Focus in Club - Look Only, Socialize, or Both?
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Sometimes when I go to clubs, I just want to focus on the stage sets, and bury myself in my thoughts and a drink.
Other times, I'm at least open to some barside company, or even welcome it.
In situations when I just want to look and drink, it's distracting dealing with the parade of plopping next to me, resulting in me having to say, "sorry, I'm just here to watch; I don't want any company". I have no problem saying that, but I'd rather just enjoy the show. Sometimes, I don't even need to speak, though, as girls pick up on my body language as they approach, with one even saying, "I was going to ask if you wanted some company, but you seem to be transmitting a shoo-go-away message".
Of course, despite their many talents, they are not mind-readers, and for as many "go away....I don't want to talk to you" guys in a a club, there are an equal number of "why isn't anyone approaching me" guys. So, I suppose they really can't win.
Which of you prefers to just watch and not be approached for idle chitchat, and which of you enjoys the barside chats?
Other times, I'm at least open to some barside company, or even welcome it.
In situations when I just want to look and drink, it's distracting dealing with the parade of plopping next to me, resulting in me having to say, "sorry, I'm just here to watch; I don't want any company". I have no problem saying that, but I'd rather just enjoy the show. Sometimes, I don't even need to speak, though, as girls pick up on my body language as they approach, with one even saying, "I was going to ask if you wanted some company, but you seem to be transmitting a shoo-go-away message".
Of course, despite their many talents, they are not mind-readers, and for as many "go away....I don't want to talk to you" guys in a a club, there are an equal number of "why isn't anyone approaching me" guys. So, I suppose they really can't win.
Which of you prefers to just watch and not be approached for idle chitchat, and which of you enjoys the barside chats?
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I tend to develop faves. So I do have conversations, it's just with dancers or staff that I've known for years.
If I see someone who interests me I have no issues with approaching or making my interest known. If a girl fails to connect due to being tied up I write it off to it wasn't meant to happen.
Bottom line not interested in random chit chat. It's repetitive, boring, and strippers can tell some tall tales.
Of course the dancers love it they just made 20 bucks in 3 minutes of poll work instead of having to use more time and way more work doing dances. So if I tell them I don’t want a dance (or I’ll get one next time) they are perfectly fine with that.
Alone, I preferred to sit and watch, and look for whomever might best fill my needs for that night.
With friends, I'm in a much more social mindset, and more open to conversations. Like @SquareCastle said, most aren't scintillating conversationalists.
She sat down and the waitress came over. I said that I was all set with my drink and the dancer said that she didn't want anything. The waitress left and returned in about a minute and asked again. The dancer again said that she didn't want a drink. I could tell the waitress was now pissed.
As I was watching the stage, the dancer didn't say anything, moved in closer and began to massage my thigh. After about an hour, she said that she had to leave. I told her I enjoyed thigh massage and offered her a tip. She didn't take the tip, said that it wasn't necessary and left.
If I have more time, like when I’m travelling, once I’ve gotten the FS out of the way, I’ll move on to another club or two, have some drinks and hang out. I enjoy hanging out with attractive women with decent personalities. However, it’s a job for them, and I know their time is valuable, so I won’t monopolize too much of their time without at least going for a LD or two. It can also set the stage for future VIPs on future visits, or maybe even OTC
If I have more time, like when I’m travelling, once I’ve gotten the FS out of the way, I’ll move on to another club or two, have some drinks and hang out. I enjoy hanging out with attractive women with decent personalities. However, it’s a job for them, and I know their time is valuable, so I won’t monopolize too much of their time without at least going for a LD or two. It can also set the stage for future VIPs on future visits, or maybe even OTC
I was sitting around for a while looking for a dancer I liked, having rejected one or two that came by. Another approached and I turned down dances with her as well. She says to me "ok, but if you don't start spending money, I'll have the bouncers kick you out".
I'm still a bit picky on who I get dances with to this day, but looking back it would have been pretty simple to toss a few singles during some stage sets and that interaction probably would have never happened. But to your point, definitely true some clubs don't want you just hanging out.
XOXOXOXO
I'm new spots a lot and like to get the word on the street so I enjoy the chit chat.