like you bro, they have done things with your life. They found means of finding better routes of income just as you had to take responfor what is important. And especially since you called up well beyond the time they decided to clean up their act, they like their new lifestyle and don't want temptation of seedy ways (that would be you) to ruin their comfortable way of living especially for a few extra bucks. They obviously have a head on their shoulders and don't want to fall back into their drug habit (you) and even worse if they do then the rest of the club will just to keep up. And she is being a good friend by protecting her friend from unsavory elements. After all your comment and actions made her assume you aren't the friend she needs even if your last intention is to truly say hi and bye. Caution is now a necessity in her life. You probably did see her as a friend only (or a special acquaintance) but friends come and go. No need to dilute the pure after all.

Gosh darn it that was unnecessarily wordy.

looneylarry

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11 years ago

I'm not so sure that the OP has to take it for face value. After all, most of what a dancer says is shaded for one reason or another. If you aren't so sure about that, go over to the pink site and read how helpless, pathetic, and misguided we all are. Most of our responses and the OP's responses assume that what he was told was all true. It may have been mostly a crap story that she concocted to put distance between them, for whatever reason, whether it was self-survival, or not getting entangled that way again, or whatever. Don't take it personally, since it is and always will be a business. A leopard can't change its spots, strippers will roll out whoppers, so there is no need to get pissed about it.

3LeggedMan

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11 years ago

OP, I understand your predicament. My last ATF just up and left the club, taking 2 coworkers with her. Tho I have her number she never responded to my 4-5 text messages. Since then I declared her gone and went about trying out new girls with similar attributes. Over the past month, one of the replacements has offered BBFS ITC (which I declined) and another hottie provided BBBJ in VIP on a recent visit. Moral is: Life goes on. It can take time and money to groom a new fave, but it's way better than grieving what wasn't meant to be.

endlesstempo

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11 years ago

Thanks guys. I feel better about it now after giving it some time to sit. On the truthfulness issue, I believe that this girl is in a relationship now. Her personal facebook is open to public so I admit I have looked at it on occasion. As for her friend who is supposedly engaged, I'll never know.

But that's okay. I'll bounce back from it and get right back to doing what we do. Thanks for the wakeup call guys. Damn, I missed TUSCL lol.

rubberjosh

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11 years ago

Well...forget them. If "STAR" is still at The Harem in Dayton...go see her...she'll sure take care of you...all the way. I haven't been there for awhile...anyone know if STAR is still at the Harem?

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