Hooking up with a dancer

1) Good Hygiene

2) Be interesting. Know a series of non mysoginist jokes, or be read up on something interesting (without being intimidating). Subjects like, aviation, finance, authors, movies, etc.

3) Dress for success

4) If you get extras from her on the first meet, that helps. If you tell her you want extras with body language (i.e. slipping your finger in her), it tells her you're not a vice cop. If you ask for extras, vocally, then OTC, she'll think you're a cop.

5) Don't ask her for OTC the first time you meet her. You have to cultivate an OTC date, so on the second meet, ask if she would consider OTC. If she says yes, don't push the subject (unless she asks if you have a hotel room). On the third meet, ask if she has a hotel preference. I know one gal who preferred a room at a hotel that was like a mini strip club. It had a small stage, stripper's pole, mini bar, circular bed, and of course-video on demand.

6) Lastly, you can impress her by not only tipping her well, but also the waitresses that serve your drinks. Sometimes, tippers have alliances with waitresses. At certain clubs, you can ask a waitress if she knows a dancer that does extras.

Be honest! Honesty breeds trust and trust spreads legs. Otherwise I agree with Dudester except item 6. Waitresses and other dancers can lead you astray.

A sense of humor helps with all girls.

There are some dancers in some clubs that are willing to do something called private parties. They may be willing for money act like an escort (not necessarily have sex though) and/or do private dances away from a club. I heard they like to get paid by the hour. This isn't something I'm interested in because why pay a dancer a lot of money away from the club if you're not getting much more out of it than when you're in a club? Dancers are after money so many will think of schemes to get more and be willing to lead novices on thinking they'll either go out with you if you keep buying dances or if they do go out, they may want money by the hour. Be careful what you ask for.

The dancers I did end up going out with without spending money on except possibly like a regular girlfriend were the ones that came up to me and made suggestions to me. I really just called it hanging out with a dancer since the first dancer I did this with was actually 2 years older than me and she suggested we go get a bite to eat the first time I saw her away from the club. She paid for her own meal too that night. Some clubs I knew were very strict on no dancer leaving with any customer. A dancer could get fired for doing that at one club I knew of. Another club didn't seem to care.

Ultimately, it comes down to being "desirable" on some level. That does not translate to being handsome, but simply means that you have to present yourself in such a way that she will want to spend time with you.

In that regard, hygiene and good attitude are basic and essential. Seeming interesting and fun also obviously helps. Beyond that, it naturally depends on each lady: how important a factor is money, how important are your looks, how important are your clothes, etc. There is no set formula for those things, and luck is a huge factor in meeting the right woman.

Because I doubt you are wealthy, in a successful band, or in the movie industry, there’s really only one surefire, works-every-time way that you can get almost any stripper you want: bring a lot of cocaine.

J: I don’t have any coke. How else can I fuck a stripper?
N8: Ah, you want a challenge. Too good to possess an illegal narcotic are you? Fine. Here are some other helpful hints: treat them like shit, blow them off, beat up their boyfriends, don’t be a sucker (i.e. give them any more than roughly ten dollars in a night), don’t be a deadbeat (i.e. fail to give them any money at all), and don’t speak in complete sentences (these chicks think they’re exploiting you because you’re dumb—let them think it, destroying their illusions will get you nowhere). Also, always lie about what you do for a living. I’m always a minor league baseball player who just got signed by the Yankees (they have a minor league team in Tampa), but you can be any athlete or entertainer you want. My buddy Mike gets far with “professional kick boxer.” I suggest youpick the sport or entertainment industry segment you know the most about. Always take them to a motel (just trust me on this one, you do not want them knowing where you live) and only drink straight alcohol in front of them (you’re a pansy if you need coke in your Jack Daniels). In the end though, it’s just easier to have a bunch of cocaine. Trust me on this.

This was a quote from someone who claims to have dated two strippers. (http://www.pointsincase.com/columns/nath…)

Of course, this is just one guy's view on things so take it with a grain of salt...good luck to you though!

Unfortunately, I have to agree with Samsungs analysis. Drugs are the most successful elixir for these women. It might not work every time, but it has the greatest chance. You can have bad hygiene, speak like a cro-magnon, be completely broke, have a 2inch pecker, look like a drooling troglodyte, but tell one of these girls you got a lotta blow to party with and all of a sudden your a freakin GOD!! Just another reason I don't like strippers.

I have to disagree with Samsung. I don't use drugs and wouldn't even know where to get them. I do just fine being me. I know a few that are drug users but they have never asked me for any. They don't even mention drug use. I have also never had to pay for their company. I have paid for play. The last one I saw OTC for lunch was a heroin addict. I knew who her supplier was. Another dancer at the club, who is now going through rehab. I paid the first $120 for an afternoon delight after lunch. The supplier has agreed to meet me at my hotel room for $150. However, she is ground meat and steak is on the menu. The one before that was a coke user. We once did FS OTC at her hotel room for $100 but she had to give her brother $20 of that to get rid of him for an hour. Yes, I know that he was her brother because I was introduced to him twice. I am meeting one for lunch next Wednesday. She is not a drug user. In fact works in a medical profession. I told her that I was going to have to cut down on my strip club spending because I was retiring from work. She said "I don't care about the money. I just enjoy your company".

There is a favorite of mine that offered to meet me for lunch but she wanted to get paid for her time. She is also the only favorite that has tried to get me to splurge for the Champagne Room. She is known for being the hardest worker at the club but also known as the biggest drunk. 2 DUI's in the last 6 months. On each occasion I have simply relied "C'mon. This is me. Get real". So why do I keep her around? Great lap dances. Last time we did 6 songs ending in a BBBJ. She asked for $100. NO! Then $80. NO. She settled for $60. Over the years I have lost many drug using favorite dancers. They all got fired from the club and moved away. Moral "Drugs are not always the answer".

Do not go into a strip club with any amount of cocaine. Big mistake. Don't do it. Bad, bad, terrible idea.

I assume, based on one story I have heard, you could substitute methamphetamine for cocaine in the above posts and it would still hold true. I knew about a dancer once who, if you had any amount of meth on you, would let you do what you wanted with her, but she ended up blowing her brains out.

Cocaine's not a narcotic, is it? It's a stimulant ...

Eh, just a little technical point.

1. Money talks. Depending on the situation location girl club jurisdiction phase of the moon, everyone has a price. Within that assumption, however, there are other factors that can mitigate against total bankruptcy.

2. The "desirability" factors above. Especially with younger or less expeienced girls, the more you seem like she can fool herself into thinking, "Actually, I really enjoy it, and the money is icing on the cake," types of rationalizations, then the more likely you can get with her. Hygiene, "coolness" (I never have cracked that code, but it has something to do, with knowing a lot of stuff but not showing it off, and yet being able to cooperate with her interest in hearnig about a lot of stuff from you), clothing, smell, shaving (SHAVE DAMMIT! stubble hurts; more than one girl I know of, refuses lappers, or refuses face-to-tits, with any guy whose face might hurt her skin), etc.

3. Attitude. A close corrollary to desirability. A snot-nosed hairy behemoth with garlic breath who drives a 94 Civic likely pays more if he bores a girl than if he enthralls her with his witty repartee. And, since we're all of us probably snot-nosed hairy behemoths with garlic breath who drive 94 Civics, we need to learn to be decent funny fun people.

3.a. However, women respond oddly to attitude signals. Note that if you are super-nice, friendly, sweet, and desperately determined to give her everything that she wants, this may turn her OFF rather than on. This has something to do with the fact that, instinctively, when a human female seeks male cotact, what she needs is someone that she's sure is going to protect and provide for her and the inevitable offspring. That means he has to be pussy-whipped enough to stick around; but aggressive enough to fend off rival males, defend her from lions, and hunt down gazelles for her to eat. Funny mix, most men don't understand it. Be nice, but not at the expense of being independent of her. Need her, but don't be needy. She wants to think she's "caught" you. Of course, that's more applicable to "real" dating than to stripper-services. Strippers can factor out the "is he a weakling?" part of the equation (if they're self-aware enough to do so) because the "provide" part of the equation is determined solely by the monetary exchange.

4. And, something that people haven't mentioned, logistics. "Which hotel do you prefer" hints at this issue. If there's nowhere to go fuck, then she might refuse the transaction more out of worry about the annoyance, loss of time, or general boredom, than out of revulsion about you. If the private rooms are not conducive to fucking -- you didn't tip the bouncer and waitress to leave you alone? there are cameras? this just isn't done in this club? -- then don't bother to put in a lot of energy to try to get girls to give you in-club services. In many (most!) places, it just isn't done. Sure, a few adventurous gals may want to be the first to help you put cum-stains on the new carpet and are willing to risk getting kicked out of that particular club permanently, but that's an advanced technique which depends on the number of other clubs in the area where she can go work, the general jurisdictional restrictions and attitude toward that sort of stuff, whether or not Vinnie the bouncer just kicks her out or kicks her out and kicks her butt (and YOUR butt).

Logistics is a tough nut to crack. If it isn't there (and believe me, girls are ALWAYS worrying about logistics -- just look at how fucking elaborate they get about taking a goddamn BATH!) then not only will YOU have a rough time making the act take place, but also SHE will be put off and probably less cooperative. She doesn't want one of those "oh, no, that hotel was booked, let's go across the street, oh, no, it's booked too" nights. She wants it all to "just happen," whether she's a stripper or a civilian.

"It just happened" -- chick-language for "the guy did all sorts of bullshit to work out the logistics and then seduce me so that I could lie to myself, pretend that I had no agency in the event, blame him if it doesn't turn out right, and basically remain a frivolous childish flighty but sweet delightful girlie-girl after I fuck him like the craven desperate nymphomaniacal horn-dog gaping slut that I really want to sometimes play at being."

That's a sad story, Dan. But it sounds about right. Meth apparently grabs hold of its users VERY tightly.

"I don't use drugs and wouldn't even know where to get them."

Alcohol is a drug moron...did you empty your liquor cabinet yet scat??

If you wanna hook up with a dancer, then you must not go to a high end strip club. High end strip clubs are like the Cheetah or Pink Pony type. Those girls want too much money.

This applies to all women:
The most important thing is money.
You can get any woman you want if you can make her laugh.

If she thinks you have enough money to be worthwhile and she really laughs at your cute, funny comments then you're in.

DON'T!

Book Guy, your final paragraph is perfect.

"This applies to all women:
The most important thing is money.
You can get any woman you want if you can make her laugh."

Maybe many women, but certainly not ALL.