My fav told me recently about 6 out of 10 PLs are too rough (grabbing/squeezing much too hard). I knew this was a problem, but never imagined it was most PLs. She is no snowflake. She encourages me to dig my fingers in pretty hard when I massage her back. I'm in my sixties, but some of the porn she's into, I feel too underage to watch.
Back when I was young (and dinosaurs roamed the Earth), sick attitudes about domestic were common. Like, the man was the authority in the family, and he could/should back it with whatever means he deemed necessary. It was somewhat acceptable to pick a fight with another guy, especially if he was at least your size. But people claimed it was the lowest of the low to rough up a woman, especially if you did it for fun, and especially if she wasn't "yours". Was this just always bullshit, and I was too young and dumb to see through it?
BTW I've seen this fav average 4+ times a months for about 5 years. Very unlikely she'd see any need for any "you're special" SS.