Banned from Seeking

Warrior15
Anywhere there are Titties.
Where's Subraman ? I have an interesting dilemma right now. I just got an email from Seeking.com . I have been banned for Soliciting.

But the timing of this is very unusual. About a month ago, I entered into an exclusive arrangement with a really cute Latina girl. And I really have been exclusive. I have't interacted with any girl on the website in well over a month. My Inbox was full of Unread messages. You pay for Seeking quarterly and the charge is automatically charged to my credit card. I have heard this auto charge is difficult to stop. So they may have done me a favor actually. But why did I get banned ?

I replied back to the email asking for proof of this soliciting. I did get a response back from someone at Customer Service, but all she did was repeat what was in the initial email. Does Seeking have to kick out a certain number of profiles each month so it looks like they are policing themselves? There is no way I was actually soliciting because I haven't sent any messages to do any soliciting. Even before, I never mentioned dollars in any communications and would move the conversation to text messages if I really wanted to meet someone. This really has me puzzled. Like I said. I am currently exclusive with this one girl and we may be that way for a while. So this may save me some money. And even if I want to get back on, I just have to create another profile. So it's not keeping me off the site.

Has this happened to anyone else ?

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wallanon
2 years ago
It could be like the IRS where there's a backlog.
Warrior15
2 years ago
I have been contacted recently by some girls that I used to see from the site. I told them I couldn't see them currently because of the other girl. Can they go onto the site and just say I was Soliciting and get me knocked off with no proof ?
twentyfive
2 years ago
^ how much money did those girls lose ?
Warrior15
2 years ago
25 - Are you trying to entrap me ? :-).
wallanon
2 years ago
I think the catch here is "no proof". Did they give you a timeframe for your supposed violation? Just because you got booted right about now doesn't mean it's for something that was done recently.

As for the question about if you got shafted because some chicks felt slighted? I don't use those sites so someone else will need to offer something on that.
Warrior15
2 years ago
The email reference "repeated warnings". I have never received any warning from them. Did they ban the wrong guy ?
twentyfive
2 years ago
No bro, just pointing to motive 😁
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Warriorbyou believe in the right of private businesses to do as they please. They chose to ban you for soliciting prostitution. Hoes probably reported you for trying to low ball them.

Not sure how subraman is helpful. He's at a bath house


😂😂😂😭😭😭😭🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
rickdugan
2 years ago
===> "I have been contacted recently by some girls that I used to see from the site. I told them I couldn't see them currently because of the other girl."

Maybe one or more of the girls that you previously saw went back and claimed that you tricked them into a one and done by misleading them? Maybe one girl accused you and then they found other things in your historical messages that made them believe her? Maybe something in your response to one of these other girls made it seem like you were a monger? Impossible to know without a complete picture of all of your communications with these girls.

Anyway just a few thoughts. The savvier dudes on the local USASG board make it very clear that it is important to avoid anything but introductory messages on the site, get the conversation to text ASAP, continue to approach with caution until you have a good sense of what she wants and cut bait (without any detailed explanations) the second it's clear that the two of you are not simpatico.
Warrior15
2 years ago
Icey. I do believe in free enterprise. And I fully understand why the site has to kick guys out for outright offering money to girls. But I have been very careful not to do that. On the site, that is. Can a jilted girl send them text messages ? I may have to go to Reddit to ask the others on that site.
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
You must be a real sick fuck and come across as an even bigger weirdo than here to get banned there 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂🤡
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
A girl had to complain. Or after a certain number of complaints they delete you. They probably have an algorithm that checks for words and patterns
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
A lot of that stuff js automated on large sites
Warrior15
2 years ago
Rick, I've been on that site for over 3 years now. I'm pretty careful. My interaction on their message board is to simply try to get some chemistry. If there is some, then I move to text. I don't even use their videos.
Warrior15
2 years ago
". A girl had to complain. Or after a certain number of complaints they delete you. They probably have an algorithm that checks for words and patterns. "

This is possible. I"ve been on the site long enough and used PPM enough times. That is possible I guess.
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Use a VPN and make a new profile.

I think its an algorithm coz if they banned everyone soliciting there wouldn't be a site
Muddy
2 years ago
What kind of business model this? Banning loyal $100 a month customers. I haven’t been banned yet but I’d figure one of these days I’ll trip up somehow
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Solicitation is illegal. Some need 6o be made examples of
Warrior15
2 years ago
Icey, for once, I"m not disagreeing with you. If I had been doing it, then I would quietly take my punishment. But I don't think I have. I dont' think they have any proof. Or they would have sited it when they accused me. They also would have warned me first like they said they did. But none of that happened. Yes, Icey I am a sick fuck and have used these girls for sexual entertainment. But Seeking.com doesn't know this. Unless they read TUSCL.
Funkycold88
2 years ago
I don't use seeking but I remember seeing something recently about them trying to clean up and become more of just a dating website. Maybe it has something to do with that.
Lockjaw
2 years ago
Maybe the Latina did it so you would be exclusive to her and focus all your attention and money on here? Just a thought. Latinas are known to be very jealous.
Subraman
2 years ago
Okay, here's some facts about Seeking:

- They ban people capriciously, and almost never explain themselves or reverse the ban. Your experience is the norm: they repeat themselves, and tell you they won't respond to your inquiries any further.

- Once you're banned they'll auto-detect any attempts to create a new account under another name. To be able to create another account, you'll want to change everything: name, email, profile text, profile photos, remove all cookies from your browser, do NOT use a VPN because they detect that. It can be difficult to sneak your new profile past them.

- They often won't offer a pro-rated refund after a capricious ban, but many people have luck challenging it with their bank or credit card.

- Typically, you get banned because someone reported you. You haven't been interacting with anyone, but perhaps someone just got around to reporting you recently. Very small things can get you banned: don't mention the term PPM, don't discuss money at all, don't even hint at wanting to have sex, don't be a smartass to scammers or escorts, etc., all of these can result in bans
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
I doubt its about jealousy or rejection. It just seems like racked up algorithm points . The lack of warnings or meaningful feedback makes it look automated. The hoes on there have more than enough attention
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman knows a lot about being banned 😂😂😂😭😭🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Make a new profile. Just get a vpn
Warrior15
2 years ago
Yeah, the customer service response did say they did not want any more replies from me. I bet its the using of the term PPM. I never mention sex. But I do say I'm willing to do PPM or monthly. I guess that did it. Looks like I'm gonna get a new gmail account. But not for a while. I'll just play with the Latina for the time being.

Thanks Subra.
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
It's so stupid the hoops consenting-adults have to jump thru to engage in consenting-adults things - everyone knows what Seeking is about yet everyone has to go around pretending it's not what it is - so sad to be at this stage in f'ing 2022
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
They want to pretend to obey the law. Prostitution is unconstitutional. I know yall love the constitution and the right of businesses to do as they please
PinkSugarDoll
2 years ago
Just fyi a lot of girls try to get sugar daddies on Tinder so you might try there too. 👍🏼
Warrior15
2 years ago
PSD. I think the answer is to go back into the strip clubs. Right ?
Huntsman
2 years ago
Warrior, Seeking might have done you a favor. Life is full of moving on and sometimes it’s a good thing if fuckedupness removes itself from your life. I’m not into Seeking but it sounds like the arbitrariness of the place and the hassle might not be worth it?
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Psd you'll pull a Jacksonville in Vegas 😂😭


And seeking arrangements can be pathetic. I know girls getting money from guys so lonely they'll pay for good morning texts
DeepBluesKPVP
2 years ago
Subraman free advertising
CJKent_band
2 years ago
@Warrior15

This website shows how to appeal a banned account in Seeking.

https://donotpay.com/learn/seeking-arran…

“It can be difficult when you must deal with account bans or suspensions. Double the frustration when the platform itself does not disclose the specific reason for the ban. This is why we created the Appeal Banned Accounts product. DoNotPay wants to help by preparing a compelling demand letter, and placing legal pressure on the company that has suspended your account.”

Let us know how what happen when you get back to Seeking,

Be careful out there.

:D
ilbbaicnl
2 years ago
Lauren Boebert was supposedly on sugardaddymeet.com.
Warrior15
2 years ago
Yes, there are other sites. I'm already on Secret Benefits so I fully realize I have other options. I just wanted to know why this happened so it could be a lesson to others. From what Subra just mentioned, it has to be the using of the term PPM. I never used it to negotiate on the site. But I would tell the girls I would do ppm or monthly, just to describe the different arrangements. But I never mentioned that sex was a part of the ppm.

Life goes on. I will adapt. I could go back to being faithful to my wife I guess.
blahblahblah23
2 years ago
When are they gonna ban seeking from the internet? Trash website for finding trash low baller whoremongers
skibum609
2 years ago
Icee proving with every post that she is a useless piece of shit with nothing of value to share.
rickdugan
2 years ago
===> "I bet its the using of the term PPM. I never mention sex. But I do say I'm willing to do PPM or monthly."

There it is. Again relying upon the ample reports posted on our local USASG board, which has a lot of SA guys on it, that's a red flag for Seeking. The savvier hounds on the site have learned not to do any negotiating of any type using SA messaging, instead moving direct to text/phone ASAP. They also just generally avoid popping their heads up in any other way, like reporting scammers or getting into arguments over SA messaging.
Call.Me.Ishmael
2 years ago
You're not going to get a definitive answer as to why it happened. My guess is that a previous SB decided that she didn't like how things ended. Or, one of the unread inbox messages belonged to a woman who didn't like to be unread, or assumed that her ignored message meant that your profile is a bot or some sort of scam bait. Or, someone you've been in touch with had a bad experience with someone else and decided to rage carpet bomb every single profile she interacted with. Again, impossible to know.

I know that it's recommended that if you find the SB for you, then you should disable (not delete) your account so that you're at least passively "off the market". Keep in mind that, at least on paper, Seeking doesn't want to be a platform for prostitution. It wants to uphold at least the pretense of being a "dating service".

I read a post somewhere on sugar reddit from a SD who would contact a SB on the site, and move the communications off the site ASAP. If they met, got along, and figured out an arrangement, then he'd tell them "Now that we've connected, I'm going to shut down my profile." What he'd actually do is block the SB's profile. Apparently, you can't report someone who has blocked you, and from the SB perspective someone who has blocked you looks exactly the same as a shut-down profile.

Predictably, this floated like a lead balloon with the SBs on reddit. His rationale was that any relationship (paid or not) can end badly, and he wanted to protect himself from revenge/spite reporting that would get his profile shut down just because he had a long-term arrangement that went sour. I understand this point of view, but I'm ambivalent about it nonetheless.

Take any feedback from me with a grain of salt. I've tried Seeking a couple of times and never quite got it sorted.

NOTE: Just noticed the "PPM" dialogue above. I've heard that Seeking looks for that specific acronym on both profiles and in private messages. If nothing else, that probably tripped the switch.
twentyfive
2 years ago
You could argue that you’re a scientist and PPM is a well defined measurement ( Parts Per Million)
Champphilly
2 years ago
Subra is banned for what else? He knows everything about his a ss kicked out.
ilbbaicnl
2 years ago
Uh oh sounds like some sugar stabbings are happening soon...
orionsmith
2 years ago
Probably all it takes is one upset girl on the site to complain. Men are typically guilty until proven innocent in western society and some people or sites assume guilt if a female complains. A poorly worded message or email as evidence would likely seal the deal if the site wanted evidence but as most things, men are considered guilty with any female complaint. I don’t know for sure, never used the site but wouldn’t surprise me.

I’ve seen evidence of female complaints and guys have been arrested and jailed over accusations and the guys only went free if they had video evidence to the contrary.
Subraman
2 years ago
Warrior: Using the term "PPM" is a guaranteed ban, so that was it. All the other sites are worthless, so you'll need to tighten your shit up and find a way back to SA, in a way that they don't re-ban you. Remove the app, wipe all the cookies, find a different way to pay, new pics, new profile text, don't use a VPN.
Subraman
2 years ago
" The savvier hounds on the site have learned not to do any negotiating of any type using SA messaging, instead moving direct to text/phone ASAP. They also just generally avoid popping their heads up in any other way, like reporting scammers or getting into arguments over SA messaging."

100% correct. Keep your head down, don't get noticed. Someone says something obnoxious to you, block them without responding. Someone wants to discuss allowance or PPM in any way shape or form? Don't respond other than to say let's move to text. If she refuses, block her and move on. People who report others sometimes get banned themselves.
wallanon
2 years ago
So long as you're getting a good return I suppose all this is worth it. Sounds like a lot of work.

Still think I'd rather just go to the strip club and pick up a new friend there, but I get that you guys are saying the selection is better online. My current lineup is probably the best one I'm going to find, so I'm gonna ride this one out.
Warrior15
2 years ago
Wall,. It is a lot of work. A lot of fun, but go gotta put in a lot of effort
Subraman
2 years ago
Seeking is an enormous pain in the ass. If you're just there looking for an escort or one-time sex, it's not that bad. But finding an actual SB is a pain in the ass. If you're getting what you want at the strip club already, no reason to change
Call.Me.Ishmael
2 years ago
^ This is the line of reasoning that led me away from Seeking.
THE CHAINDOG
2 years ago
That site sucks
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman ever get kicked out of a bath house?
Subraman
2 years ago
Icee, yes! I brought my bitch into the bathhouse, and once everyone saw how I got her hooked on drugs, beat her, isolated her from her friends, and abused her emotionally, they got upset that I was a miserable friendless troll pretending to be a pimp on the internet. Weird, right?? When I go back I'll pretend to be a social justice warrior, y'know, see how that goes
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Nah just keep pretending you're straight 🤡
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
Dealing with Seeking as described in this thread reminds me of the soup-natzi Seinfeld episode
Subraman
2 years ago
Is calling someone gay as an insult allowed by the social justice warrior handbook? Or back to cringey Street mode instead lol. You should keep pretending you have friends!Or that you have ever had a girl, much less one who left you and made you on want to commit suicide LOL
Warrior15
2 years ago
". Dealing with Seeking as described in this thread reminds me of the soup-natzi Seinfeld episode. "

No soup for you !
PinkSugarDoll
2 years ago
“PSD. I think the answer is to go back into the strip clubs. Right ?“

Tbh I think this is AN answer but more time investment required, idk, my guess. ??

Secret Benefits sounds **spicy**

“You could argue that you’re a scientist and PPM is a well defined measurement ( Parts Per Million)”

I enjoyed this comment ^^ lol
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman you're a little bitch who sounds like cim on steroids.

And it's hilarious how some of you are upset you can't openly solicit hookers on a hooker hookup site 🤡

Psd you gonna pull a Jacksonville in Vegas? 😂😂😂😭
ilbbaicnl
2 years ago
Only ask the babies to get proton mail or a Google Voice number on seeking. Then you can freely discuss the stuff that makes Jesus cry.
Subraman
2 years ago
And you, icee, are a miserable lonely troll who has mixed up his pretend personas. Answer the question: does the pretend SJW/intersectional feminist who is the white knight to protect women against tuscl, approve of using "gay" as an insult? Or did you mix up with the pretend pimp persona who pushes beating women, getting them hooked on drugs, and abusing them emotionally? Or is the sensitive little emo who wants to commit suicide because his makebelieve girlfriend went away?

Don't worry, we all know you're none of these things, not a SJW, certainly no pimp, and not someone who has a girlfriend. Research on trolls is very consistent: they are miserable, lonely, terrible people right down to their bones, who is incapable of making any human connections so settles for being an object of contempt by everyone around them. The real person behind the personas is the angry "you're a little bitch" guy. Now go have a cry, put on some panic at the disco, and cut yourself
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
See how butt hurt you are. All I did was call you out. You're one of the most pathetic losers here. A hard core conservative into both houses and hookers 🤡
Subraman
2 years ago
And I called back out, and you're hurt again. Let me ask you again: is the SJW white knight persona who protects women from tuscl, and who recently started a thread about what pronouns people use and protects trans rights, approving of the miserable troll persona who bashes gays by using the term as an insult? I'm just confused that the great trans protector and correct pronoun user is anti gay, that's all.
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Saying you go to bath houses isn't anti gay. If you misinterpret it that way it's on you. Now go pretend the hookers you pay are right wing conservatives like you 🤡
Subraman
2 years ago
And you go pretend you're a pimp, and an SJW, and a sensitive snowflake with a girlfriend who did something mean and now he wants to kill himself, rather than a miserable lonely troll whose existence is so bleak that being the object of contempt by an entire forum is the only way he can get any attention besides pity. If you hurry, that Panic at the Disco song isn't over yet!
Muddy
2 years ago
In all honesty my feeling is that seeking feels like it’s in a downswoon atleast for me. Ofcourse like strip clubs sometimes it only takes one to make it awesome but it feels down I’ve went back to strip clubs. I’ll probably swing back but right now it’s been all this change to get the fucking wheat im burnt out on it.
Champphilly
2 years ago
Subra seem weirdo. Write stuff only he or his cheap extras can understand
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman you claim I'm fake. That's your prerogative. My existence doesn't depend on the approval of a guy who likes dick and cheap hookers while preaching right wing bs and pretending strippers are "conservatives like him"
Subraman
2 years ago
It's good that your existence doesn't depend on that, because none of that describes me -- I'm not right wing, I've never in my life claimed strippers are "conservatives like me" (putting quotes around it doesn't make it true lol), and even my hookers are extremely expensive. You're not fake -- that lonely, miserable man behind your various conflicting personas is very real. The vile advice about being a pimp, beating women, psychologically abusing them, getting them hooked on drugs -- a real person wrote that, that real person was pretending to be a pimp. And sometimes, pretends to be an SJW who protect women, instead of a pimp who beats them, and someone who protects trans rights while using gay insults. And sometimes, pretends to be a sensitive snowflake who might commit suicide because his make-believe girlfriend said something mean. You're absolutely not fake, you're a perfect example of what every study on trolls finds; that part is real.
Muddy
2 years ago
*chaff not change
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman your posting history proves otherwise.

Keep repeating that fake narrative long enough til you believe it 🤡
rickdugan
2 years ago
This is definitely Icee's day to shine. In another thread he - crazily - said a lot of things that made a fuck ton of sense. Now in this thread his trolling is getting ample reactions from seasoned board members, which of course is exactly what he craves. We may need to rename today "The Day of the TUSCL Troll" lol.
Subraman
2 years ago
Keep imagining post histories, pretending to threaten to commit suicide, pretending to beat and drug women, pretending to by the white knight protector of women; it's not going to make you any less miserable or the object of everyone's contempt, but maybe it's an important escape buddy!
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman you're butt hurt......literally 🤡😂😂😘😭😭😭


Ruckdugan I'm not trolling just calling shit what it is. Like you I'm hated by some idiots coz they hate the truth
Call.Me.Ishmael
2 years ago
It is interesting that woke Icee's preferred means of going after Subra is taunting him with an accusation of being gay; nothing like some playground homophobia to play against being a "champion" of gay and trans rights.

Then again, Icee has proved repeatedly that his goal isn't to be consistent, but rather to consistently stir the pot and pick fights. In any given thread, he'll adopt a stance that will create the most turmoil regardless of what he's posted previously. If anyone calls him on it, he's got a notepad file of empty copy-and-paste responses for every occasion.
Champphilly
2 years ago
Ice and Subra both are cheap stuff. Folks, move on. Let them chat nonsense
Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Cim your goal is to troll by making up narratives and pretending to know what people think. Sick control freak. You're obnoxious af this is all you do on here. And whine how broke you are.
yahtzee74
2 years ago
subrman: -" Once you're banned they'll auto-detect any attempts to create a new account under another name. To be able to create another account, you'll want to change everything: name, email, profile text, profile photos, remove all cookies from your browser, do NOT use a VPN because they detect that. It can be difficult to sneak your new profile past them."

Would a new phone work where you only use mobile data? Tracfones and the like can be had cheaply.

How do you get around your name being connected to a credit card?
Subraman
2 years ago
Yahtz, I think it's the credit card (and associated name) rather than the phone that's critical. OFten people Get a Visa gift card of some sort. The problem is, many of these reloadable or gift cards do not support foreign processors, and SA's processor is offshore, so the card will fail. Worse yet, sometimes a particular card works for a while, then all of a sudden payments stop failing. Vanilla Visa cards worked for a while, then they didn't, then they did, then it works for some people but not others. But doing some research and shooting for a reloadable visa or mastercard is one way.

Icee Loco (asshole)
2 years ago
Subraman is an expert on getting banned from sites for solicitation 😭😭😂😂😂
rickmacrodong
2 years ago
That price for seeking seems pricy but its worth it if you have free time to browse the profiles.
Icee for you to talk about solicitation being illegal and some need to be made examples of is laughable. Youve complained about ameica being corrupt, having corrupt laws, police being corrupt, politicians being corrupt, youve stated corporations should be torn apart... etc but then draw the line at soliciting which is victimless
iknowbetter
2 years ago
Sounds like way too much effort to get reinstated to SA. I played on SA for awhile with mixed results, but eventually got tired of it. It is fun to browse the profiles, but understand that the majority are fake.
Subraman
2 years ago
If you're looking for an actual SD/SB kind of thing, unfortunately SA is about the only game in town -- the competitors are mostly rip off sites. If you're just looking for escorts on SA, not worth it. If you're happy with OTC, just do that. If you're looking for sugar, gotta get back on SA
rickdugan
2 years ago
^ You may be on to something now Subraman.

Now by all reports there are ample girls perfectly happy with PPM arrangements, but the amount of work involved to get there is just ridiculous. I'll now admit that I've been dipping my toes in SA recently. All I can say is that some of you must have a lot more spare time and patience than I do. I'm not saying that to be remotely condescending, just being direct.

Wading through all the fake profiles is the first sucky part. Then there's all the tapdancing to get them to text, followed by the false starts and stops, preliminary meets, etc.,etc. And of course let's not forget the girls who seem so eager to meetup right away that I get suspicious and try to find them on low rent escort sites. Lo and behold, there they are.

Seriously now, I know this works pretty well for some of you, but IMHO it's all yours. I just don't have the bandwidth to invest that kind of time and energy needed to separate the wheat from all the chaff.
Papi_Chulo
2 years ago
Any updates on this saga @Warrior?
Warrior15
2 years ago
I'm still going thru my Rolodex so I haven't tried to get back on the site yet. I probably will soon though. Yes, it's a lot of work. But the taste of Sugar is just so sweet !
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