how to tell a customer to take it out??
Wednesday, August 21, 2024 10:13 PM
extras aren't allowed at my club but obviously there's ways around that to make the dance more enjoyable for me and whoever i'm dancing for...if im not in a private room the dances are in booths that depending how busy it is sometimes they're empty or full and i don't want other dancers overhearing our conversation so how do i let the guy know im fine with him taking his dick out without explicitly saying it or doing it myself?? i'm kinda shy lol like i tell them you can take your belt off, get comfortable, etc even when they adjust their pants ill do an air dance for a bit so they can do whatever they want but no one takes the hint...:(
and side note for anyone that gets a dancer that lets you do this please be considerate and discrete and cover up when necessary (position changes, someone walks past...) some guys are soo inconsiderate lmao
and side note for anyone that gets a dancer that lets you do this please be considerate and discrete and cover up when necessary (position changes, someone walks past...) some guys are soo inconsiderate lmao
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the non extras club that you're working at now: does management allow barside grinds to take place? if yes and no one is looking, and also the guy is slick, then dick out is very doable.
No one takes the hint, huh? Right. I'm not taking the bait.
and i work at the best club in my city and have no reason to travel. i'm not saying extra curricular activities don't happen and but anything obviously has to be done really discretely
i guess a lot of guys that come in are under the impression it's a really strict club (some of them think they can't even touch me and it trips me out) so they don't even consider it. but even guys id expect to be freaky with me don't even try.
i swear when i first started dancing i had so many guys trying to do this now i get like no horny customers. idk if it's because i look way better and not as innocent as before or what...now that i type this i realize it's probably that...i guess customers think if a girl is too hot she won't be freaky??
Another approach is to slide your panties to the side, then when he looks at your face you look down at his zipper. Kind of a your turn move. Its less direct, and you may have to give him some sort "yeah" or "yay" kinda encouragement once he starts.
Personally, I don't buy into the "hot girls don't do anything" stuff. I've seen very little correlation. Girls who try hard to project the fact that they have high opinions of themselves tend to be a bit tame. But that has nothing to do with my perception of their hotness.
I'd have to guess it's the air dancing that's causing guys to tone it down. I know that's the effect it has on me. The other effect it has is that I'm going to stop buying dances, and if it's a common theme from all the girls I'll stop going to that club.
but im not a man so i guess i don't know what goes through you guys head
anyways you guys are giving great advice!!
I tend to give each identity the benefit of the doubt till it becomes clear it's bullshit. so, in that spirit...
For the air dancing bit, to me it absolutely means things are going too far and the dancer is trying to cool things down. I have no idea if my interpretation is the prevailing one or not though.
In any case, you can back away to give me room to adjust or unzip without getting all the way off my lap and risking me thinking you want me to cool it.
Not sure most men need coaxing to do so.
You want to shift the risk from yourself to him by having him take it out. If you then get caught you can deny having anything to do with it - he just took it out; he must be a pervert!!! And you will keep your job, while the customer gets kicked out.
Unzip his fly half way. Hopefully, he'll follow through by fully unzipping his fly and then you can complete the job by taking it out.
As far as dancers genuinely enjoying dances, i dont get why people are saying only a small percentage of dancers would genuinely enjoy the dances. Its the same as horse riding; rubbing the clit feels good for them. Of course, the ones who are doing air dances, wont enjoy the dances as much because theyre air dancing not grinding.
The question of whether giving a grinding lapdance feels good for the girl, is akin to asking if masturbating feels good. For most people/most scenarios it does.
and @wisetoo literally wtf are you talking about?? again putting words into my mouth. the only way we'd get caught is if i stand up and the guys dick is on full display because he's dumb enough to not cover himself up when i stand up or something. you realize i lose my job too if that happens? (which it won't because im not retarted) i don't want to take it out myself because that's really obvious to the cameras and everyone else around me. i mean i guess i could be sneaky about it but why when i can just get the guy to do it himself and put himself in the position he feels comfortable in
let's try not making things up and being rude to someone that has nothing to do with your delusions
You asked literally wtf are you talking about? I'm not putting words in your mouth. You wrote, "i don't want to take it out myself because that's really obvious to the cameras and everyone else around me." Yet you seem to think the guy can take it out and NOT be obvious to the cameras ... Why is it obvious to the cameras when you take it out, but NOT obvious when the guy takes it out?
You want the guy to take it out because you can deny any responsibility should it get caught on camera which you can't do if the camera captures you with your hands on the goods. It's that simple. I hope you understand.
and hope i see you. your attitude is refreshing!
Besides, if a girl is making money for a club, they really don't gaf what the girl does in VIP.
So instead of worrying about interpreting hints, just discuss it beforehand in simple English (or Spanish). Here’s what I’d like to do, and this is what it’s going to cost. Goes a long way toward avoiding misunderstanding later.
The point about establishing rate and performance expectations is critical. It's a bit touchy, though, as engaging in such communication could be incriminating, so you need to read the situation to only bring it up when you have comfort it's not a setup.
The trickier part, I would think, is getting what your looking for, tip-wise. If he's a cop, and you say exactly what you'll do for how much, you're hosed. But non-extras dancers often hint and then disappoint, so hinting might not be effective, except with newb customers.
Usually dancers on here get a lot of crap if they say they make good money without doing extras. Guess you just can't win.
Working details out ahead of time is a good idea but IMO and IME it works only a minority of the time. It works well with a dancer you’ve gone to VIP with before but when setting expectations with a new to you dancer, a lot of the interaction is less pragmatic negotiating and more about going with the vibe in VIP and seeing if there’s a physical connection. Your point is valid that straightforward talk is still the way to go but it’s not always in the flow of the conversation to say “I’ll pay you X if you do Y.”
And yes....no sense in rushing into a room just for the sake of rushing into it...wait for a girl who will perform well.
Another extremely beneficial thing is breast milk but that can be tough to find. Especially since a boyfriend/pimp can be involved.
If youre paying money for something, you should try to get the most benefit from it you can… bbbj and DFK are also very beneficial because of the bacterial exchange