Pay First versus Pay After in VIP
whghIost
Georgia
I have tried many VIP. Most of them allowed me to pay after VIP session, but a few have demanded to be paid up front. Most of time, if I pay after, I get a good performance from the girl. In the other case, I have been ripped off moreso. Those girls would say that it is the club policy and the bouncers would agree with them. Plus, it is not a good subject to ask about before you go in the VIP. It is hard to tell which dancers are honest and are cons. I got con a few time and the girl was sweet.
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I have had girls who I don't know very well, note "that was five, do you want to keep going?" A little reminder of the tab. That's annoying, but it only happens rarely. And they usually aren't there the next time...
There must be an appropriate maxim such as you ain't got the money until you got the money. I know. Don't count your chickens before they hatch! Haven't met too many dancer who didn't understand this and act accordingly!!!
Because *you* will automatically pay the girl the agreed price somehow that means other customers will behave similarly? Sounds wacked. Club Angels saw 2 young men and perhaps 1 young woman have their lives destroyed because 1 of them refused to pay for a $20 VIP dance. That he refused to pay wouldn't have surprised anyone nor would the end result of at least 1 death or beating.
First young man refuses for whatever reasons to pay the $20. Second young man does his job and beats him to the ground. First young man responds by getting gun and shooting second young man dead.
Police immediately apprehend first young man after milking by attorneys (of the taxpayers) he gets life (no prior problems with the police, btw).
Young woman is crying her eyes out at the funeral of second young man blaming herself for wanting the $20. Second young man left a young bride and young baby behind.
SOLUTION: Ban strip clubs? Ban guns? Ban post-pay? Celebrate the fact that the lives of all 3 young people involved is evanescent? (They were all so young and it would surprise me if all 3 weren't dead by now----perhaps even all 5 thinking of young bride and young baby. At least they didn't die for medals or a flag. Damn the young woman was so sweet and sexy; she thought she was normal.)
For me it has been 50/50, but the ones that aren't worth the time truly aren't worth the time. Just giving 'em the money to leave would have been a better deal.
Those that were worth the time and wanted to do a good job the issues were usually inexperience, manager ordered girls to get money first, recent rip-off or rip-offs by customers. The latter 2 reasons probably accounted for 90% or more of the girls wanted the money upfront as well as being the reason the manager ordered the girls to get money first. The dancers at Angels overwhelming HATE it when a manager starts that bullshit because they believe is slashes their profits.
NEVER: Pay before service.
SIMPLE
Also, there is a pretty good rule that if the dancer isn't doing a good job after 1 or 2 dances drop her. It took Gambling dancer over 6 dances before she started acting like she wanted my business and even then it didn't seem like the money was motivating her. How many dances was I willing to go? Probably a little or a lot over 10 dances ($50 = $5 X 10 dances).
Anyway that was many years ago. Although I do talk to her (rarely), her refusal to do paid dances for me remains steadfast.
1. Check the girl out by getting a private lapper, or two, from her, to figure out how much MORE activity she'd LEGITIMATELY be offering. Pay after the lappers (or even, in extreme circumstances, before) the relatively small sum it costs for lappers.
2. Then go for greater levels of service. Pay the bigger sum for bigger service after.
My point simply was that solution (never pre-pay) has costs that may not be worth the savings. :)
You've gotta make these girls stand correct and stop playing the fool.
Dancerhusband: SOME girls will ask to SEE the money first, but if I don't completely trust the girl, she doesn't get to hold it. And if she isn't compliant then I get up in the middle, and start to leave. Most girls will stop you before you even get up. They don't want to get into trouble and they DO want your money. You guys just have to get your $#it together, tighten your game, and stop letting these girls rule you.
I know a few dancers here and there and they actually RESPECT the men who know how to play the game, as long as those men pay well.
What you say is my modus operandi. Only once have I been ripped. As always, I paid the room fee up front. Where I made my mistake was not getting a $ fee from the very HOT dancer first. She wanted a bit more then what I had, and normally, that is my limit. The wrong head figured, use the ATM, but of course, I do not take my card with me, just for that reason. She wouldn't lower her $'s to what I had, so that ended that. When I asked for my room fee back, it was "no way" from the bartender (not the one I know well). I asked for the manager, and got the same from him. I left and did not go to that club again. I hope that small room fee made up for all the money I no longer spent in that club. Some time later, MY bartender heard of this and called me. She told me all those involved had been fired for that sort of thing. I went back and all was back to normal. But I never saw the hot dancer again.
I have only had one dancer ask to see the cash before the dance. I let her "peek" at all I had (much more than what she asked for), and got one very good "dance". I guess she was hoping to get all I had. She didn't.
It's really just a question of terminology, but to me, when you start to combine the $200 and the $20 (in the above example) into the same concept, no matter what you CALL it, you're creating a communication problem. That's because the two are "earned" by means of entirely different phases of the process.
I only see where one offhandedly refereed to anything other than the room fee as a tip. I think, perhaps, that was just a slip. I believe we all know the difference between the agreed upon service fee and a tip.
Yes, you're right. That is a good general rule. And, I think even with a crooked dancer it is better to pay after rather than before. There might be enough doubt in her mind as to whether you'll pay if given a poor dance that she decide to pick on someone who is easier.
Similarly, on the same terminology kick: I've seen sexual services consistently referred to as "extras," even to the point of "I paid for a handjob and she gave me the extra for a tip." Stupid usages. They point out a general discomfort we feel with announcing publicly our interest in sexual services. If you pay for a service, then it's not "extra" to the contract; it IS the contract. And the dollars aren't "tip" dollars, they're the FEE. Regardless of what was served up was "supposed" to happen at that club or not.
But I admit, I've capitulated to the "extra" terminology. If I go to a standard lap-dance strip-club, and also get a handjob, I might refer to this as an "extras-friendly club, where the dances are $20 and the extras cost extra." Seems almost tautological to say ...
You are so correct about the term "tip"! It isn't just in the SC industry, but all across our land. I always thought a "tip" was a reward for service ABOVE the norm. Not so any longer. "Tips" are EXPECTED for ANY service, be it pitiful to exceptional. Not only that, restaurants have decided how much you WILL tip in a party of 6-8 or more! Give me a break! Just this last Wednesday, I was at a restaurant with about 20 people in out group. Each bill included an 18% tip. The service, decent, but nowhere near "above normal". I wonder what would be said if I refused to pay? Might be fun to try next week!
Oh, and ever notice the following? At fast-food places, we tip if it's the sort of place where white, middle-class, college-attending, yuppie, bohemian-dressed people work: Starbucks, coffee shops, snack bars on campus. But we don't tip if it's the sort of place where minority lower-class uneducated people work: McDonald's, Taco Bell. But both sorts of places often offer almost identical menus and do definitely offer the same type of service -- walk-up-to-the-counter service.
The only places like you mention, that I tip are limited to two. Here, in South Florida, most of the coffee shops in county buildings are run by the blind. Those people I tip! They are not sitting on their collective asses looking for a handout. The other place, a "local" pizza shop. Having owned one and knowing the work that goes into it, I tip the people running the shop when I pick up the pie.
As for clubs, I tip the bartenders a bit, IF they are quick to serve me, say under 10 seconds. Dancers, ONLY if they do something to deserve it. Walking by me and asking for a tip, is NOT deserving!