How Aggressive Should A PL Be In A Club?
farmerart
By aggressive I mean how eagerly should a customer seek out dances from a girl who attracts his attention? By nature and personality I am a gung-ho, let's get the ball rollin' kind of guy. I refuse to sit around sheepishly in a SC hoping against hope that the hot dancer I am ogling will acknowledge my existence. I am a regular in no single club and usually my time in each club is limited. My approach does not always work, however. Often girls will tell me I am just too creepy for them and that can only be my demeanour. I should add that I am witty and a good conversationalist with a broad sense of humour. I am nothing special to look at but I always have buckets of cash with me.
Responses from any dancers here would be most welcome.
Responses from any dancers here would be most welcome.
47 comments
As always, YMMV
Most all you ever need in a club for most dancers, our current dancing members excepted. :)
This is why I've become a regular at a couple clubs. I don't feel uncomfortable with the dancers I've gotten to know. And the dancers know I will buy them drinks, spend money on lap dances and not act like a perv (well, not too much of a perv).
Art - Being assertive is fine, but the chloroform and duct tape may be a little too much.
Alucard. I'm one of those guys. I don't like it. But I'm really pretty shy and reserved. I don't feel comfortable taking the initiative. To me, that makes me feel like a bigger PL than I already am. I will tip on stage to get the girls attention but that's the limit.
That's why I prefer being either known regular and going to lap dance factories.
Also noted BBF raised prices Jan 1, 2012. Lapdances are now 15 to dancer and 5 to club each dance! $20 bucks per dance is a fair value but not a good value like the $12 buck dances were.
Always been my experience at BBF. Like I stated earlier I'm not real aggressive so BBF not a good place for guys like me. The high rankings at BBF continue to amaze me. It's a long drive so just not worth it.
That is my preferred approach too motorhead. BUT if I'm in unknown waters, I have to use the more aggressive approach.
"I wish I could be more aggressive but does that make me appear I wish I could be more aggressive but does that make me appear desperate"
Not in my experience. I believe you only "appear" desperate when you ACTUALLY ARE desperate! I believe this feeling Bleeds thru as nonverbal communication.
I can pull off the mild-mannered laid back thing, because for the most part, that's what I am. If you're a straight out of the gate to getter in the rest of your life, you probably aren't going to convincingly portray much else. You should probably settle for just varying the *degree* of aggressiveness instead of trying to suppress it.
if i am determined i want that dancer ! i may even shift position to be sat at a table ready to be the first one she could come to when she finishes her set. on a busy night you sometimes gotta grab a good one when you can (and right after a stage show sometimes when i am most turned on by that dancer too!). there you are, how aggressive is that, i find mostly the girl impressed if you did something to show you liked them. they need their egos fed like any other woman.
dont understand why any dancer would think anyone 'creepy' who went to them up and asked them for a dance, that is what they are there for, to dance and make money. they will usually be glad you approached, rather than them having to waste their own valuable time working the room and talking to people, who in the end are not gonna pay for dances.
if there is someone i like, i have no problem seeking them out, being polite, letting them know i would like a dance as soon as they are ready. very rare they would not be ready immediatley when you got cash in your pocket !
just act like a gentleman, be polite always when asking, and you will find almost every girl will be happy to make sure you enjoy your night.
if you are shy, by all means just say to whoever that you like a paticular girl and get her over. she'll soon be at your table and if shes not, well she prob not worth bothering with anyway. no-one is ever a PL or desperate in my book, we are all just there to have a good night out, do whatever to make sure you do.
I would rather sit there for my entire visit without company than to start an interaction by giving a dancer the impression that I wanted her badly enough to pursue her. It is a horrible place to start from if we eventually end up in negotiations.
I'll agree that an air of desperation will hurt a bargaining position, but IMO, the willingness to walk away from a poor deal is more important than who approaches who. Now, given that I *am* on my home turf, that might be easier...no, that's the wrong word, maybe less risk of going home with blue balls, for me. There's another girl over there, or in the next club down the road, or maybe even the next night, and maybe too, this one will come around and be more reasonable the next time I see her.
but if there's one paticular stunner working and the whole busy club seems to wants a dance with her, i make sure i beat the whole club to it. depends on how busy the club, how much you want that best girl and how much time you got to spend waiting?
That's true Vince. :)
I do like to tip on stage and get some grinding during the tip and I also like it when a dancer throws both her legs up around your head and gets up close to your face. That is as long as she doesn't go too wild during the stage tip. I remember one dancer seemed like she was trying to see if she could break the neck of someone brave enough to tip. She put both legs up around a guy's neck and would rock her legs and body quickly and violently. I thought that looked dangerous. I didn't tip her very much. You could get a swore neck. One dancer I tipped on stage undid and took off my belt with her teeth. That impressed me.
Anyway it's been a long time since I saw someone who didn't approach me first. I often won't bother asking for dances because unless it's high contact, I don't expect to get that much enjoyment out of it. I can watch someone on stage and get just about as much out of that if it's not a high contact dance. As far as girls rubbing on me, they all start feeling the same after a while. That was why I told one hot dancer no thanks a couple of weeks ago when she asked if I wanted a dance after already getting several. She was once one of my favorites when she worked in Greenville.
I did have a manager pull a dancer I was with aside to let the dancer know there was one more guy she had to see before the end of the night. CTQWERTY was that you at the Penthouse club?
farmerart - perhaps you're too caffeinated......slow down on that RedBull! ;)
Art - stay true to who you are and let the chips fall where they may, If you are genuine you will have a bevy of ladies in your lap with your scratch.
'..............slow down on that RedBull'...............you say.
You crack me up. Next RedBull I drink would be the first one of my life. RedBull? For an oilman? Get outta here! Beer and a shot? ........Anytime. A good Bordeaux or any single malt?............Bring it on!
In the words of the great George Thorogood, 1 BOURBON, 1 SCOTCH, and 1 BEER...
When my son turned 21, at his request, we went to our local watering hole to try this out. I found out that after three rounds, one can not count and barley think. It was a great night. The next day we went and I bought him his first handgun. A great bonding couple 24 hours!
But lately, that's just not the case. I've tipped generously on stage, and while I get "thank you"-s right then, over half the time, the dancer doesn't approach me after her set, even when I'm only 10 feet from the stage. And it's not even because she's returning to the regular or the whale who was too lazy to get his fat ass up and tip her on stage.
I sniffed my pits and that wasn't the issue. And I can't be THAT much uglier than I was a year ago. I don't know what it is.