The Reality of Being a Regular
Monday, January 6, 2014 12:00 AM
Being a dancer's regular customer has both advantages and disadvantages.
I am not a 'Wanna Dance' guy. I would rather spend my time with one or two regular girls than get dances from a bunch of different ones. I like to get to know them and look forward to coming in and visiting them.
I like that as soon as I walk in the door they come right over to see me, give me a big hug and seem happy that I am there. As a regular, my favorites are normally very generous with their time. They will sit and talk with me at the bar or when they are on stage. We talk about things that are going on in our lives, laugh and have a great time. In clubs where the house does not take a part of the dance fee per song, they don't "watch the clock" when they are doing dances for me. I hate to count song and I will normally just give them some money and tell them to dance until it runs out. You could easily get ripped off doing this if you are not one of their regular customer.
Most of my favorites have exchanged phone numbers with me so we can stay in touch. It is always nice getting sweet text message from one of them when I am having a crappy day at work.
On days when only a couple girls are working, being a regular makes me a priority with my favorite over the other guys in the club. I remember stopping by a club late one Saturday afternoon. Three of the dancers had called out, leaving only my favorite and another dancer. The owner of this place was a real tool. He would not leave the stage empty and made the two girls keep switching on stage - 4 songs on - 4 off. I just remember the look on the faces of some of the other guys when my favorite would get off stage after each set and come running straight over to me.
My favorites know what I like and don't like in back. One of the downsides is that after a while the dances may not be as hot as they give to someone they are trying to entice. I find this especially true with on stage dancing. Sometimes I will try to spice it up by saying something like "Have you learned any new dance moves that you can show me?"
Favorite's can become very possessive of their regular customers. They can quickly get used to the income and do not want to give it up. Many will make sure that the other dancers know you are "their regular" and to stay away. Other dancers also see how you treat your favorite and may want a part of it. I had one club vulture that whenever she saw my favorite was tied up would swoop over and try to get me to do dancers with her. She was so two-faced about it that it never worked. The smarter girls would acknowledge that you are here to see your favorite and just wanted to say hello or keep you company until she was free. They realized that if they got to know you and your favorite was out some day that you might spend some time (and money) with them. This approach has worked successfully with me and I have gained some backup favorites.
As a regular, I always hate it when multiple regulars show up at the same time. It puts the dancer in a tough spot as she tries to find time to spend with each of us. Ultimately, it means that I get less quality time during my stay or may loose out to a real big spender.
Most dancer try to stagger there regular customers so they can spend time with each of them, but it does not always work out that way. There was one girl I had been seeing for a couple months. Our schedules did not always match up very well, but when they did she knew I was good for a champagne room or two. I got a text message from her one afternoon at work saying she was working and would love to see me. My workload was fairly light that day as was able to rearrange my calendar and leave early. I let her know exactly when I would be there. So I left work early and did the 45 minute ride over to the club. I was at the club for about 15 minutes when she finally stopped by. She came over and chatted for a couple minutes when she said that one of her other regulars just arrived early and she would not be able o spend any time with me. She then had the nerve to say if I came back the next day at noon, she would have plenty of time to see me. This was the last time I ever came back to visit her.
In contrast, I recently surprised one of my current favorites one afternoon. She was sitting with some guy when I walked in, but soon came right over. She told me that she was real happy to see me and wished I had let her know that I was coming. She had made plans a few days earlier to spend the afternoon in the champagne room with a real big spender. She then went off to get one of her sweet and really hot girlfriends to spend the afternoon with me. I had always wanted to get to know her friend better but was afraid my favorite would get upset. Her friend and I had a great time that afternoon and she is now a backup favorite.
I have found that as a regular, I need to be careful not to expect more out of the relationship than what is really there. Over the last year, I have had three of my favorites leave dancing and move on with their lives. I hated to see them go, but was happy that they were reaching for their dreams and goals.
In all cases, when the move on they have broken all communication. At first I was hurt. I then realized that although 'Bambie' and I were great friends in the club, to 'Donna', I was just another customer. She was a smart business woman and understood that opening up and being real nice to her regular customers would pay off in the long run.
Even with some of the downsides, I still prefer to be a dancer's regular than just take my chances with whomever is working that night.
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