There is this dancer that I have gotten dances from on the past 2 visits at one of my regular clubs. The dances are pretty decent but the thing is she doesn't hold any conversation. I know you might be saying some dancers choose not to socialize with the customer but I have seen her talk to customers when not on stage or giving dances and most of them haven't even spent any money on her. So what's up with this chick? Seems to me she is putting me(and other paying customers) in the category of a john. Don't be overfriendly just give them what they want, say thanks, and leave. I know she can't know every guy personally that I have seen her talking with. Although she doesn't go out of her way to talk to them. They just come up to her trying to "spit some game."
FONDL: I think you hit the "nail on the head." She doesn't want to take the risk of some guy possibly taking a liking to her. That's fine with me, I don't think she's got much going for her other than a nice little ass.
I think some dancers don't want to take the chance of leading a guy on, they don't want the drama that sometimes comes with having a regular and they're popular enough that they make plenty of money without it. I remember meeting a girl like that a couple years ago. When we first met I thought she was the best dancer I'd ever encountered, and I wrote a glowing review about her (see my review of The Erotic Cafe.) She gave the best private dances I've ever had. But she wouldn't sit and talk, either before or after - as soon as our dances were over she'd immediately go hang out with one of the bouncers. I stopped seeing her rather quickly.
Jpac, it's too bad you don't have more to choose from in your area. Given that fact, FONDL's suggestion is a worth a try before writing her off as a lost cause. If nothing comes of it, though, I wouldn't see any need to explain her behavior. She's probably just crazy, so you shouldn't take it personally. You can drive yourself crazy trying to figure out why a stripper doesn't act the way you want even when it would be in her own self-interest.
JPAC: That's fine, my point is it's your choice. You can buy or not buy. You can go to another club. Whatever. You can't make her act in a way she doesn't want to. You either have to deal with her the way she is or move on.
Could be one of those strippers who "plays hard to get" which is always amusing. You know what to do: Ignore her/buy dances from others until she behaves more in line with what you want.
Next time she comes over and asks if you want a dance, say yes but you'd like to buy her a drink first and get to know her a little better. I've found that a lot of dancers won't sit with you once you've bought your dances unless they know you well, they go looking for their next victim, but they are happy to sit and talk first because they know you are going to spend money on them. If she isn't willing to do that and it's important to you (it is to me), do what Yoda suggests.
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