When does a guy become a slut?
njscfan
This second informal poll relates somewhat to the spending question I posted previously. In our sexist world, we normally use the word "slut" to refer to women, which of course is unfair, given that guys probably sleep around just as much or more than women on average. When, I wonder, do we ever think of ourselves as crossing that line into slutdom?
So I've tried to frame the question in a way that would not require any of us to reveal embarrassing personal information. Here's the question:
How many different girls would you have to sleep with in one 12 month period before you would become too embarrassed to reveal that number to people on this board?
So no one has to give a precise number, I figured a range of options would be proper:
*Anything more than 1
*2 to 5
*5 to 10
*10 to 20
*more than 20
*never
Get it? In other words your self-defined slut threshold would be low if you would be too embarrassed to admit to sleeping with more than 1 woman in a given year. It would be relatively high, on the other hand, if you would not be red faced even for admitting to having sex with more than 20 in the last 12 months.
I'm defining "sex" here a little more narrowly -- it's gotta be at least a blowjob if not actual vaginal penetration. If we included the number of different girls who rubbed your dick in the last year, I know many of you would lose count.
Also, bear in mind it's the number of different sex partners that makes you a slut, not the number of times you have sex. If you have 1 mistress and fuck her every week, then you are only sleeping with two women in the course of the year (the mistress and your wife, assuming you still have sex with your wife, lol).
For myself I would say my slut threshold is pretty high, but it does exist. I would be somewhat chagrined to admit to having sex with more than 20 different women in a given year, but I feel anything less than 20 makes me feel almost virtuous.
So when would you start feeling slutty?
So I've tried to frame the question in a way that would not require any of us to reveal embarrassing personal information. Here's the question:
How many different girls would you have to sleep with in one 12 month period before you would become too embarrassed to reveal that number to people on this board?
So no one has to give a precise number, I figured a range of options would be proper:
*Anything more than 1
*2 to 5
*5 to 10
*10 to 20
*more than 20
*never
Get it? In other words your self-defined slut threshold would be low if you would be too embarrassed to admit to sleeping with more than 1 woman in a given year. It would be relatively high, on the other hand, if you would not be red faced even for admitting to having sex with more than 20 in the last 12 months.
I'm defining "sex" here a little more narrowly -- it's gotta be at least a blowjob if not actual vaginal penetration. If we included the number of different girls who rubbed your dick in the last year, I know many of you would lose count.
Also, bear in mind it's the number of different sex partners that makes you a slut, not the number of times you have sex. If you have 1 mistress and fuck her every week, then you are only sleeping with two women in the course of the year (the mistress and your wife, assuming you still have sex with your wife, lol).
For myself I would say my slut threshold is pretty high, but it does exist. I would be somewhat chagrined to admit to having sex with more than 20 different women in a given year, but I feel anything less than 20 makes me feel almost virtuous.
So when would you start feeling slutty?
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4 = starting to get uneasy
5 = definite man-whore
A dude who fucks three butt-ugly desperate over-age moustached fat slags is a dude who is a male-slut, because he does sex without self-respect. However, a dude who has fucked three hundred different Playboy bunnies is not a male-slut, he's a hero.
300 is way too high in any case, I don't care who they are/who the guy fucking them is.
Also I disagree that fucking a woman, any woman unpaid = success. There has to be a quality bar, otherwise it could just mean you found a slut or she was drunk or both or your own standards are otherwise very low.
But honestly, if the 20-300 women I'm banging are hot, I'm not gonna care a whole lot whether that makes me a slut or a hero.
On the other hand, a man's biological destiny is to create as many little Himselves as possible. Therefore, frequent and varied sexual activity (preferably procreative, although it is certainly appropriate to view non-procreative sexual activity, oral, anal, etc., as salutory "practice" for the real thing) is not only permissible, it is part of the Divine plan.
(I have to rest here at the thought of the enormity of it all).
Male sexual activity is to be encouraged on a linear "more is better" basis. Therefore, there is no "excessive" male sexuality, so there is no such thing as a male slut. Or, to put it in syllogistic form:
Major premise: A "slut" is a person who engages in sexual activity to excess.
Minor premise: No male person can engage in sexual activity to excess.
Conclusion: Therefore, no male person can be a slut.
At the common law, there was an offense of "common scold", which referred to a meddlesome, quarrelsome, unruly woman. A man could not be prosecuted as a "common scold"; by definition, the offense only applied to women (the only common law offense restricted to a particular gender). Being a slut is like that.
jeeze your all sluts on my book LOL
And then there really are STDs.
And then there is how excessive promiscuity interact with social standing.
And then there is the matter of meme propagation over gene propagation which I am still waiting for the evolutionary psychologists to start studying.
And then there are "addiction" issues. (Related to fathering quality, basically is there better way he could be spending his time rather than knocking up yet another female?)
So all these factors come into equilibrium, such that there really is a such a thing as excess male sexual activity.
If it was NOT a trick question, what conclusions do you draw from the answers, NJSCFAN?
Unless you believe (as chitown lawyer argues) that men are never sluts, by definition, then I don't think it matters whether you pay or not, the number of women may define you in the eyes of some as a slut. I think some folks are being a little less than honest with themselves on that score. I think most guys who have lots of sex with lots of different women (paid or unpaid) don't advertise that fact widely, because they are worried about what others will think. Notice that no one here -- even on tuscl -- volunteered the number of different women they boinked in the last year -- not even chandler who claims a high body count would make him a hero.
I bet as many guys here are timid about reporting their stats because they are embarrassingly low. No matter what your body count may be, isn't it the kind of thing you keep to yourself because on an anonymous board it's bound to come off sounding like a hollow boast? BTW, mine's 3.
Oddly, I think Shadowcat hit the nail on the head, although unintentionally, to be sure. On tuscl it's fine to be a dirty old man, that is, a pervert who likes to watch naked ladies and have them rub against you. But it crosses the line to want to fuck those very same ladies. In a nation where porn is king and sex lives are arid (as bob dylan put it, "limited in sex they dare/ to push fake morals, insult and stare"), I guess it is not surprising that it is viewed as more honorable to be a pervert than a slut.
Frankly I find the guys who want to stop before sex and just get lap dances either dishonest, or weird. Not something I can comprehend at all. But, my own MO is probably just as incomprehensible to them, so I certainly say "live and let live" on this one.
Believe it or not, the next morning I was not proud of myself and I started discarding the others, narrowed it to one who broke my heart.
I had to do a double-take when I read your first post....I thought it was from that assclown (old what's-it's-name), and I wondered why my "ignore" feature wasn't working anymore.
Good one.
So, I'm not too familiar with this "free" sex thing you all speak of.... resent being called a PL for paying for it. Might be PL if paid too much for it. Would rather think of that as just being a novice sex purchasing agent.
Did get free sex in a club one time. Dancer I had known a few years before was gone for a while and came back. She recognized me, asked how I had been, wanna dance. OK. Half way thru 1st song, we are one. Get done during 2nd song. She says no charge for the dances, no tip; just wanted to say hi. Never saw her again.
No drink, no tip, didn't even have to pay cover charge that day. No aftershocks either. So that was free. Even in college had to buy dinner, drinks, weed or something.
Now if you were to call someone a male slut or playa or whatever, he would have been the guy. One of my college roomates had between 8 to 20 girlfriends. He had me lying on the phone (was all landlines back then) to several of them. Just little things like he wasn't there right now or other little things. hmmm, I actually thought it was funny when I heard him say he didn't want to pay long distance but was going to call up this one girl. He talked for a minute and then I heard "The fire alarm just went off!" Someone made a firealarm sound. Then he asked if she could
call him back in about 5 minutes. She did. We were all just sitting there. He claimed he only had 8 girlfriends. One of his friends say he had 20. Apparently he never broke up with them.
Maybe the term we should be using is player. How many girls does a guy have to sleep with to be a player or visa versa for girls? Or does the number even matter? Maybe a player is just taking advantage of someone.
LOPAW - ASSCLOWN?!?! I love that its my new term of the month!
Of course, it is a source of pride! :) I just don't want to be called James Bond again when it isn't being done as a source of reverence---assuming that I could brag about broads banged. ;)
But Im from a direspectful media influnced generation. LOL
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UPiFhjCxX…
Isn't that a great term? I have found myself using it much more lately, which is a sad commentary on my view of some of society's low-end DNA pool denizens. I also refer to them as "the island of misfit toys" people. *sigh*
When I start throwing out "fucktard", then things are REALLY skating downhill fast. :p
I remember one very well. I had gone to a party with a friend. After it had died down, he and I sort of hung out a bit with the two women who's apartment we were in. Well, after my friend and one of the women departed to a bedroom, the other woman and I talked a bit. Soon, we were both asleep. I ended up on the floor and she on the sofa. She woke me some time later and told me, with open arms, that she was cold. I got her a blanket.
lopaw- I like fucktard too. "Island of misfit toy" sounds like my club
but a women who sleeps around with women is a player
Im Bi so what am I???? LOL
You're a SLAYER.