Who's job is it to keep the conversation going?
ButterMan
Indianapolis
Who's job is it to keep the conversation going me or the stripper? It seems like it would be in her best interest to do so. Correct me if I am wrong. I went to one of my favorite tonight and a new girl named molly came and sat with me at my request. She was probably the hittest chick in the house but she couldn't seemed to keep a conversation going long enough to get me to ask for a private dance. And i had plenty of money and came in there intending on getting a dance. And if you want me to spend money on you sit on my lap and not the chair beside me! This has happened to me a few times over the years so maybe it's me:) or maybe it was because I was alone tonight. Maybe dancers just react better to a group of guys?
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As for sitting on laps - some clubs don't allow it, so dancers have to sit in a chair next to the customer.
And most every dancer that I have asked has said that they prefer lone customers over groups.
Of course all this is dependent upon even being able to have a conversation over the obscenely loud music and obnoxious DJs.
Though in most cases if that happens it means I'm ready for them to move on. Otherwise I'd keep the conversation going.
The worst is in Vegas, all the dancers are from somewhere else, they know you're from somewhere else and usually on vacation, so you end up having the same 5-10 minute conversation with every dancer that stops by.
^This. Shadow hit the nail on the head in my opinion.
Lopaw also raised some good points, particularly common discussion ground between younger dancers and older men. I am about the same age as tlk, but I find that I don't have much to talk about with most girls under 25, especially the ones who do not have kids. However, I do occasionally run into a younger dancer with more maturity and conversation skills, which is cool.
At the end of the day, regardless of why a dancer cannot hold a conversation, it is her job to entertain me, not the other way around. I have zero interest in going through mental gymnastics in order to keep a chat going. If we are not clicking, then my wallet just stays closed.
Well said Rick. That is why I left there with about $200 still in my pocket! it was a shame because this Molly girl is way hot! She could have probably got most of it. And i did actually go through the silly basic question like how long have long you been working here..etc. Oh well i'll try again in 2 weeks.
As others said if I have an interest I'll try and keep the conversation flowing. I'm in my early 50's and have no problems with discussion topics with MOST girls 30 years younger. Sometimes you do run into an airhead, whether it's real or just her schtick.
If it's forced, move on. Plenty 'o fish...
Generally speaking, my aim in a strip club is to get my dick sucked, or to get her out of the club for some sex. If I'm interested in her and she can't talk her way out of a paper bag, I'm more than happy to carry the conversation. Is it *nice* when she's reasonably good at conversation skills? Sure, but it doesn't really matter, and asking leading questions to get her to talk ain't that tough.
I sure as hell don't have the time or patience to get all wrapped around the axle concerning the way things are "supposed" to be when the alternative doesn't cost me shit and leads to what I want.
What tells you the window is open? What are the signs?
You stated, "I wouldn't expect a 20yo to be able to easily maintain a flowing conversation with a 60yo man."
On that note, I was somewhat flummoxed yesterday when a youngster (at least compared to me) dancer quite easily conversed with me going back to the great depression and onward!
There might be hope for this next generation after all!
I have, on occasion, run into very young dancers that seemed to have "old" souls....they were very mellow, didn't party much, and didn't act or speak like a typical flakey 18-20yo girl would. Many of these girls would be considered alt girls - into goth, tats, piercings, etc. Cool chicks nonetheless.
Unfortunately for me, it seems that the latest batch of 18-21yo dancers that have found their way to my table are stoner valley-girls......even I have trouble maintaining a conversation with them, and I can talk to just about anyone.
LOL gmd. I hear what you are saying, but in my experience the girls who struggle to hold a conversation are either less prone to go the extra mile or are cold/dead fish when they do provide other services. Net-net, on this particular topic, I find the conventional wisdom to also serve as a useful filter.
As with all things, however, experiences will differ.