Do dancers who don't take no or no thanks for an answer, ever get you angry?
One did last night but I was out of the club thinking about it before my anger flared up a bit. One dancer wanted to argue with me asking why not after I told her no. I don't want any dances. After a couple of minutes of arguing she asked if I was gay. I said No. I thought that was an insult. I should have told her I thought she looked a bit ugly in return but my anger is sometimes delayed if I had a good night. I just did not want another dance. To top if off she asked for a tip for her time she spent arguing with me.
I seem to get angrier thinking about these dancers I encounter after leaving the club. I was trying to not let it bother me but typing this up helps get it out of my system. My night was pretty good other than the ending.
I have done a much meaner sounding rejection to a couple of dancers but sometimes it seems like they go over in a corner and seem to sulk as if I hurt them.
I need the measured level of increasing rejection.
Level one. No, no thanks, maybe later.
Works 98 percent of the time.
Level two. She wants to argue afterwards, why not?
You give out a lie to get rid of her.
Level three. She still continues to argue, why not? or some other excuse.
Lay it on her.
Just in case this helps anyone else.
I know some guys will lay it on a dancer from the getgo.
I seem to get angrier thinking about these dancers I encounter after leaving the club. I was trying to not let it bother me but typing this up helps get it out of my system. My night was pretty good other than the ending.
I have done a much meaner sounding rejection to a couple of dancers but sometimes it seems like they go over in a corner and seem to sulk as if I hurt them.
I need the measured level of increasing rejection.
Level one. No, no thanks, maybe later.
Works 98 percent of the time.
Level two. She wants to argue afterwards, why not?
You give out a lie to get rid of her.
Level three. She still continues to argue, why not? or some other excuse.
Lay it on her.
Just in case this helps anyone else.
I know some guys will lay it on a dancer from the getgo.
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Maybe she'll stay away if I see her again. I told her I tip all the dancers just one dollar. Whenever I see the dancer who dropped her off again, I'll avoid getting dances from her as well for a while now. If she asks why I'll tell her why. I do not like her friend. aahhh, maybe that's inviting more stripper drama, I'll just tell her no without telling why unless she's persistent too.
I'm not lying when I say that.
If a desperate girl will not leave you alone, tell management or go somewhere else. It is not worth taking shit from her. Think about it: She may go lie to the bouncer and say you tried to finger her just to have your ass kicked for not giving her YOUR money. She may tell all of the other dancers you are a cheap skate because you wouldn't give her YOUR money.
It gives her something to go tell the manager.
When I don't want a dance, I look her in the eye and firmly say "No thank you" period. If a girl that I don't like asks if she can sit with me, I look her in the eye and say "I'm not really looking for company right now, but thank you."
In rare instances where she is not disuaded, I say "honestly honey I'm looking for something a little different than you, but thank you." They tend to huff off a little if it gets to this point but too bad - she should have listened the first time.
And in those rare instances when she is really persistent and is in my lap, or worse, grabbing my nuts, I usually say something like "Honey, you're not my type so please [get up, take your hand back/whatever]." Again the girl usually gets pissed but that was inevitable anyway if she was like that to begin with.
I've had only one really bad one in all the years, where nothing I said seemed to penetrate. Finally, I put my face into hers, looked her in the eyes and said, "Are you deaf or just stupid, I said go the fuck away!" That did it, though she left bitching like I just kicked her favorite dog.
It ain't McDonalds and what I want is not on the official menu anyway, so I much prefer my game quiet and well under the radar ;)
yup, i agree, keep things cool and low key is my motto too.
Overall I've been way more pissed off by dancers ignoring customers, which is the opposite extreme.
There's probably a reason for that.