Sharing real info with OTC girl.
Is it advisable to share real name, where you live, who is your wife, where you work with a OTC girl? When you have these kind of very intimate OTC meetings, sharing personal info can happen. Is this risky when you decide to stop seeing the OTC girl. Any good or bad experiences?
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I don't have any such problems. My OTC gal will be arriving at my house in a little while. I know everything there is to know about her and she knows everything about me. But we have known each other for 12years and started seeing each other OTC back in 2019. Took a bread during Covid.
With that said, there's no reason to get diarrhea of the mouth either. Not only because you end up sharing information that is best kept private, but because you look needy and weak in the process. Don't become an emotional pussy just because you got your dick wet - there is an expiration date with all of these things that could come at any time.
If you see her OTC enough, she's likely to learn your name. But there's no need to be talking about your wife with anyone. Also I've never felt compelled to be specific about precisely where I live or work, even with girls who I've seen for a year or longer.
I'd say use common sense. Of course there is some risk, but I've never had any serious issues. Empty threats like "I know where you live, my brothers are gonna get you" after I refused to cough up hundreds cause she had a bad week at work and needed rent is about the worst its ever been. I had one girl leave her phone one evening, then show up at my door at like 4am to pick it up. That one sounds bad, but she had her hot non-stripper friend with her and it turned into some dear Penthouse type shit.
If I had a wife, and the potential to loose significant assets if she discovered I was fucking strippers I might very well have a very different attitude. The same if it endangered my employment or family situation. No judgement, but I almost certainly wouldn't be doing it at all if that were the case, but that's a different discussion.
I hear that, but even still, I stand by my earlier comment that most of these girls don't want drama any more than we do. The last thing they need is an angry dude who can easily find them 3-4 shifts per week and they also almost always have their own domestic situations to manage. Net-net almost nobody wants drama at the strip club.
But for added surety, I've always found it prudent in my local clubs to carefully evaluate OTC with brand new/transient faces and to generally avoid very young girls. Over countless OTC partners over 10+ years I can count on one hand the number of times anyone even hinted at contacting my wife and the only one I ever took seriously was a FWB working as a strip club bartender.
My other guess is it's a K-Pop group.
Other than using verbiage and writing patterns identical to BTE's you mean?
That said, because it's an interesting topic.
Are you fucking crazy?
There was only one person who knew my real identity and she was a very, <em>very</em> special case. Nobody, and I repeat, nobody, else knows my real name, or number, or address, or social media. That might change sometime this year. Someone has turned out to be a far better friend than I actually deserve, so I might let her have it.
As oddly as this was framed, IMO there is an element of truth to this. Outside of obvious physical issues that might dissuade some dancers from considering OTC with a guy, like being obese, dog ugly or simply too old, IMO and IME the biggest obstacle many guys face is simply being off putting in some way. Acting squirrelly and furtive about the basics isn't going to help anyone's cause if OTC is the goal.
But again I just don't get this thread's premise that anyone should ever have to get that granular with a girl. You can come across like an open book without dumping a lot of detailed specifics. I have yet to meet a dancer who needed to know precisely where I live, exactly where I work or how to find my personal social media accounts. It's inevitably enough that I make money, have many life obligations to focus on and of course seem normal and grounded.
As the otc sugar dating evolves I might share more but nothing that is security level3 (me only).
You have no idea who could find out from their end.