Why?
MondoGoGo
I haven't had the opportunity to extend the conversation we had that afternoon to delve further into why he visits strip clubs when he travels or what he gets out of the experience but it did sort of prompt me to think about my motivations and expectations.
I have been visiting strip clubs on and off since I was 17 and to be honest with you I enjoy the experience immensely. Traditionally I would only visit clubs a couple of times a year mostly while on business travel but recently I have been going out of my way to find clubs and have even manipulated my schedule so I could visit a club that I wanted to see based primarily on reviews here. In the 33 years I have been going to clubs I have never had full sex with a dancer and on only two occasions have I had any outside the club activity (once was when I gave a dancer a ride home after her car wouldn't start – resulted in a blow job in the car, and once when I asked a dancer if she would like to have breakfast with me after a long night of dancing – resulted in a soulful kiss good night).
Perhaps I am a pussy for not pressing harder for extras but when I go to a club I get legitimate thrill out of talking to the dancers and I don't mind paying for their attention one bit. I have to admit that I do like lap dances and I have had some very good times as the recipient of some very frisky LDs from some very attractive 20 something's but LDs aren't allowed in the clubs near me so I've learned to temper my expectations in that regard as well. For me I guess in the final analysis it boils down to intimacy not sex per se when it comes to why I visit strip clubs. I don't go to clubs expecting or even seeking sex although I gather by reading the posts by others on this site I am likely in the minority in that regard.
As a portly 50 yo white guy with reasonable but limited financial resources where else can I go and get the attention of attractive 20ish year old women? Not dance clubs, not anymore anyway, so strip clubs are my venue of choice. In a strip club the dancer knows why I am there and for a hundred bucks or so I can “buy†her attention and if she is good she might even convince me that she is genuinely interested in the conversation we are having. If she's really, really good I might just fall in love… ;-)
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I'm in my mid 40s, in shape and look younger. I'm not quite over the hill when it comes to "getting" attractive women. In recent years I've even been with a few college girls (I lived in a college town and used to hang out downtown). I have a couple of pseudo-girlfriends that I've been seeing off and on for many years, plus whatever women I meet around town and while traveling. I rarely go a month without sex. So I don't "need" SCs but I still enjoy the experience, without seeking extras. Eye candy for sure, but also the interaction and conversation with a variety of women. I love experiencing all their personalities. And while I'm not there to get off I sure don't mind feeling a sweet ass in my lap. Inspiration to keep my sex drive up.
If I'm in a relationship I would never go to a SC, and I don't really have a wandering eye. But while I'm single I'll enjoy all the female flesh and charm that I can.
If you guys want to just lay out the cash for the whole enchilada, or taco as it may be, then enjoy. If I'm still single in a few years I may be right there with you.
SC's saved my marriage.
Long story short, I just turned the big 40 last year and my mid-life crisis hit. I'm happy at home and all that, but for some reason I started wanting more variety and found myself actively considering an affair of some kind. After a few close calls I decided that I wasn't willing to risk my family for a fling, and I just resigned myself to being frustrated.
Then I went to Montreal for a conference. To make it more bearable, I invited my two best friends up to the city for the weekend. During the day I conferenced, during the evenings we went out and partied. One of my buddies suggested an SC, and we ended up at the Kamasutra (read my review for details).
Suffice it to say that I found the solution to my problem. At an SC I get to spend time with uber-hot women, I get sexy lap dances and watch eye candy. Yes, I pay cash for it, but for those of you who have been in long term relationships, you will know that you pay cash for them as well, in the end maybe more. SC's are fun as they are just slightly "illicit", so I get to feel like I'm doing something bad, but I don't end up starting a relationship with anyone else, nor do I bring home any unwelcome communicables as I could with an escort.
Yes, I don't get to close the deal with strippers, but I'm not looking for that.
So why do I go? Because I love hot women and I love my wife. Nothing wrong with that...
Peace,
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