Non-strippers I've dated have been as good or better looking than the strippers so it's not an issue. Not bragging just stating how it is. The world is full of pretty girls with great bodies.
I've found too that the driven or corporate types are the best, because they're the most comfortable with themselves. I dated one stripper who was that way too but it was never as good as with a serious girlfriend because the passion was lacking. Best was a serious girlfriend who had a modest job but very well adjusted and a MILF.
Ditto on recent divorcees, starved for both affection and sex that they're used to getting every day, but haven't been for awhile.
I am fortunate to have had some of the most remarkable sex with some of the coolest women imaginable. That list includes my wife, and it includes a couple of strippers.
But, strippers, for the most part, are immature and unsure of themselves when you get them behind closed doors. Maybe that's my experience because I gravitate toward skinny, trashy strippers with pimples and big pussy lips...LOL.
mmdv26 is on to the key factor...age. The average stripper is young, inexperienced, and not that skilled in bed. Give me a 30-something lady who has kept herself in good shape. She will know what she wants and she will know how to do the deed.
Strippers are better if they actually work for your money, or are enjoying it as much as you.
Most of the ones who do it often or have done it before will treat you right and make it feel as if the money you give them is just extra and all they really wanted was you. The ones who can relax and have fun are the ones who know how to earn their cash!
Great sex usually takes some type of emotional connection. I have found strippers to be no different than the general population. Some get into it, some don't. Easy sex is not the same as great sex.
In VIP Room, most strippers aren't worth the time/money, unless OTC will follow.
With that said, my worst stripper in a real bed has been better than my worst non stripper bed experience. Overall, in a real bed, the strippers are better.
To me, they're all over the map. The worst lay I ever had, and it's indisputable, was a stripper (and a black one, too; I always thought when I went interracial it would be the best ever). On the other hand, two of the top three (I don't know which is tops, and I don't want to guess), were strippers.
I think it usually comes down to their own self image. Self conscious girls are never very free in the sack. Perhaps because dancers are ok with their bodies and flaunt them, they are more at ease in bed. Plus they constantly watch themselves in the mirrors while they're on stage to see how their bodies move. Hell they make their money off of how sexy they can look. These are the advantages I can see the stripper has in the sack.
Like others have mentioned, it's all over the map. Some better, some worse. In the interest of full disclosure, though, I should point out that my idea of good and better are highly dependent upon how much pain they can endure...
I probably haven't had as much experience in this as some others, but IME sex with strippers usually skews toward pretty basic. But at least they're hot to look at while you're doint it. Now as others said, take a divorced/seperated MILF and hold on for dear life lest you get thrown off before your 8 seconds is up.
If it were not for SCs, massage parlours, and escorts I would have NO sex life at all. Of the group just listed I much prefer SCs for my hunting. Massage parlours and escorts are the assembly lines of commercial sex. SCs are not. All the spectacular sex of my life has been with dancers - primarily older dancers. However, #1 on my list is a young hot bodied uninhibited squirter with the tightest pussy my old boy has ever experienced! But sooooooooooooo dim-witted.
What strippers provide is more variety. I'm not the Casanova type, so my non-stripper hookups have been fewer than ones with dancers. On average, paid strippers have been willing to do more different things, even if I'm not interested in some of it, than those putting out for "free".
Frankly, the "civilian" women I've bedded have ALL been a LOT more lame in bed, than any professionals -- strippers or not, and paid-for-sex or not. The general approach among the "usual dating public" is, that a guy works like hell to convince the girl to reluctantly relinquish a small amount of access to her pussy; and then when she does relinquish some access, she relinquishes it reluctantly, in order to perpetuate the manipulation for future profit. To the contrary, a one-off with a stripper or a prostitute has the girl actively involved in the sex. The best thing about fucking hotties who are into the fuck for the short-term gain to themselves, is that they can be voracious. They're fulfilling their appetites.
So, I'd say civilian fucks are usually disappointing. Whereas, if you're paying the girl for sex, she's expected to "perform" and to "service" the customer; consequently, you're probably getting good service because she doesn't think of the interaction as something to be done for some OTHER gain; but rather, of the sexual interaction as the goal in and of itself. And similarly, if you're not paying the girl for sex, but you met her as a stripper or other type of "hotness" worker, and you're porking her only on a one-session-at-a-time basis, rather than expecting to perpetuate a relationship, then she's again interested in the action of that night in question and will (probably) be into the sex rather than annoyingly distant or disgusted by it. These are of course generalizations. And I'm not speaking of general SKILL level at the activity -- if the girl has lots of that, then she can further enhance your experience by knowing how to move her body, when to squeeze harder or less hard, etc..
And one point in a "civilian" relationship does stand out, for me, as contrary to the above observations, over all my experience. That's the first few fucks with a new partner. At those times, the excitement and novelty (for me, at least; and I bet it's likely for most people) tends to make the sex pretty good. Not necessarily great, though. And I can remember several occasions when I essentially decided I didn't want a relationship with the girl I'd been dating forever-it-seemed, precisely BECAUSE she finally gave up the pussy to me and let me have sexual access -- ironically, for her, the hold-out resistance to sex had kept me from learning her darkest secret, that she was a limp fish in bed. Once she let me have sex with her, then unfortunately for her, she'd taught me exactly the fact I needed to know, to no longer want to fuck her -- she was bad at fucking. :) I remember trying to explain to one girl -- "No, I didn't want ONLY sex. I wanted GOOD sex, and when we had sex, you were A DAMN DOORMAT." "You're breaking up with me because you finally got to fuck me and now you don't want to fuck me any more." "You know what? You're actually saying the truth, honey. But not for the reasons you think ..."
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I've found too that the driven or corporate types are the best, because they're the most comfortable with themselves. I dated one stripper who was that way too but it was never as good as with a serious girlfriend because the passion was lacking. Best was a serious girlfriend who had a modest job but very well adjusted and a MILF.
Ditto on recent divorcees, starved for both affection and sex that they're used to getting every day, but haven't been for awhile.
But, strippers, for the most part, are immature and unsure of themselves when you get them behind closed doors. Maybe that's my experience because I gravitate toward skinny, trashy strippers with pimples and big pussy lips...LOL.
Most of the ones who do it often or have done it before will treat you right and make it feel as if the money you give them is just extra and all they really wanted was you. The ones who can relax and have fun are the ones who know how to earn their cash!
With that said, my worst stripper in a real bed has been better than my worst non stripper bed experience. Overall, in a real bed, the strippers are better.
So, I'd say civilian fucks are usually disappointing. Whereas, if you're paying the girl for sex, she's expected to "perform" and to "service" the customer; consequently, you're probably getting good service because she doesn't think of the interaction as something to be done for some OTHER gain; but rather, of the sexual interaction as the goal in and of itself. And similarly, if you're not paying the girl for sex, but you met her as a stripper or other type of "hotness" worker, and you're porking her only on a one-session-at-a-time basis, rather than expecting to perpetuate a relationship, then she's again interested in the action of that night in question and will (probably) be into the sex rather than annoyingly distant or disgusted by it. These are of course generalizations. And I'm not speaking of general SKILL level at the activity -- if the girl has lots of that, then she can further enhance your experience by knowing how to move her body, when to squeeze harder or less hard, etc..
And one point in a "civilian" relationship does stand out, for me, as contrary to the above observations, over all my experience. That's the first few fucks with a new partner. At those times, the excitement and novelty (for me, at least; and I bet it's likely for most people) tends to make the sex pretty good. Not necessarily great, though. And I can remember several occasions when I essentially decided I didn't want a relationship with the girl I'd been dating forever-it-seemed, precisely BECAUSE she finally gave up the pussy to me and let me have sexual access -- ironically, for her, the hold-out resistance to sex had kept me from learning her darkest secret, that she was a limp fish in bed. Once she let me have sex with her, then unfortunately for her, she'd taught me exactly the fact I needed to know, to no longer want to fuck her -- she was bad at fucking. :) I remember trying to explain to one girl -- "No, I didn't want ONLY sex. I wanted GOOD sex, and when we had sex, you were A DAMN DOORMAT." "You're breaking up with me because you finally got to fuck me and now you don't want to fuck me any more." "You know what? You're actually saying the truth, honey. But not for the reasons you think ..."
Prim0 - definitely something to that but a lot of regular women have that kind of confidence too.