Getting a gf
I know I'm a dumbass for asking this question on this site, out of all forms sites on the internet. But, how do I get a gf? I never lucked out on online dating, I dont go to university, I work a Male dominated IT job.
I dont friends anymore so I can only ask u guys.
And no this is not a troll post nor a joke. Thanks
I dont friends anymore so I can only ask u guys.
And no this is not a troll post nor a joke. Thanks
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That’s all part of ‘having game’. “I need a gf” is not confident or having game. What you need is a focus on you. Improve your confidencé, improve your conversational skills, and the worm will very likely turn.
Don’t be afraid to workout. It’s good for you. Walking two miles a day is pretty easy after you start and it will expose you to a lot of different people and do wonders for your physique . This will expose you to people at the shoe store, people in the neighborhood/ gym, etc.
The more contacts you make the greater the likelihood of finding someone so don’t be afraid to alter your daily routine.
Heaven ape has a point. Female hairless ape want males with stuff like cars and houses and whatnot. Fortunately, I have my super cool modified Tesla and my job is bein’ a frickin’ rick, so I got that shit nailed down. You’ll have some problems because you’re neither a rick nor a lion, so I guess the comic con advice is okay…if you want females that go to comic cons that is.
The hygiene advice is also important. Think of it this way: if you can offend the dull olfactory sense of the average hairless ape you are way to frickin’ smelly for your own good. Take a frickin’ shower. When I’m home with my girlfriend…err, sexy lioness I live with…I wash regularly. Of course, she frickin’ nags me so much that I soon tire of it and then I’m on the road with a gimlet in one hand and a rickarita in the other, letting my Tesla autopilot take me wherever it wants to go. ROAR!!!
Even if you follow all of the advice given (which is all excellent) the women you may meet at that age all have much more experience with relationships while you have none. They can easily manipulate you and take advantage. They are not gf material.
you do realize that having one in your life for most guys in general that this is a job right?
all of the above replies are very valid. but the most important thing about all those replies is that you first have to have the mindset that all of the above shouldn't be done for the intended girl of choice but rather for YOURSELF. you have to build yourself up and take pride of the effort and results. this is shit 95% of men have to do - yeah the average guy. you got the job part down, so that's good. the rest you gradually tackle and work on.
Since you're here I know you're' going to clubs, when you're there next, find a girl that is ok with talking for a while, buy her drinks and tip her, but just talk to her. Practice talking about yourself (or whatever persona you've adopted for the club) and asking her about herself. Tell her a dumb joke. Be respectful. It may be transactional, but it can actually be a fun conversation. You might be able to ask her for advice on how to talk to girls on the outside, she might think it's sweet. I can't overemphasize this enough though, just make sure it's the right kind of girl who is ok with just talking for a while and keep the drinks/tips coming, and don't for a minute think she's actually interested in you. She'll want to keep you happy and maybe even think you're sweet, but keep it in the club. Good luck.
It's very very possible to have an SO, and still be a miserable shit. The more you try to act in ways that feel phoney to you to find/keep an SO, the more likely it is that you'll end up being one such miserable shit. With the possible added bonus of bringing miserable shit children into the world.
The paradox is, the more you succeed in having a happy life without an SO, the better your chances of ending up in a happy situation with an SO.
Sex workers can, in the obvious way, help you be happy without an SO. The problem is, many/most women will see it as a big negative, if you see sex workers. On the other hand, if you can become a fav regular of sex workers, that's a stepping stone towards being a good SO. Perhaps even with the sex worker. Most of the sex workers I have gotten to know don't rule out dating customers. But you have to be willing to be exclusive with them, even though they are doing sexual stuff on the job. Or replace the income they would loose by quitting.
If you are being your true, best self, and a woman isn't into you, that means you are not into her. It's infantile to get resentful, it means you are expecting her to be something she's not. When people lament that no one wants to date them, it's almost always about them not wanting to date anyone they've met so far. Wanting to date the person you wish somebody was doesn't count as wanting to date them.
Like others have said, shower every day, do your nails and hair, get some nice clothes, shoes are important. Keep your car nice, and make sure your bathroom is clean. If you do manage to get a chick in your place, and she uses your bathroom, if it's disgusting she'll avoid having sex with you.
Get a part-time job as a bartender. Join AA, they have plenty of women. Good luck!
First work on your appearance. As stated above, if you haven't been dating in your 20s, you have a large hill to climb. You don't have to look like Brad Pitt. You just have to be slim or fit, somewhat tall, and likeable. Also as stated above, if you have a car, a job, and place to live, you're like 80% of the way there.
Once you have all that settled, then it's time to start meeting girls. be confident and also try to figure out what you want out of life and relationships. It's ok if you just want to hook up, but don't complain if there is no meaning to life. Date a lot. If girls start pressuring you to be exclusive, you're doing something right.