They Called Me a Stripper
jackslash
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My ATF phoned me last night, crying. She had gone to a holiday gathering with her boyfriend's family, and the family had accused her of ruining the boyfriend's life. "They ganged up on me and called me a stripper," she said.
I made the required sympathetic comments, but I wonder what she expected to be called.
I made the required sympathetic comments, but I wonder what she expected to be called.
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Yes, strippers, dancers, or whatever you call them are immoral. And people who partake of dancers sinful ways are immoral as well. (This means you too Juice).
I have a date with my fav later this week.
But, even if one is not to be judgmental, it is a bit difficult to see a guy’s family say “yeah – that is the kind of girl I want for my son – a girl who gets naked and lets strange men (and lopaw) grope them for $$$â€.
2. I always try to use the term, "dancers" rather than "strippers," especially when in the company of dancers. Sometimes for added emphasis I'll use "strippers." I had a long time fave who enlightened me as to how difficult it was working a stripper when among family and friends. At least she did a great job of raising her two kids, and owned two homes during the time I knew her, which was only for four years out of her now 16-year career as a dancer.
That said, if I thought there was something immoral about stripping, I would not go to strip clubs, because I don't want to be a hypocrite. I'd have to agree that strippers are more likely to be immoral, just like poor people are more likely to be criminals. But not all strippers are immoral, just like not all poor people are criminals.
If I could only get sexual gratification from women who found me attractive, I'd have a very serious case of the blue balls. And I'm not going to get into a committed relationship with the main goal of getting into the chick's pants. Since strippers and escorts fill an important need for me, I owe them a certain amount of respect and consideration. A flea is never better than the dog whose back its riding on.
So, even if they DID decide to out of courtesy not say anything out loud is there really any chance of her having a 'normal' relationship with her boyfriend's family once they knew her occupation? I completely doubt it.
In my experience, most people who work only for commission on sales (as strippers and escorts do) are more dishonest, manipulative, lacking in empathy, and likely to enjoy looking down on people than average. But the degree to which they are like this varies, and some are not like this at all. So selling sex or selling anything is not a reason in itself to look down on someone.
And your reason for naming her "immoral" without knowing anything about her other than her profession, along with your assumptions about her relationship with jackslash, is....?
Well, you mentioned the disease aspect, but family also tends to focus when evaluating other members boyfriends and girlfriends and whether they 'could have done better' as to whether they can provide a stable supportive relationship with their brother/son/etc. but also provide a good home life for any children. And it isn't even necessarily a moral condemnation to say that a stripper is not a good start on that. She already has you as an ATF that she can come crying to...how many others does she have.
Frankly I think is stung as much as it did because she herself is ambivalent about her sex work.
Not everybody has a neat and pretty job. Most of us get the courtesy of being able at a family gathering to leave the ugly parts of our careers away and just enjoy being away from it. She was likely hoping to be able to do the same.