This pertains to someone who is headed toward being a current favorite: Somehow she was suggested to me as a contact on one of the social media sites. It's definitely her real profile.
I'm primarily worried about accidentally referring to her by her actual name in conversation, especially if I've had a drink or two. I guess I better be real careful.
Why not just be honest about it? I've had several girls tell me their first names and a couple tell me their full names. One girl had her full name tagged to her phone number when she texted me. I told her and she was totally cool about it. As long as doesn't think you're a stalker, it might be OK.
Yeah, I like what @azdd and @pachomp are saying here. You should tell her that you have no interest in her private life, but wanted her to know that she needs to tighten up her OPSec.
I know so many dancers by their real names. The problem is know when to use which name. Who else knows her by both names?
I know a lot. I’ve done taxes for some. When I was younger I knew some outside the club not P4P. Some ask for Zelle and their real names pop up. Some say they don’t care. Of my favs I pretty much know all of their names and more about them.
As far as I'm concerned, it's a non-issue. I wouldn't go out of my way to bring it up, but if it came up in conversation I wouldn't shy away from it. I don't do social media, but I have had conversations with strippers about them showing up as suggestions or others showing as suggestions for them. It doesn't seem rare.
I know quite a few strippers by their real names, its never really been an issue. I can't say ever ever had an issue using the wrong one at a bad time. But I do agree with shadow that sometimes it gets uncertain OTC. There's been a couple of instances where I've seen them out in public and I can't tell if they're with friends, stripper or straight co-workers, clients, or what.
If you accidentally use her name, explain why you know it. Very little chance she'll have an issue with it. May be helpful to tell her your real first and last name. Especially if you're not single (Mutual Assured Destruction worked in The Cold War).
I have known the real names of several of my stripper regulars and phone numbers or email addresses of some too. Out of them, I arranged to have dinner with just one after she left stripping. In that particular case she seemed like a different person than when she was in the strip club, more quiet, withdrawn and serious and less warm, friendly and affectionate. Strippers often adopt a different personality in their stripper jobs than their real one. I prefer their stripper personalities so make no effort to see them after their stripper days are over.
It's pretty simple. If you're talking to her in the club, use her stage name. If you're engaging in pillow talk before or after fucking, use her stage name. If you're meeting her mom and dad, use her real name. If you're out with your family and happen to see her, don't fucking talk to her.
"Accidentally" using her real name when you're in the club is just sloppy. Do better.
It's easy in Louisville. Nureen is the real and fake name of all strippers in Kentucky.
My problem is when they tell me their “real” name (who knows, unless they show their ID, which has happened a few times) but I’m too stoned to remember it so I just keep calling them by their stage name. It’s like rejecting a friendly gesture. But I also don’t invest a lot of bandwidth in remembering the stage names. Worst is when I invent a professional-sounding alias when I save their number in my contacts and then totally forget it
Many dancers at my regular club dance under their own name, so it’s not really a problem for me most of the time. I agree with @georgmicrodong for the most part. The only difference is that if I’m pillowtalking with a dancer OTC who happens to different stage and real names, I’ll use her real name. Because we’ve usually known each other for quite some time anyway.
I would go so far as to say that using a dancer’s real name in a club where she is using a different stage name is far more than sloppy. That is a mortal sin and a one-way ticket to shitsville. I’ve never done that myself, but I once saw another guy do that. The dancer tore him a new one and then she and a couple other dancers kicked him out of the club. The manager just sat there, shook his head, and laughed.
what would your reaction be if you find out the real name is barney or jeremiah?
My memory is not too good on names anyway... It usually just becomes part of the wonderful blur of beautiful women and experiences...
They have names? 😂😂
Stick to Cubans, they all answer to mi amor.
not a big deal. That is how most stalker find them.. but with so many social platforms they use it happens. Very few can keep their aliases straight on which platform they are using and some have their real names associated with the different platforms. Just like your situation and also friends of friend or following users. just dont be a dick about it.
If I see them out in public, I just avoid using any names, at least until someone with her uses her name then I know what to go with at that time.
^^^LMFAO @Icey if 'it doesn't really even matter' then why do you get so butthurt about people knowing you have a TUSCL account?
Who cares if a hooker that you pay knows that you pretended to try to kill yourself over one? Or that you need drugs to get with one? 🤭🤡🤣
It is called stalking
This has happened to me multiple times. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I usually just tell the dancer that they popped up as a suggested friend in Facebook or wherever, and assure them I don’t have any interest in their private life. I also advise them to make their social media sites private so only confirmed feiends can see all their info. This will often happen when you have a dancer’s phone number in your phone and use social media on the same device.