"The real reasons strippers strip"
stripclubspy
Michigan
Slickpeter posted an article titled "The real reason strippers strip" which gives a top-ten list... except that all ten reasons are "for the money". He then goes on to say that people on this site who complain about this just aren't being realistic or consistent with the way they treat other service providers (waitresses, doctors, etc.). I completely agree.
On the other hand, however, there is a very wide range of behaviors on display in SCs. I think us PLs are justified complaining about certain things from ROBs... miscounting songs, doing extras without discussing the price and then insisting on an above-market fee, demanding a bigger tip, etc. But I also have a couple of favs who will sit with me for hours, even after I've told them I don't have any money and won't be getting any dances. I've had dancers offer to buy me drinks after they've cleaned my wallet. It's a small thing, but it shows that they at least have the marketing savvy (just like a waitress does) to know that being nice might lead to future business. Definitely a step above the ROBs.
On the other hand, however, there is a very wide range of behaviors on display in SCs. I think us PLs are justified complaining about certain things from ROBs... miscounting songs, doing extras without discussing the price and then insisting on an above-market fee, demanding a bigger tip, etc. But I also have a couple of favs who will sit with me for hours, even after I've told them I don't have any money and won't be getting any dances. I've had dancers offer to buy me drinks after they've cleaned my wallet. It's a small thing, but it shows that they at least have the marketing savvy (just like a waitress does) to know that being nice might lead to future business. Definitely a step above the ROBs.
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Did she need the money? No. Do customers want to believe she dances for the money? Could they think otherwise even if she was worth tens of millions? I doubt it. Once people are programmed it is almost impossible to change their opinion.
Anyway, the host kept focusing on 2 facts: First she was too intelligent to take her clothes off for money. Second she was too hot to need the affirmation customers could provide. In his opinion it was insane for her to subject herself to being treated like a sex object.
Basically her articulated reasoning was something like she was tied of being appreciated for her mind. She wanted pawing and drooling men who didn't give a bit about her advanced degrees or mental abilities or career; boys please just appreciate this fine ass and titties.
Strippers who act like money is all they're interested in aren't giving their customers value and deserve to be scorned.
(1) ROBs who treat each customer like they will only see him once, and therefore must extract the most $$$ by any means - the pages of this website of full of such examples.
(2) Marketing savvy ones who at least understand that being nice and treating the PLs like they are important brings in more $$$ in the long run - again, many examples on this site, like the dancer who greets a guy as he comes in with "honey, i've missed you!" and a big kiss, then later tells her fav custie that the first guy is an asshole;
(3) Those who are open to forming actual friendships with regulars, and not just so they can take advantage of them. One of my favs likes to take me to the VIP just so we can talk and she can avoid the "finales" every 4 songs where all dancers who aren't in the VIP have to get up on stage. It doesn't hurt that I rub her back and shoulders while she's sitting on my lap. She doesn't charge me by the song, but just says "whatever you want to give me." Recently she's acted like she didn't want to go... the day shift would end, but she would stay with me well after, knowing it wasn't going to produce any more $$$. I thought that was sweet. Okay, I'm a rank sentimentalist... cut me some slack.
If you combine the following characteristics, you'll get a stripper in most North American contexts.
++ Female, physically at least "appealing enough"
++ Able to "stomach it"
++ Lack of any other longer-term career opportunities or plans
++ Greater interest in "social control" tactics than the average person, and probably a greater skill in it
++ Monetarily needy (perhaps because of an addiction, or simply because she has no other income); the "degree" is all relative, and some girls "need" $20 so bad they'll do four blowjobs for it, while others "need" $100,000 and consider anything less to be chump-change.
I would also suggest, the following have something to do with it:
++ Family / upbringing / acculturation that subtly approves of, or pushes toward, the idea that she is not a worthwhile human, except when she is using her body to please males (nobody ever valued her opinion)
++ Childhood / young adult-hood lack of capacity for longer-term programming and planning, because of (A) financial hardship or (B) lack of belief in self, or lack of belief that "the system" would allow her to bring about positive change
Subsequent to getting STARTED in stripping, then she gets ADDICTED to it, sometimes. The quick cash, the fact that she gets APPROVAL automatically while also getting paid; and, best of all, the fact that her hours are roughly her own, and her "party time" out with alcohol and strangers (mostly men, mostly trying to grope her) are money-INcome rather than money-OUTgo propositions.
For most, it's a fall-back position. But it still might be a fall-back that they use for 99% of their employment.
It's their job.
But there are many complexities and nuances as we've all found. Where else could a dancer match the money on a cash basis? No where (although some bartenders and waitresses come close). Dancer's I know who've left the business frequently complain about their low wages regardless of whether they end up in a low skill job or something requiring a degree!
Talking with former dancers who are contemplating returning for the big payouts I've heard two common themes when they hesitate about getting back into it:
1) they can do something better.
2) they don't want to degrade themselves anymore.
Both answers sound similar but reveal a different mindset.
From many long, drawn out, often drunken conversations (getting beyond the stripper shit), here are some of the other reasons they've told me they like to be dancers:
1. Bored at home.
2. Drink for free.
3. Flirting with men.
4. Being around other women so they can flirt with them.
5. Like controlling and manipulating men.
5. Don't like desk jobs (i.e. secretarial).
6. They like to show off or be or be an exibitionist.
7. Access to drugs.
But the most common rationale expressed about their work:
"Feed my babies." How more natural can you get?
Most of the successful dancers I've met have a good work ethic and skills that are transferable to other professions. Some take advantage of this--some don't.
It struck me that she was more intelligent than the average stripper, and that I wanted to have sex with her for money.
Then again, ya play with fire, ya might get burnt ... :(
I wonder how sales of clear heels were before they became normal stripper shoes?