When you see them slowly go off the rails
rickdugan
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This one in particular was simply living above her adjusted means. She had a nice place, was driving a nice car and otherwise was living a good life courtesy of dancer money. Then the pandemic hit and her troubles started.
She was able to dig herself out of a pending eviction the first time around when the clubs re-opened, but with the slowdown in customer spending over the last several months, she wasn't able to keep her head above water for long. Now she's not only been evicted from her apartment, but now has creditors after her, including one who is suing her in court. Don't ever cross Capital One boys and girls, lol.
Now she's in a pickle. Even if she could manage to scrape up the money to put two months down to get a new place - at least $3k in this market - she's going to struggle to find anyone who will rent to her with a credit score doubtlessly in the toilet. With the surging rental demand from people moving into the Jacksonville area from other places, it's definitely a landlord's market.
And no, this is not a situation where I'm collecting intel due to an OTC interest. She's just a genuinely sweet girl who I've spoken with off and on for some time. Don't get me wrong, she's sexy as hell and I'd gladly give her an avenue to earn if that option opened up, but I already know that it won't. I already know from a couple of historical drunken deep dives with her that she's got heavy-weight personal baggage that makes it a hard non-starter for her. Indeed if she could get herself to do that she probably wouldn't be in this position in the first place as she wouldn't lack for potential partners.
Anyway, it is what it is. She's young and will no doubt bounce back, but is is just sad to see a genuinely decent person struggle so much. It's always a pleasure to see her ITC, even if we have long ago come to understand that we are not each others' preferred ITC targets. I hope she doesn't have ot leave the area, but it could come to that.
Anyone else ever watch something like this and feel bad for the person involved?
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If you can, and you should try your best… I always preach to have enough emergency money set aside in case you get laid off for a year. Know what it costs you to live for a year. Now, everyone should have a plan to cover themselves for six months, but a year is even better.
As for a specific relation to your story I do know of 2 strippers that were in great financial shape before the pandemic that had solid goals once their stripping careers were over. I imagine both their goals got derailed because they were high earners and had high expectations. They lived within their means though. One of them had/has high anxiety issues to begin with so when things don’t go right she has a lot of trouble coping, and life during COVID lockdown was the ultimate test for many. I have not kept in touch with either of them so I don’t know how they’re faring.
Also know the difference between wants and needs.
I'm such a philanthropist.
On one hand, it's easy to finger wag and say "You should have saved for the hard times!" But the reality is that I wasn't particularly good at that when I was young. Some lessons are learned the hard way (if they are learned at all...).
Yes, I do have sympathy for nice people who work hard and yet fall into hard times. Under the right unfortunate circumstances, it can happen to most of us, including the most cautious and prepared.
But this gal would much rather be in that hole than accept that sort of....let's call it "help"...lol. It is what it is. As is well known around here, I'm the first guy to show his more charitable side to a pretty girl in need of an earning opportunity, but I'm not even going down that road with this one. In any event she's not remotely confused about the fact that she has that option with me if she wants it.
The ones I’ve seen, that’s the case, even if it’s well hidden
My bills have tripled without me doing anything. I wouldn't put the blame kn people
It's a Doggy-Dog world out there.
Could see it coming. Parents got her an emergency credit card in college. Within 48 hours it was over its limit. $2000 on shoes and handbags in one day. Of course they paid it off.
You could see it coming. In college dad was constantly paying off her emergency credit card because of shopping sprees. Does a girl in college really NEED a $1200 purse and $500 shoes? How about that $400 bar tab for a 19 year old?
I think a pair of jeans cost me about 15 cents every time I wear them.
$1200 is cheap for a bag. And remember the matching waRitch.
Shoes are more like $900
You're out of touch with reality thinking young people struggle coz they act nigga ritch.
And you don't know anyone's real income. Life is hard af coz old conservatives ruined america
“. Don't get me wrong, she's sexy as hell and I'd gladly give her an avenue to earn if that option opened up, but I already know that it won't. I already know from a couple of historical drunken deep dives with her that she's got heavy-weight personal baggage that makes it a hard non-starter for her. Indeed if she could get herself to do that she probably wouldn't be in this position in the first place as she wouldn't lack for potential partners.”
What kind of baggage would make someone unable to do OTC? I thought it was the opposite, that girls with more baggage are doing the OTC and escorting?
It’s laughable you accuse someone of not knowing about designer shit because they referenced a $1200 purse and $500 shoes. There are plenty of designer items in that range, if you’re talking about the most expensive designer stuff then its far beyond $900 shoes you quoted.
A $1200 purse isnt cheap even to a billionaire. To a thief who can steal anything he pleases, anything is cheap because it’s all free and $0.
Yeah obviously the person who’s paying all the bills and expenses and scouring clubs for pussy is better off than someone in debt and spending money on designer stuff, high end cars etc.
And bargain priced is relative. Pornstars and ig models with millions of fans charge $1000+ an hour, but you feel this is an offensive “cheap” rate for a stripper.
In short, I know much more about that specific situation than you ever will.
However, I worked for AT&T during the late 1980’s, and I saw lots of folks get hit hard during the post divestiture years of layoffs. There were many folks who had good jobs with AT&T and living at or above their means. In NJ there are some beautiful towns in Morris county. Those areas aren’t cheap.
Back in the old days, the phone company was a monopoly and they could raise rates. Things changed dramatically when they broke up the phone company. Some folks did very well, but many didn’t plan (especially in the ways Shailynn described) so they suffered. Lots of folks had to sell homes and start renting - or move to less expensive areas.