Ethical Question Number Whatever -- The Non-working Boyfriend
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Keep it in my pants when I do OTC. If I were a stripper it would stand for I like big bucks and I can not lie.
Is being a customer to a dancer with a slacker BF or husband sketchy? Like being a customer to a dancer who's an alcoholic or a drug addict?
A lot of dancers on stripperweb talk about their boyfriend with a horse cock. They like to say the guy's a "musician" or something, rather than he has no real job. That sounds OK, if I had a hot girlfriend/sugar baby, I would pay her bills as much as I could, not worry if she had no job, not even if she was doing other guys. I wouldn't consider that I was being used. A few dancers I've meet have "Mr. Mom" BFs/husbands, who just take care of the kids and the house, so also a case of reversal of traditional sex roles.
So, do we not worry about it, unless it becomes obvious the guy is a straight-up pimp?
A lot of dancers on stripperweb talk about their boyfriend with a horse cock. They like to say the guy's a "musician" or something, rather than he has no real job. That sounds OK, if I had a hot girlfriend/sugar baby, I would pay her bills as much as I could, not worry if she had no job, not even if she was doing other guys. I wouldn't consider that I was being used. A few dancers I've meet have "Mr. Mom" BFs/husbands, who just take care of the kids and the house, so also a case of reversal of traditional sex roles.
So, do we not worry about it, unless it becomes obvious the guy is a straight-up pimp?
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1. The Clueless. Yes, there are those dumbass trusting souls who have no idea that their stripper "wife" is really a slut in the club. Do what you want with this guys girl, hell spend the night with your fav and he will believe she pulled a double shift. What an idiot.
2. The User. This is the typical loser, pimp of a boyfriend/husband who happily whores out his "girl" as a dancer. For him, his girl is just a another source of sex and money. Don't cross this guys hoe and everything should be ok.
3. The Bad-Ass. These bad-ass boys usually have jobs. They are sometimes ex-military, sometimes ultimate fighters, and they usually keep a military haircut or shave their head. They know their wife/girlfriend is a stripper and they know she has sex with customers, they just don't give a fuck as long as their girl comes home at the end of the shift. To them, their girl is a trophy. Don't get caught OTC banging their girl unless you want the fight of your life.
I care - I want to find out the secret to fucking hot strippers and not having to work! I wanna learn how to play Call of Duty all day long, smoke weed, and have cash handed to me.
But now speaking-seriously, my "relationships" (for lack of a better of a better word) with dancers must be different.
I have two favorites. I've known one since 2006 and the other since 2008. How can I *not* know about their personal lives?
Don't give money to that charity, they have a 80% administrative cost.
Don't patronize that dancer, she is going to __________ with her money.
Once the money leaves your hands ... you can't control where it goes. Bottom line is more than likely the dancer is lying, giving you a bunch of SS, supporting a habit (drugs, booze, deadbeat boyfriend, shopping, all of the above) etc. You are paying to support your habit, she pays to support hers ... don't try to figure it out, enjoy your habit and stay away from drama.
As for slacker BFs – it may not be that these are the guys strippers want and/or prefer – but maybe the only they can have a “relationship†with and that will “accept†what they do (women are all about and into relationships – they seem to have a greater need to have someone “love themâ€).
Ah, male ho's.
I think strippers get in relationships with these kind of guys because they know these guys won't try to tell them to stop stripping. Shit, as long as these strippers are bringing home the money, these guys wouldn't care if the strippers stripped forever.
Also strippers have a lot of self esteem issues, and some of them probably think that they don't deserve better.
I think this is it for many of them.
That or they continue to date losers because it strengthens their belief all men are loser cogs.
Dating someone who has his shit together, means facing getting her shit together.
Its also bad news if the S/O knows of her hooking with you even if she says its cool with him - he will try up the price.
A case in point: I met C in 2008 (26 at that time) as she danced at a club where I am VIP. I had sex with her in VIP (itc) and we started meeting at motels for nooners (otc), along with occasional itc. She was twice divorced and had a fiancee who was her HS sweetheart. In 2010 they married and he became her 3rd husband and stepfather to her 8 yo daughter. He has his own business (which does not pay a lot) and the family rents a nice home. Around the time of the marriage she quit dancing at the club and went into insurance and legal work where she was essentially working from home a lot of the time. She me told the marriage would not interfere with our meetings (and this is true). Her FB page was full of wedding pics from her home and backyard wedding. She also maintains a site on SeekingArrangement.com and is a friend of mine on FB where she describes the husband as a soulmate. Conversations with her she claims he never knew about her extras activities at the club or seeing me. As far as I know he does not know of her SA profile or seeing me (and possibly other customers although she claims I am only one). At times my contributions essentially paid their rent. Her FB profile describes her as self employed and loving it. It could be easily assumed that she is a married "housewife" prostitute who uses SA to attract clients. She has indicated she would rather meet for sessions vs dance at a club. She drives an upscale car which she supposed acquired slightly used from a "friend" who used to be a guy who saw her itc at the club. She claims they are not involved that she simply purchased the car from him (I believe she is probably fucking him for it). She resembles Kendra Wilkinson in looks and her performance at sessions is superior. She also has a nice tight one (go figure) which is one super pleasure box and loves to get on top. She is much smarter than the average stripper type and its the old saying "apples off the same tree" (her mother was a stripper) and "once a whore, always a whore." While at times I have considered her my mistress the more appropriate term was defined above. The key thing she keeps him under control and he is not a factor in interfering with her meeting me.