Heard something similar ("please don't kill me") when I gave my ATF a ride home.
"Don't worry, I want this to continue. I don't want it to end." Or something to that effect.
Laugh. Appreciate the attempt at levity. But don't forget that even though the statement is couched as a joke, underlying that is a real concern. Don't do anything to push her if she suddenly decides she's uncomfortable.
It's like a first time LD with a new girl. Keep your hands to yourself (metaphorically) and she's more likely to guide you to where you wanted to go in the first place.
After all, if she wasn't down for what's going to happen, she wouldn't be out with you in the first place.
Steve, how's baby #1 and baby #2 going for you? You mentoned your old ATF is back, is the new ATF on the back burner? I can imagine a bitch fight in the dressing room
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I reiterate what Sowhatt said. Make a passing joke, then back it up with protective actions toward her - open doors, walk on the street side, help her in and out of the vehicle, etc. Then, judge her comfort zone on how far to take things physically. I get away with the rape jokes because 1) they know I'm a clown, and 2) they know I go to strippers because I expect them to be playful, sexual, and aggressive! If I wanted a passive girl, I take one from the street.
(I know some dancers are passive and timid, but I don't deal with these)
I agree that it is gallows humor, so the best way is with your own humor.
How about, 'Oh I have very strict rules about how far I will go on a first date'.
Although it doesn't happen a lot, if she isn't sure enough such that she asks the question, then she needs to find another conveyance. Seriously, Bundy came across like the all american kid. There are ways to find out about customers and she should always do that before going for a ride.
Two years ago, when I took ATF3 on a trip, I drove her out to some remote ranch land that I own. Seeing how remote it was, she got out of the car and said "You could hide a body pretty easily out here." As my stepfather would've done, I gave her a disapproving look and said nothing. After a quiet moment I pointed out that the land was adjacent to a dormant volcano, but since a massive geologic upheaval caused the volcano in the first place....
Anyway, the death subject wasn't revisited.
I had been hitting up a fav for otc for awhile with no luck, then out of the blue one day she said "why don't you get a room?" Later on I asked her what changed her mind and her reply was "Well I didn't think you would leave me in a ditch." Damn I miss that girl!
My fav waitress/bartender lets me have free drinks, and in return, she fills out my credit card receipt (tips). One time, she tells me, "Just be glad I'm not ripping you."
My reply, "Just be glad I'm not raping you."
She then gave me the evil eye look, then laughed.
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