Accidentally found out Stripper's Real Name

This has happened to me multiple times. I don’t think it’s a big deal. I usually just tell the dancer that they popped up as a suggested friend in Facebook or wherever, and assure them I don’t have any interest in their private life. I also advise them to make their social media sites private so only confirmed feiends can see all their info. This will often happen when you have a dancer’s phone number in your phone and use social media on the same device.

Why not just be honest about it? I've had several girls tell me their first names and a couple tell me their full names. One girl had her full name tagged to her phone number when she texted me. I told her and she was totally cool about it. As long as doesn't think you're a stalker, it might be OK.

Yeah, I like what @azdd and @pachomp are saying here. You should tell her that you have no interest in her private life, but wanted her to know that she needs to tighten up her OPSec.

Its not a big deal

Dont mention it. You probably popped up on her feed too

I know so many dancers by their real names. The problem is know when to use which name. Who else knows her by both names?

I know a lot. I’ve done taxes for some. When I was younger I knew some outside the club not P4P. Some ask for Zelle and their real names pop up. Some say they don’t care. Of my favs I pretty much know all of their names and more about them.

As far as I'm concerned, it's a non-issue. I wouldn't go out of my way to bring it up, but if it came up in conversation I wouldn't shy away from it. I don't do social media, but I have had conversations with strippers about them showing up as suggestions or others showing as suggestions for them. It doesn't seem rare.

I know quite a few strippers by their real names, its never really been an issue. I can't say ever ever had an issue using the wrong one at a bad time. But I do agree with shadow that sometimes it gets uncertain OTC. There's been a couple of instances where I've seen them out in public and I can't tell if they're with friends, stripper or straight co-workers, clients, or what.

Out here dancers are open with their names and info.

If it does make you feel awkward or uncomfortable. Just let her control the level of how well you know each other. When its just transactional thats the radiates way to handle it.

If you accidentally use her name, explain why you know it. Very little chance she'll have an issue with it. May be helpful to tell her your real first and last name. Especially if you're not single (Mutual Assured Destruction worked in The Cold War).

I have known the real names of several of my stripper regulars and phone numbers or email addresses of some too. Out of them, I arranged to have dinner with just one after she left stripping. In that particular case she seemed like a different person than when she was in the strip club, more quiet, withdrawn and serious and less warm, friendly and affectionate. Strippers often adopt a different personality in their stripper jobs than their real one. I prefer their stripper personalities so make no effort to see them after their stripper days are over.