Why?

MondoGoGo
I walked into one of my favorite clubs recently and while my eyes were still adjusting to the darkened interior lighting I heard my name called out and as I turned I was surprised to see one of my favorite dancers hanging on the arm of a coworker of mine. This scenario is stranger than it sounds because he works out of an office that is located 200 miles from the club in question. As it turns out he was in town for a meeting with one of his clients and before heading back home he thought that he would stop, grab a quick beer and check out some of the local talent. After I gave my favorite dancer a hug I invited my coworker/friend to sit down and have a drink with me which he heartily accepted. Long story short what I discovered that afternoon was that he, like me, enjoys visiting strip clubs while traveling on business to interact with the dancers and enjoy their company (to include lap dances and such where available). We didn't talk about “extra's” and outside the club activities but it was clear that he and I shared an appreciation for the attention of scantily clad attractive young women.

I haven't had the opportunity to extend the conversation we had that afternoon to delve further into why he visits strip clubs when he travels or what he gets out of the experience but it did sort of prompt me to think about my motivations and expectations.

I have been visiting strip clubs on and off since I was 17 and to be honest with you I enjoy the experience immensely. Traditionally I would only visit clubs a couple of times a year mostly while on business travel but recently I have been going out of my way to find clubs and have even manipulated my schedule so I could visit a club that I wanted to see based primarily on reviews here. In the 33 years I have been going to clubs I have never had full sex with a dancer and on only two occasions have I had any outside the club activity (once was when I gave a dancer a ride home after her car wouldn't start – resulted in a blow job in the car, and once when I asked a dancer if she would like to have breakfast with me after a long night of dancing – resulted in a soulful kiss good night).

Perhaps I am a pussy for not pressing harder for extras but when I go to a club I get legitimate thrill out of talking to the dancers and I don't mind paying for their attention one bit. I have to admit that I do like lap dances and I have had some very good times as the recipient of some very frisky LDs from some very attractive 20 something's but LDs aren't allowed in the clubs near me so I've learned to temper my expectations in that regard as well. For me I guess in the final analysis it boils down to intimacy not sex per se when it comes to why I visit strip clubs. I don't go to clubs expecting or even seeking sex although I gather by reading the posts by others on this site I am likely in the minority in that regard.

As a portly 50 yo white guy with reasonable but limited financial resources where else can I go and get the attention of attractive 20ish year old women? Not dance clubs, not anymore anyway, so strip clubs are my venue of choice. In a strip club the dancer knows why I am there and for a hundred bucks or so I can “buy” her attention and if she is good she might even convince me that she is genuinely interested in the conversation we are having. If she's really, really good I might just fall in love… ;-)

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shadowcat
14 years ago
Sounds like you have your head screwed on right.
dw.buck
14 years ago
your not the minority on here most of us go to SC for the same reasons you mentioned. some guys try adn shoot for xtras but it doesnt always work out. like your stories xtras just happen sometimes
georgmicrodong
14 years ago
I think finding someone I work with at a club would be...uncomfortable. Even if he's in town on business, like this encounter, it'd still goofy. After all, it's a more or less accepted practice for business travelers to go to clubs, what happens out of town stays out of town and all that. But me, I'm local, and if I'm going to a club, aside from as a preplanned "escort" for the out of towner, and a dancer recognizes me, then it's because I go there enough for her to recognize me, and I'm not exactly comfortable with that.
SometimeVoyager
14 years ago
Mondo, I too am that middle-aged man, showing the signs of good living and with adequate funds to ensure I'm able to have a good time when I visit clubs. Most of my clubbing is limited to occasions when I travel on business, as appears to be common among men who like to let their alter-ego in private. My experiences are similar to yours, I think it's a healthy thing. <p>Happy Clubbing!
dscott
14 years ago
I am impressed. It sounds like we TUSCL members have our shit together. Good work boys.
bumrubber
14 years ago
I have a very few friends I can go to SCs with but it's a secret from everyone else. Most who are closest to me would be shocked that I do such things.

I'm in my mid 40s, in shape and look younger. I'm not quite over the hill when it comes to "getting" attractive women. In recent years I've even been with a few college girls (I lived in a college town and used to hang out downtown). I have a couple of pseudo-girlfriends that I've been seeing off and on for many years, plus whatever women I meet around town and while traveling. I rarely go a month without sex. So I don't "need" SCs but I still enjoy the experience, without seeking extras. Eye candy for sure, but also the interaction and conversation with a variety of women. I love experiencing all their personalities. And while I'm not there to get off I sure don't mind feeling a sweet ass in my lap. Inspiration to keep my sex drive up.

If I'm in a relationship I would never go to a SC, and I don't really have a wandering eye. But while I'm single I'll enjoy all the female flesh and charm that I can.

If you guys want to just lay out the cash for the whole enchilada, or taco as it may be, then enjoy. If I'm still single in a few years I may be right there with you.
bigbadbob8
14 years ago
I'll probably be laughed off the boards for this, but what the hell, this is an interesting thread.

SC's saved my marriage.

Long story short, I just turned the big 40 last year and my mid-life crisis hit. I'm happy at home and all that, but for some reason I started wanting more variety and found myself actively considering an affair of some kind. After a few close calls I decided that I wasn't willing to risk my family for a fling, and I just resigned myself to being frustrated.

Then I went to Montreal for a conference. To make it more bearable, I invited my two best friends up to the city for the weekend. During the day I conferenced, during the evenings we went out and partied. One of my buddies suggested an SC, and we ended up at the Kamasutra (read my review for details).

Suffice it to say that I found the solution to my problem. At an SC I get to spend time with uber-hot women, I get sexy lap dances and watch eye candy. Yes, I pay cash for it, but for those of you who have been in long term relationships, you will know that you pay cash for them as well, in the end maybe more. SC's are fun as they are just slightly "illicit", so I get to feel like I'm doing something bad, but I don't end up starting a relationship with anyone else, nor do I bring home any unwelcome communicables as I could with an escort.

Yes, I don't get to close the deal with strippers, but I'm not looking for that.

So why do I go? Because I love hot women and I love my wife. Nothing wrong with that...

Peace,

Bigbadbob8
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