How many of us have heard, "Are you married?" Why do they care?
Are you a married guy who visits and/or bangs strippers? Conversely, are you a guy who has banged married or attached strippers?
I recently posted some stuff on a stripper site that sent a few girls into catty fits (not the good kind) :)
Any thoughts?
I am married and bang strippers (Wife just wants business relationship due to menopause, etc.). The stripper I have been banging for around 21 months just recently married her live in of 4 years. I fucked her the day before the wedding and twice since she came back from her honeymoon last week. At last Fridays session I took tons of bikini photos of her. She loves to model them for me and I think she is really flattered and excited to see how it drives me wild. The $1100 average she gets out of me a month pays her mortgage.
IMO strippers do not care if your married. Sometimes I think they prefer it. They all have BF or husband so it does not matter to me as long as the guy does not know I am banging them. Frankly, Strippers probably prefer married men bc they are afraid of stalkers. They know what they feed is you is phony SS, and a single guy calling them on it makes them nervous. I no longer remove my wedding band when I go to SC, so that question rarely comes up. Their concern is how much money they will get out of a guy not necessarily whether he's married.
You may think that you're a player, but you're completely lost.
"Why do they care?"
This has been discussed to death before on this site. Some dancers feel that there's a difference in the way married men spend money vs. how single guys spend money in a strip club.
"Conversely, are you a guy who has banged married or attached strippers?"
Sure, and??
When I'm in a strip club looking at dancers, wondering if a dancer is married is not something I think about. Dancers can always lie as well. If you forgot to ask before sleeping with a dancer or she went down on you before you realized what was happening, too late. This does bother me a little since I would never intentionally sleep with a married dancer. People do a lot of things they never intended to do.
a wife will take care of you but she ain't gonna be entertaining you
I'm single, so I probably don't have to deal with some strippers who prefer married customers. I have only known one married stripper during her stripper career, and I would DATY all the time with her. Ironically, years later, I saw her stripping again, and she was divorced and not allowing DATY.
Decide what you are and stick to it. That's my story. As for whether I care if they are married or not, yes it matters, but it only matters depending on circumstanmces. 'Come on over to my place' has risks if you know the dancer is married. But if the dude is in jail, that's another story. Yes, some dancers prefer the "security" of married OTC customers because they will keep things to themselve, but then again, some dancers have been so kicked around by life that thay may also resent cheating husbands. It's all relative to circumstances. Be consistent but also know what you're getting into, pun intended.
Mister, guess I wasn't around the last time this was covered. Sorry to dig up old ground, but I was curious as to points of view on this.
GK, I have seen both of those reactions as well and wondered if I was just "seeing things."
What I will never understand is how a woman who strips maintains outside relationships. I have also had OTC with atatched girls and always wonder how the fuck the guy is ok with what she does for a living (even assuming she hides the OTC activities from him).
Rick - The stripper I am seeing otc about 21 mo seems to have her guy under control. Getting it from a hot gal can have that effect on them. She tells me he believes she just dances and does not allow customers to touch. Can't say I believe this. He does not know she does extras itc or sees clients otc. Her Facebook page describes him as her soulmate. He hands over his paycheck to her, she makes money from me plus what she earns at the club. The were married last week and it has not changed our meetings. She is not on drugs, has a nice house, and her own car. She is always prompt for our sessions.
I have found the less the guy knows about her activities the better things are. The worst situation is where a dancer is on drugs supporting some loser BF who knows whats going on. She may say he's cool with what she does, but gut feel tells you differently.
Player - I certainly believe you when you say that she has him under her thumb and otherwise has her shit together, but for the life of me I will never understand the mentality of a guy that lets his woman take her clothes off for other men, never mind the potential other stuff.
I recently banged the hell out of a stripper with a live-in boyfriend and wondered, with a certain perverse amusement, what excuse she would need to give him later for why she wasn't in the mood.
Rick - I say feel free to post whatever you want. There are always new people joining the board for which a topic will be unfamiliar, and I enjoy seeing some fresh perspectives on things. Cranky old-timers can always just skip the topic. (OK, the reoccurring topic about what kind of pants to wear to get the best lap dance is ridiculous and annoying, but other than that...)
steve,
Just realize the "cranky old-timer" is the same idiot that said in the Playboy topic, "Honestly, I could care less...", when it obviously should be couldn't.
My simple philosophy is "don't ask, don't tell". This applies to both me & the dancers.
Yes - I'm a married woman who often visits & occasionally does strippers. But unless her jealous hubby is chasing me down the street with a loaded shotgun, whether she is married or not is of no concern to me.
can you get laid in a champagne room...vip? For 250.00 per half hour...sure would like to know
come on everyone knows its a no touch policy in wisconsin anyways...so lets be real...you don't get laid there maybe after hours!!
@steve: thanks and agreed.
@splv: wtf?
if a dancer is trying to make small talk about if you have a wife or girlfriend then that usually means she is trying to steer the conversation away from talking about extras. Just avoid her..she is not going to put out for you.
Also for the second part of your question rickdugan,
I don't like going after attached/married strippers unless they go after me....now with that being said there are exceptions like one dancer I am after she is in a relationship but I would not consider it attached because they have only been together for a few weeks.
^^^ I should clarify that and mentioned that the attached/married strippers never "go after me" but more like "they offer extras for a price" lol I am not lucky enough to have the married women chasing me for free sex
I wonder if these married-attached strippers represent most of the swinger population.
When I was married I made no attempt to hide it. I can't really remember if anyone asked but I wore a wedding ring so they probably didn't have to. Most dancers prefer married guys since they tend to spend more and stalk less. Most hookers and escorts do as well for pretty much the same reason-less drama.
"I recently banged the hell out of a stripper with a live-in boyfriend and wondered, with a certain perverse amusement, what excuse she would need to give him later for why she wasn't in the mood."
"that said in the Playboy topic, 'Honestly, I could care less...', when it obviously should be couldn't."
splv69 is just trying to get info for her lawsuit against her "cheating" husband...just ignore her...
Ah Mister, a little skimming of your previous posts sheds some light on your gig. And to think I was actually starting to call Doug out on his comments relating to you.
So please let me interrupt no more, oh Master of bitter posts and pick pocket politics. Please continue to enlighten us newbies with your learned teachings ;)
Real slick move siding with the obvious Internet Troll there rickie...you should go far on this site...ugh...
Mister, I have no sides here. My shot was just return fire for the comment on the other board :)
I'm here for light entertainment and to share useful info (give and receive). There's no upside to getting into running debates and there are better places for it than here.
YAWN!
I had one stripper ask me if I had a girlfriend. When I told her no she crossed her arms and in a very serious tone said that she couldn't believe it. She said I knew how to treat women and the ladies didn't know what they were missing out on. In all likelyhood this was SS but it did make me feel good to hear it.