I think I got my ATF in trouble, possibly fired
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Was at a club in IL a few days ago, one with strict rules when it comes to the ladies, touching is almost a no no it seems can only keep hands on waist, maybe some leg touching if lucky. My ATF works here and she knew I was gonna be there, we text back and forth. When I got there I could tell she had a few drinks maybe too many and when she finally came over to me, she climbed on top of me and started giving me a grind at the table we were at, and I thought well this is different. Next thing I know there is some really deep kissing going on and I thought for sure a bouncer would be over to kick my ass out but I totally went with it anyway, it was fun. Eventually one of the club managers came over and told the dancer that we had to go to the VIP or Champagne room.
We went to the VIP for almost an hour and there was more kissing and touching going on in places than there should have been, use your imagination. Someone came in and told the dancer she was being loud and she got a warning for it. We finished and I gave her a good tip and I was going to buy her a drink, they would not serve any more to her. We go back to my table and about a minute later and one of the managers told her to come to the back with her and that was the last I saw of her. I even tipped the waitress that was serving me to go check on her, the waitress said she would be right out but she never showed, I finished up my drink and left.
On my way home I texted her and called, nothing. I really just wanted to know if she was alright and got home safely, I at least hope these morons called her a cab home cause she should not have driven home. I do feel guilty in a sense cause I know what the rules are and I should not have pushed it (don't attack me for that guys) I always have so much fun with her, none of this would have been necessary anyway. But her lack of response to me is concerning, either she wants to be left alone for a while or is totally telling me to fuck off with her lack of response. I tried yesterday one last time to call and text, but I fear the worst that it might be over, and I really do feel terrible if i caused her to get fired and even wish that I did not go that day, maybe things would have been different or maybe the same result would have occurred with someone else, I really don't know.
Sorry for the damn novel here, but what do u guys and gals think...is it over/should I not even bother to try again to get it touch with her and leave her alone, should I give it a few more days, thoughts anybody, any advice here would be great or even someone with a similar experience. Thanks :)
We went to the VIP for almost an hour and there was more kissing and touching going on in places than there should have been, use your imagination. Someone came in and told the dancer she was being loud and she got a warning for it. We finished and I gave her a good tip and I was going to buy her a drink, they would not serve any more to her. We go back to my table and about a minute later and one of the managers told her to come to the back with her and that was the last I saw of her. I even tipped the waitress that was serving me to go check on her, the waitress said she would be right out but she never showed, I finished up my drink and left.
On my way home I texted her and called, nothing. I really just wanted to know if she was alright and got home safely, I at least hope these morons called her a cab home cause she should not have driven home. I do feel guilty in a sense cause I know what the rules are and I should not have pushed it (don't attack me for that guys) I always have so much fun with her, none of this would have been necessary anyway. But her lack of response to me is concerning, either she wants to be left alone for a while or is totally telling me to fuck off with her lack of response. I tried yesterday one last time to call and text, but I fear the worst that it might be over, and I really do feel terrible if i caused her to get fired and even wish that I did not go that day, maybe things would have been different or maybe the same result would have occurred with someone else, I really don't know.
Sorry for the damn novel here, but what do u guys and gals think...is it over/should I not even bother to try again to get it touch with her and leave her alone, should I give it a few more days, thoughts anybody, any advice here would be great or even someone with a similar experience. Thanks :)
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Waitresses are buffers. It's her job to come out and tell you she'll be right out. It's possible she sobered up and was too embarrassed to show her face again for the night.
As for getting fired, its possible, but I would think if she were fired, that it wasn't her first indiscretion. Strip club managers usually like their girls and want them to do well. They also understand the business. They would probably give her a warning. Now if this is her third warning, though, she could have been fired.
Don't call her anymore. Wait for her to call you. Dancers know how to get in touch with customers. She will come.around.
And you know what's even worse? You didn't even bother to write a review of the the visit - or any club reviews at all for that matter.
it might have been partly your fault, because you could clearly see she was drunk. but at the same time, she should have been more responsible with her actions while at work.
i mean, damn, she is your ATF, of course you're going to go along with it, if she comes onto you the way she did.
I wonder how she's sleeping now that she's lost her job? How is she paying her rent? Does she have kids to support? What will she do now that she is likely black balled in the clubs in Chicago?
She trusted you and you repay her by jeopardizing her livelihood. Because of your reckless actions, she may even be forced to prostitute herself in order to support herself and her little ones.
But sleep well tonight my friend. After all, how else could you be expected to act?
You know, this happened recently to another tuscler by the name of farmerart. The difference, however, is that he took an interest in making sure she was ok after being tossed out of her club. In fact, he cut her a check for lost earnings to help see her through.
I guess some guys are just more standup then others. But like I said before, sleep well my friend. After all, it's not your fault, right?
I cant believe she wont return your calls, texts. I question if she was fired but wonder if she metup with a big fish and she is screwing him silly at motel for big bucks.
If they dont call or text me back they are not worth worrying about. They dont reply if they think your broke or out of money. Go back to the club and find out what happened to her.
And if you leave a review of a club or two, you might not even get accused of being financially culpable for her decisions.
As to you being at fault, I think if we looked at our own track records, we would all be guilty of similar offenses at one time or another.
Made out with a drunk dancer? Check
Told by mgr/bouncer/bartender to "Get a room"? Check
Broke club "rules" in VIP? Check
Get Dancer in trouble with mgmt (e.g., fined, "banned", fired, etc.)? Check
And if someone says they have't done any of the above, I submit they're doing this hobby wrong, lol.
OK, oh well!
Most good dancers know how far they are allowed, to push thing, and unless she isn't making much money for the club, a dancer is normally not fired for going past the limits.