Prude rules for strip clubs...
KittyCreamyKat
Daphne!
Honestly, I should be used to this by now. Strip clubs are no exception regarding fun girls that want to have fun. I've always been a hardworker, and my experience with customer service instantly makes me want to satisfy high-paying customers. Money turns me on. My biggest turn on nowadays, in fact. Money and fun go hand and hand and mesh together so well. For years, staff has scolded and discouraged my antics that stem from my own natural livlihood. It's hard being mediocre and average. It's boring being told to fit into a box to level up coworkers playing field. The day I feel content being a basic, prudish bitch is the day I need to hang up my stripping shoes and become a dried up civilian 9-5 working wench.
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Now if this was in Pahrump? Yea, that would be out of line.
I've been known to push a boundary or two myself on occasion, but I also recognize some people and organizations aren't as liberal as I am.
Having a places with different boundaries helps limit the frustration you're describing, and the whore-shaming from the other side too. Having a customer expecting liberal rules in an encounter with limits on the prude side is a recipe for disaster, as is the reverse. I think its easier for everyone if there's a club where like-minded and customers and strippers can both have their expectations in-range.
As long as there's a degree of openness and honesty about the limits, it's all good.
I know girls that have taken the route that Rick D has said and made arrangements with 2 or 3 guys and have done so well they could work one or two nights less a week.
Now finding 2 or 3 reliable, sane, and financially inclined may be a bit of a task in some places around the US.
You might do yourself some good by dropping the entitled attitude and reminding yourself that if you want me to spend it’s all about me not you
In other words I spend plenty, but on my terms not yours, and you are allowed to be as choosy as you like, but you don't get to think for me.
You are certainly welcome to apply whatever standards work for you. Personally I'm in 25's camp, even if I think he's overreacting a bit. I spend on my terms and there is little chance that I'm going to put myself in the position of having my penis on some club's candid camera. Too many of the people who own and/or manage these places are Grade A scumbags.
In terms of OTC safety, I hear you, but I also think it's overblown. Just avoid single guys with no kids and mediocre jobs and you're 99.99% of the way there. Almost every single story you read about a stripper getting assaulted or worse is a guy who falls in that category. Guys with things to lose, like families and good careers, don't want drama any more than you do.
Which isn't terribly different from any other service provider in or out of the adult industry. It's not "GPS"; it's being smart about your work.
So, that's never going to go away.
I knew a dancer dealing with something similar and her tactic was to be cordial to everyone, not rise to drama / bait, watch her back, and go straight home after work. She was single and trying to care for two infirm parents.* She wasn't willing to do shittier work to make others happy.
* Yes, I acknowledge that the "sick parents" thing could have been a made up sob story, but in this instance I didn't think so.
Is the issue that you offer more "fun"/extras than the average dancer in that club?
The conflict between fun dancers and less-fun dancers is obviously not new and not going away (though I think that it has shifted a little bit...). I see those debates flare up on stripper reddit and my take is that it's a thing that dancers need to figure out amongst themselves.
I don't think customers can contribute too much because for you, it's a work issue. For us, it's about entertainment and desire. Apples vs. oranges.
You certainly don't. However if history is any indication, you'll get quite a bit of that when seeking advice on tuscl. Unfortunately.
Obviously something has to give. Otherwise, sooner or later, they're going to make the choice for you.
It seems to me that your options are: (1) Find a more tolerant club; (2) diversify your income through some selective OTC; or (3) learn to live with stricter boundaries, including any resulting money loss.
It is what it is.
TUSCL user: Entitled! GPS! Not with my money!
If you vote pussy = Kirtty
If you vote money = Twntyfive
If you are a guy and said pussy, then you are just a brown nosing tool.
Otherwise, there will be animosity from others, and custies will be subjected to girls offering less than they can get from others at the same club, which makes the more conservative girls hostile over being propositioned, and guys bitter and feeling ripped off, if they assumed a certain level of service based on the club dynamic.
Regarding GPS...I believe it's a term best used in relation to others. IMO, GPS exists when a girl believes she is entitled to greater compensation than is standard in the given club/environment. It's the "I'm prettier / better than THOSE girls" that leads to the GPS label.
Everyone has a right to choose what to do / not do with their body, just as a guy has a choice of who gets their money. It's just like any other negotiation.
I do not believe a custie's willingness/reluctance to buy a certain number of VIP sessions is directly related to their financial means. Many of us CAN afford multiple sessions, but see those sessions as sometimes not worth it. I believe it's more about establishing a solid foundation before going OTC, which can be done in ways other than multiple VIP sessions.
I've gathered ideas on ways I need to move forward working in the club. I'm gathering ideas on ways to meet decent gentlemen OTC as well. I appreciate the feedback.
@Kitty-haters panty bunching does you no good. If you panty bunch about somebody, distract yourself with someone you don't panty bunch about. If you feel like the world owes it to you to cater to all your wants, mentally, you're 5.
Because you sound like that person
That said, it's your body and time so you can set whatever criteria you like. And it's the customer's money, so he can choose to pay or tell you to go fish.
To me, GPS isn't so much a financial cutoff as an better than thou (or better than one's fellow dancers) attitude, and a break from reality. I see it more on escort sites where every girl tries to make herself as "high class" when she's obviously not.
Guess we agree then, KCK.
Good luck