Expectations.............
judyjudy
Michigan
When you go to a club, does your expectation vary from each visit?
For example...I have been to a club where I had a guy tell me he was in love with me wanted me to perform any and all extras that i would/could. i saw the same guy a few weeks later and he sat in the back and was not very active.... I did say hi and talked for a bit but he was not interested in a dance or anything. He assured me that I had done nothing wrong in our previous meeting. And I know that to be true because he left EXTREMELY satisfied.
On my next visit he was just like the one before last ...wanting dances and really having a good time....tough to figure out, non the less left satisfied again.
So when you go to a club...do you go with the intention of trying to get whatever you can on one visit and then maybe another visit just stop by for a drink and know that you are not going to get any LD'S or extras for that matter. Was not sure if the topless club gets used as a corner bar for a beer and then go home.
Also, can you change your mind if your intent is just to grab a quick beer and you see a dancer that really turns you on.....can you be persueded to stick around?
For example...I have been to a club where I had a guy tell me he was in love with me wanted me to perform any and all extras that i would/could. i saw the same guy a few weeks later and he sat in the back and was not very active.... I did say hi and talked for a bit but he was not interested in a dance or anything. He assured me that I had done nothing wrong in our previous meeting. And I know that to be true because he left EXTREMELY satisfied.
On my next visit he was just like the one before last ...wanting dances and really having a good time....tough to figure out, non the less left satisfied again.
So when you go to a club...do you go with the intention of trying to get whatever you can on one visit and then maybe another visit just stop by for a drink and know that you are not going to get any LD'S or extras for that matter. Was not sure if the topless club gets used as a corner bar for a beer and then go home.
Also, can you change your mind if your intent is just to grab a quick beer and you see a dancer that really turns you on.....can you be persueded to stick around?
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Usually, it's with the intention of taking a girl to VIP or something though. That's just me.
When I decide to visit a club I have very few expectations. Cold beer, decent music, naked women that don't rot my eyes out, a pleasant bartender, and a relaxed time. What happens after that is never planned, nor expected.
judyjudy- still waiting for that first meet-up on my next trip to Detroit ;-)
If I find it, then I go for as long as the $$$$ holds out.
Other times sometimes it is financial reasons why you don't want to get started on buying dances. This is in an area where $35 dances are the norm. I don't know what the typical dance price is where you are at jj.
Because I've found extras easily in Houston, yes, I have certain expectations,
but.....
The last time I was at a nude club in March, as I arrived at the club, the manager, valets, and security guard all gave me a hard time. I would've left, but the asshole manager wouldn't refund my 15.00 cover.
So, I was pissed (really pissed) and I needed time to cool off (If I'm pissed, sex is the last thing on my mind). An aggressive dancer was trying to get a dance, while in a bad way, trying to relieve my tension. I chased her away, then a few minutes later another dancer came over. This one focused on cooling me down (rubbing my shoulders, etc.) before she asked me for a dance, it worked.
I personally dislike the nude clubs around here because of the higher cover charges/dance prices and the clubs seem to be run by really young guys/punks. If you don't tip the door guy you will get an attitude from him. I might try Diamond's in Dayton though based off the high tuscl rating but the low number of reviews for the club has me skeptical.
I like to practice self discipline practicing the following: Treat Dancer like Queen, don't mention anything uncool - other girls, prior experience, extras (unless she brings it up), or ask personal questions. Last nite at Penthouse club the dancer told me (voluntarily) she was 2nd generation dancer and that her BF had left her bc she danced and she was looking for a new man (prob manipulation). She also put her hands on Mr H and I was persuaded to take her to a large open area off the main floor that is free and enjoyed a coupla dances and some interesting conversation on the subjects above. A very pleasant experience while I waited out the traffic. This seems like a fun place and mgt watches goings on with a keen eye but certainly not an extras club IMO.
My point is you just never know what is going to fall in your lap.
The only reason I wouldn't be getting any dances is if I have no cash on me, in which case I wouldn't be in the club in the first place.
In NJ I go with the expectation of full nude, extras maybe, and I know the moment I walk in I am going to be asked for a dance and will be asked at least once by every dancer in the club and have very little time to relax.
I want it all, so obviously "expecting" that would be wrong; I merely hope for it.
If it's just not going to happen on a certain visit, I won't leave feeling like my expectations weren't met, just that my hopes were unrealized. On the other hand, in such cases I'm not out money, so that's a reasonable trade-off...
It's all about what you want.
I agree with some others - no expectations but always high hopes. I usually won't go into a strip club without enough cash in hand to take care of all my needs, but opinions will vary.
But most times are devoted to purpose, to play--ranging from lapdances to extras.
I always go with the hope of encountering the legendary JUDYJUDY. So far, only disappointment. Where are you going to be dancing tonight?
working on it as we speak
After all, if I go in with sufficient pessimism, I'll always be pleasantly surprised, right? :)
Clubber I could use some time in miami
But I think there are many guys who go for the stage dances and table dances. I guess a live dance is hotter to them even with no physical contact. I would guess maybe your guy works for commission or is self-employed. Some of them can be very competative, don't like to come out and say they've had a bad week.
A guy who says he loves you probably wants some OTC contact, and will be disapointed to one degree or another if it doesn't happen.
I have one club that's my go-to club for when I *definitely* don't want to shell out for VIP -- because my one VIP there was so awful and it was the club's fault, so I know not to expect a different outcome.
Other clubs, I might go just to watch and get a couple LDs, but to answer your last question (about changing my mind), yeah, sometimes the little head does the thinking.