Can't we all get along?
Monday, March 10, 2008 3:11 PM
This is inspired by a couple of different posts on seemingly unrelated topics, but which expressed similar ideas. This is not the first time I've seen this; it has come up on other sex-related boards.
On the one hand, some of the women in the adult service provider business express disdain for their potential customers, e.g., calling them "perverts" or pathetic losers, or whatever. I recall (not on this board, but on TER) one ASP stating emphatically how much she despised her customers and took her only satisfaction in squeezing as much money out of them as quickly as possible. We all saw the recent exchange where a stripper called patrons "perverts" because they wanted extras. Just what was she thinking guys coming to a strip club were there for? A rousing discussion of politics?
On the other hand, some of the guys express nothing but contempt for the women who are ASPs -- either implicitly (by mocking them, emphasizing any possible shortcomings, etc.) or explicitly (the recent post that inspired this on this site was a guy who accused strippers of having "bad morals" -- WTF? the guys who go to SCs have great morals?!?).
I don't get it. As a guy, I enjoy and -- yes -- respect the women who are ASPs. They are providing a service, a service most of the guys on this site presumably very much want. Do some of them do a poor job? Well, sure, and if the free market works properly, they will gradually lose customers because of that. But general feelings of hostility toward them strike me as pretty weird -- especially for guys who like going to strip clubs. The fact that SOME women are lousy providers is no reason to tar the whole group. And if you think stippers have "bad morals" but like going to strip clubs -- buddy, you better see a therapist fast.
But I have the same beef with the women who hate their customers. Of course, I would not expect the strippers to fall in love with their customers. It is a business, and they are doing this to make a living. Nothing wrong with that. But I run a business, I do it to get paid, yet I still like my customers. In fact, if I did not like my customers, I'd quit and find something else to do. Except for the ASPs who are really desperate (e.g., drug addicted), I do not understand why any body would continue in a line of work where she hates the customers she is serving every day. This thing about a stripper calling a guy who comes to a club a "pervert" is, in my view, slicing it pretty fine.
Can't we all agree that the women are simply providing a service for the men that the men are happy to get -- and everyone benefits from the mutual exchange? We don't need to call each other sluts and perverts in the process, do we? It seems to me this is one arena where we can let go of the "battle of the sexes" and we can all take satisfaction in encounters that are honest and free of the bullshit and hypocrisy that normally shroud relationships.
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