How far does this go...
Wednesday, July 11, 2012 3:57 PM
Well, after reading everything I could on this site and the pink site the past
two or three weeks now,I've decided to tell my story and get some opinions.
I know I always liked reading the tales of woe some have,so here's mine...
About a year ago I went to a SC for the first time in probably 20 years,after urging
from others to "get out".My buddy that was also going cancelled last minute, so I said
WTF I'll just go myself. So after some idle chit chat from a couple girls, over
walks a tall leggy blonde with gorgeous blue eyes.We talk for awhile,yes I tipped her
for her time,lol.We both had recently suffered a similar life changing event,so we had a lot to talk
about.Well I got a couple CR dances that night from her and then became her "regular"
I guess.She's a strictly business dancer,there to make money,no extras,drugs or partying.
I'd be there every couple weeks,we'd text back and forth everyday..."how are you",
"hows your day" etc...This continued for about 3 months,then one day I got
a text something like: "had a fight with my manager and quit,lets go hang out saturday".
Now we had talked about "hanging out" as she calls it, but didn't think it was gonna happen.
So thus began our "hanging out" phase.She started back to school,medical field, and
doubled her shifts at her other job,between school and work for her and my odd work
schedule, we would go out.We'd do dinner and a movie, jazz club,hockey games etc...
This continued until about February,maybe about 7-8 times in all,she lives about an hour and a half
away,so another obstacle...No,no sex and I didn't give her money,at the end of the evening
I got a hug and a kiss on the cheek,sucks to be the "nice guy",lol.About then she started
turning me down on our "dates",she was always busy.I gave up asking after a while,so
then began the "texting" phase.We text just about everyday, it's a 50/50 on who initiates
the first text, but still usually it's just the "how's it going"thing or what's going on in our lives.
She also sometimes added the "I miss you" thing in there.Then around the last week of
April the texting stops, no answers,nothing...So I move on, or so I thought... until about a
month later I get a text from an unknown number: "Is this (hop)? this is __. "yes it is"
"why the number change?" "Long story".... Now I didn't ask and she didn't volunteer.
So within a few text exchanges I get the "I'm thinkin about going back to dancing again".
"No school?" I asked. "I quit,too stressful right now...with the economy, I'm not making what
I need to at my other job,so I'm looking at different clubs".So she started back at a
club about an hour away from me,it's a 2 hour drive for her.That was about 5 weeks ago.
On her second weekend I went to see [view link], I will say since she started back, not once
did she "ask" me to come see her.I went to see her again this past weekend,she worked til
about 10pm at her other job,then I met her at the club at 1,we stayed til 5.
I guess my question is "what the heck is going on here!? I've met her kids,her mom,
and her roomate,she met my niece and has talked to my daughter on the phone.
Would a dancer cultivate a regular for a year even after she quit, just in case she started again?
Is this a common practice? I'm thinking of telling her I need to step back for awhile and clear
my head,because I'm not sure what's going on with her,and just ask her point blank:
"What is the truth?"
I tried to keep this short by leaving out some details,but also for a little privacy.
Tell me what you think,am I being played?...PL,RIL? lol
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