Emotional Attachment Is The Only Fantasy
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dam zaddy got all my lips smiling
Otherwise everything else happening ITC is reality.
Men spending money on women one way or another is a part of life. That's reality.
The sensory input (eye candy/company/conversation/physical contact/endorphins, etc.) is also as real as it gets.
Caring whether she actually means/likes it is where PLs stumble.
Clear that hurdle, and club interactions can be the best controlled relationships a guy can have.
Thoughts?
Men spending money on women one way or another is a part of life. That's reality.
The sensory input (eye candy/company/conversation/physical contact/endorphins, etc.) is also as real as it gets.
Caring whether she actually means/likes it is where PLs stumble.
Clear that hurdle, and club interactions can be the best controlled relationships a guy can have.
Thoughts?
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Strip clubs are businesses. The girls there are working. You're paying for their time and they're nice to you coz of that. The problem is when men interpret it as anything more. When a stripper really likes you you'll know it. If you're guessing she doesn't
Treat her like a one-night stand that you'll never see again.
Until you do.
Rinse and repeat.
SJG
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While there are always exceptions IMO that is what they are, exceptions - very few custies are the exception and the ones that think they are most of them aren't.
Many of the delusional PLs couldn't get laid in a morgue (in real life) yet somehow they convince themselves of being casanovas in the club - I always ask a simple question - if hot young girls like strippers are genuinely into you, then why spend $100s in the club and not just date them for free in real life? The answer is obvious although man will come up w/ a dozen-excuses.
As I've often posted - strip-clubs are bizarro-world and should be taken w/ a grain-of-salt - in bizarro-world the dancers pretend to like the PLs and the PLs pretend to believe them, and everyone is happy and gets what they are looking-for/need (companionship for $$$ - basically a free-market transaction).
But it depends on several factors.
Age difference
Similar lifestyle
Physical attractiveness to each other...is she the type of girl you'd get if she was a civvie
Can you relate to each other
Even then it's an uphill battle. Those things can just make you a good customer. She needs an incentive....not money. To give up a good customer. Otherwise you'll end up a semi sugar daddy at most.
For older or less desirable customers. It comes down to if she's desperate ie had an addiction kids etc. Or she wants to quit dancing and he can take care of her. In which case he's usually just a stepping stone til she gets a little settled and finds someone better.
Being a regular or even semi regular customer is one of the worst positions if you ever want more. And if you pay for sex that automatically puts you in a negative category.
The strippers here (and especially at reddit r/strippers) are great examples.
Would you pay them anything ITC for the, um, lack of sexually they present here? (I'd pay them to stay away.)
Guess what? They're the same girls taking your money in the club.
Forget I said anything.
You can actually experiment with it on a small scale here.
The strippers only respond well to compliments, likes, and being fawned over (instead of money), otherwise their posts drip with negativity.
Try disagreeing with them once, and you'll usually be personally and disproportionately attacked.
This is why I would rather only deal with women in the paid-to-behave SW environments. If only the whole world worked like that.
Too honest? Lol. That's what marriage and divorce does to some guys.
But of course this assumes you eventually get into otc with the stripper, within a few weeks. If youre not doing otc with her ans only getting lapdances, that’s also a waste of money.
Yes, part of what I like about SCs is being catered to in exchange for cash. It's pure as nobody is remotely confused about what the other person wants.
But I don't get the difficulty in maintaining a certain amount of emotional distance. There are the girls who you marry and the girls who you just play with. I've never really had trouble distinguishing between the two. Now I'm a huge believer in treating every girl with kindness and dignity, but a girl who chooses a life where she puts herself on display for public consumption and rubs in the lap of anyone with $30 in his pocket was never going to be in the running for the role of future ex-wife, lol.
To deepen the "physical connection" even more? 😉
Look at some of the famous nba players and rappers, these guys are often paying instagram models 1-2k to spend time with them and for sex. Why do that when they could easily get free sex? Is it mostly to save on time investment of searching and arranging the free sex.
SJG