Jealous Dancers?
DougS
Florida
Being a very jealous guy, I find it a little refreshing to see some jealousy exhibited from the other side. I haven't seen too many dancers that appeared to be jealous of other "women" in my life. For the most part, that's most likely because they don't give a shit about me (or my money [grin]), so how could they be jealous. There HAVE been a few instances, however, when it was pretty obvious (or just part of some SSS?). In a strange way, it kind'a feels like a compliment.
Is this as rare as it seems to me?
Is this as rare as it seems to me?
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But, as far as jealous in comparing looks, naw. Looks can be made up by mileage!!! LOL
But, then again....if Doug is quite the handsome devil, my whole theory could go right out the window.....!
Just like when you get insulted, you usually don't mind, if it's something absolutely off base and ridiculous. As an adult a while back, I had some of those townie always-ribbing-you annoying-like-yokels acquaintances who used to call me "Ronald" for Ronald McDonald -- never did figure out why, and I guess therefore it hardly bothered me, except just for the trying to figure it out. But I also had some school chums who called me weak and slow -- neither of which is true, but both of which I was insecure about being perceived as in sports. Guess which insults bothered me more?
Unless you used to wear a clown outfit or something. Hey whatever floats your boat LOL
Fear of replacement is the essence of jealousy, and that's not uncommon in small business transactions.
I believe I've only experienced this on three occasions;
1) While waiting for my THEN ATF (now known as prev-prev-ATF), I saw a new girl that I wanted to sample and while getting a dance with the new girl, prev-prev-ATF came out of the dressing room and saw us. She glared at me like I've never been glared at before, and stormed back into the dressing room. The new girl didn't know that I was waiting for someone else and she was in a tizzy and a bit pissed at ME because I didn't tell her?! Well, she went back to the dressing room and talked to prev-prev-ATF (who I'm told was crying), and "patched things up" for me. The new girl refused to spend time with me after that.
2) This one might've been just SS, but when Miss ATF and I first started spending time together, it was during a business trip of mine. We spent time ITC on Sun and Tues nights, then she asked if I could come in on Wed night. I'd already had plans to meet up with a fellow TUSCLer (Chitown), and told her that I'd be there that night. I told her that I didn't want to see her dancing for others, and she said she didn't want to see me getting dances from anyone else and decided that she'd rather not come in because of that. (yeah, after typing that, it DOES smack of some SS, or maybe SSS)
3) When the maybe future ATF and I were planning our first OTC hookup, she was still a bit apprehensive about it. In an attempt to show her that I could be trusted, I, being the honest guy that I am, told her that I was also seeing another girl from the same club OTC. When I began telling her about that "relationship", it made so much sense and I just knew it would set her mind at east. Maybe I'd had a bit too much to drink and my logic wasn't quite in tact - I don't know. What I DO know is the look on maybe future ATF was utter shock, mixed with a big dose of PISSED and maybe a little hurt. She was speechless. When she finally broke the silence, she said "you sent me a letter with all sorts of compliments and made me feel like I was special to you, and then you tell me that I'm like your SECOND choice?!!" It was damned near a deal breaker, and it took some quick talking and assurances from me to get things back on track, but that ugly moment eventually passed. The few times that Miss ATF has come up in conversation, it's not very well received. THAT was a SERIOUS dumbass attack, if ever there was one!
Honesty hurts sometimes and there are good times and places to be honest with people, but NOT NECESSARILY a strip club. The current ATF and possible future ATF may have found out about you seeing the both of them, maybe not.
Which ever one you want to hang with, you'd better make a choice soon, or you just may be out a couple of ATFs altogether. Good luck my friend! Uncle Bones
Thing is, this indicates something rather disastrous to me:
human adult females emotionally stop ageing at about sixteen years old
Sure, men "mature slower," but at least we continue to mature AT ALL after high school.
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Pretty simple, really.
Male: driven by requirement to behave as though multiple procreation partners are necessary. Honest about it.
Grows from a-sexual childhood to normal adulthood. Stays that way until he dies.
Female: drive by a variety of changing things which she can't name, and which bear no relation to reality. Dishonest about it in order to manipulate males in order to get them to give her things which, it turns out, she doesn't necessarily want any more, so that when she gets what she wants she's actually more disappointed than when she didn't have it and she has to start blaming someone other than herself so she doesn't feel like she's somehow all screwed up in the head and then she gets angry at whomever is closest to her so she lashes out at those whom she loves the most and ends up leaving a hole in her life and then decides she needs something else and the vicious cycle starts all over again.
Grows from a-sexual childhood to this weird semi-sexual totally social quasi-adulthood. Then later in life realizes she's wasted her best years, and as soon as she thinks she's not super-hot and able to manipulate men she starts to think she'd really better get herself a man because soon she won't be able to, so she decides (wow what a CONCEPT!) to try to be COOPERATIVE with her partner instead of MANIPULATIVE, but by the time she figures this obvious arrangement out, she's probably already not physically appealing enough to fulfill the male's biologically determined needs. Some few women figure this out earlier in life, and also realize that helping their males to have lives that males want on the basis of male priorities is, indeed, a form of cooperation. These developed humans constitute no more than 5% of the entire female population. Were women to mature emotionally before their bodies sagged to the point of disinterest to men, the world would be a happier place.
In other words -- I think we all know where the problem resides.
Pretty fucked up thinking.
I think it's time to seriously consider the priesthood, or perhaps going gay.
Maybe I am not of the "norm" thinking when it comes to women. Reading my club reviews would make one think I "use" women for my own pathetical sexual needs of gratification. However, I respect all women unless they have given me a reason to 'disrespect' them, but I still have to respect women as well as men in general, based solely on the fact that they are human. I'm not trying to downplay the fact that I do use certain women 'dancers' for my needs, because I do. But, they're using me in the 'similar' aspect to make a living ($$$). 'Nuff' said.
I think someone else above alluded to something insightful--strippers (sorry, "dancers") tend to have a weird mixed-up sense of certain things like public/private boundaries--which is maybe why they become dancers in the first place. So, for them they can have a personal attachment to a "customer" even they might never consider meeting him OTC, and might still get really jealous if he "picks" another girl over them (even though that also is strictly an ITC "relationship").
Most dancers are extremely insecure as well IME, so practically *anything* can make them feel threatened.
Generally it works in an opposite way. Keep in mind that the constant and ongoing tinge of unfaithfulness is a key to kicking up the "chemistry" (to the degree any might exist) and that goes for real life (non-SC) relationships and for club world ATFs, either ITC or OTC, platonic or not. Its sounds counter-intuitive in the modern world, but such nonmonogamy was the key survival characteristic of the Alpha male seed spreader who dominated the earth for millions of years. A devoted and one woman faithful man (aka "nice guy") will on a subconscious basis bore most women precisely because he cannot offer the illusive and exciting promise of genetic immortality relative to seed spreader/bad boys.
In either case both genders are still (for the most part) following or still desiring to follow their basic biological desires carried forward from the 3 to 5 million yr development phase, for men seed spreading, and for women - mating with seed spreader to increase their (and their offsprings) genetic odds