How to tell a dancer to move on?

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• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  Sounds good, "Hey, no thanks for your interest but please go away now" would work. Give it a try.
• Dudester

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  14 years ago

  A onetime ATF "borrowed" 100 from me. 100 would neither make nor break me. So, when I was in the club, she would approach me and ask me if I wanted dances. I asked if she was going to repay the loan, or pay in trade-she wouldn't. After three seperate instances, I just started saying a firm "NO" when she would approach.
• Jpac73

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  14 years ago

  You already have the right idea dave, just tell her "Hey I appreciate you coming by and talking to me, but I would like to meet some of the other girls at the club now." That should work with no problem.
• Philip A. Stein

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  14 years ago

  Just flat out tell her, be polite. "I'm not interested and I don't want to waste your time. Please give me a few minutes to myself" Or, if there's a hawttie that you're interested in, put her to work. Give her a $5 tip and tell her to send Bambi over.
• Jmoney007

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  14 years ago

  There is no easy way to politely ask a stripper to leave without her feeling rejected, and most of the times if you do (in my experience) ask her to leave in a polite manner, she will most likely avoid you for the rest of your visit, but luckily some strippers can take a hint and will return a little later.
• steve229

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  14 years ago

  “need some advice from some more experienced (i.e., jaded) members” Well, I don’t think you have to go all Dougster on the poor girls. After all, if you’re really not interested, the “nice” thing to do is tell her upfront, so she doesn’t waste her time. A polite but firm, “Nice talking to you, thanks for stopping by” should do the trick. Now, if she won’t take the hint, you can always take a page from the Bloodhound Gang and tell “Bambi” "Well that's a coincidence darlin', 'cause I was just thinkin' about skinnin' you like a deer."
• samsung1

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  14 years ago

  they get rejections every day they work. I would not worry too much about your tact. Just be polite and smile when you say no thanks.
• 59

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  14 years ago

  I'll say "thanks, but I'm meeting up with a girl" or "thanks, but I want to spread the love".
• chi_sam

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  14 years ago

  I always try and be polite and respectful. That said, if the girl is a ROB or overly-aggressive I've been known to toss-in a bit of sarcasm. And I have had a few obnoxious ones that I simply asked, politely of course, to 'get the fuck outta' here'. But where I have a problem is with the truly soft ones, that haven't been jaded yet. The ones that really want nothing more than a brief respite and a casual conversation. They're the ones that get hurt no matter how mildly rejected. But... I had this one recently. Nice enough girl, I suppose. It wasn't very busy, but there were a few groups of rowdy, aggressive guys and I think she just felt secure perched next to me. That would have been fine by me, if she hadn't tried talking to me. To put it bluntly, I've had more interesting conversations with my parrot! Either she was too dumb, or obstinate, to take any of the hints that I proffered, ratcheting up the 'rudeness factor' each time. But she was as interesting as a blow-up doll. And I was getting a headache trying to think like a twelve year old in order to converse with her. So (and I do feel sheepish about this), I felt I had no choice but to stand up, shake her hand, and tell her, 'It was nice meeting you'. Oh... Are you leaving already? No. You are.
• mmdv26

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  14 years ago

  "Not right now, but check back with me later", usually gets the interference out of the line of sight. The ones that plop down next to you and want a drink or want to spend the rest of the day occupying the seat you have unofficially reserved for the object of your desires, can be a bit more difficult. But, remember, they are executing a well-rehearsed tactic. A matter-of-fact "Actually, I'm saving that seat, but maybe we could talk later". None of what you say will be unique or "ease the pain of rejection". LOL SC'ing is all about rejection; and that can work BOTH ways. For you, it's all about connecting with the one that strikes your fancy just that day, or every day. Unless you are exceptionally rude, I don't think you can hurt a stripper's feelings.... even if she has any.
• mjx01

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  14 years ago

  Be open ended: "not right now, but maybe later" sort of thing. Unless you have no intention of ever having a dance with her. In the places I've been to, dancers usually come back to you even after you said "no thank you." They expect you to loosen up as you drink. As long as you are polite you'll be ok. Get a dance from another girl. It will give you an opportunity to break aways and you can buid a good reputation with the other girls. If you have an ATF, odds are most of the dancers know. So go along with it. "You know I'm waiting for my ATF."
• gk

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  14 years ago

  Several ways: Polite direct honesty: Excuse me, Im going to walk around to check things out. Subtlety: Excuse me, I'm going to go tip that dancer on the stage.(Then take your time.) Striper shit trickery (butstill polite): Wait here, I'll be right back (not). The unwinder: Hey, I just got here and I need to unwide by myself a little, would you mind? The standard: I'm waiting for (anybody). When she's a rock and won't move: Would you mind moving over a seat? ...I think I'm going to invite (anybody) to sit here.
• gatorfan

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  14 years ago

  No more money, works well. If that doesn't, buy a tazer.
• georgmicrodong

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  14 years ago

  I'm surprised Dougster hasn't chimed in with something on the order of "get lost, bitch!" it doesn't meet your politeness requirement, but, based on my own experience, it *is* effective. Probably a last, or nearly so, resort tactic, though.
• CTQWERTY

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  14 years ago

  "No more money, works well." Turn an empty pocket inside out for a visual cue.
• ilbbaicnl

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  14 years ago

  If at all possible, go when the club is fairly busy, so even the less successful girls will have other options besides you. They should leave within a few minutes if they see no prospect of getting dances or drinks. If not, the club is poorly managed, try another if possible.
• wallanon

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  14 years ago

  "Unless you are exceptionally rude, I don't think you can hurt a stripper's feelings.... even if she has any." Because I don't have time to write a book, I won't throw in all the sound bites that just came to mind (while laughing) when I read this. I only wish it was true, since over the years I really did try not to offend the entertainment. One of my favorite dancer meltdowns was at Rick's in Seattle, though. I said I was waiting for someone to come back (true) and she sits down and demands to know why I don't want to talk with her. Is she not my type? Did she not approach the right way? What was wrong with her? It was ugly, and utterly hilarious.
• casualguy

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  14 years ago

  I remember I arrived at one club early in the evening. Well the club was still pretty dead even though it was somewhere between 9 to 10 PM. Every one of the few male customers already had a female at his table. The dancer who sat next to me refused to leave after I told her I didn't want any dances. She actually argued with me for about 10 to 15 minutes. After about 10 minutes of arguing, I wasn't too happy anymore. I finally got up and left the table leaving her alone. I could tell she felt very rejected because I noticed that she wasn't approaching anyone even an hour later. On another occasion a dancer I liked came over to me in one club and asked if she mind if she just talks to me. After about 45 minutes, she said she had to get one $10 table dance every hour or the boss would say something to her. Then she said something about staying with me until the club closed if I didn't mind. It was only around 10 PM. Around 1 AM, I politely told her I wouldn't mind getting some dances from some of the other dancers before the club closed. No problem. She moved on and made some money.
• LeeH

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  14 years ago

  I've used most of these ideas. One other that I use is to ask her name. This adds to the open-ended-ness, and actually shows that you give a sh*t.
• shadowcat

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  14 years ago

  My first line of defense is the ignore button. If that doesn't work it can go all the way to nasty.
• txtittyfan

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  14 years ago

  I will usually just say hello and then proceed to watch the show and ignore her. Usually they get the hint and leave. If they linger too long, I tell them my name is Dougster ftom TUSCL, they leave everytime.
• Dougster

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  14 years ago

  Actually tittyfan tells them to short treasuries the day before they bottom. They get rathered pissed at him over that one and don't talk to him anymore.
• LeeH

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  14 years ago

  txtittyfan, that's brilliant. I'll have to try that.
• Dougster

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  14 years ago

  LeeH: yep short treasuries the day before they bottom. very good idea (like most things coming out of tittyfan's "mind"). Let us know how that one works out for you.