First of all, I'll apologize in a advance for starting what may turn out to be SJG's favorite zombie thread to bump for the next 20 years.
S&M is not my thing, but it seems very much the thing of one of my favs. To me, when a dancer seems to actually get into dancing for you, for reasons other than $, it's extremely hot. We mutually choke each other. She chokes me much harder than I feel comfortable choking her. But she's good at taking it up right the line where I feel like I'm going to have to cry uncle, but not crossing it. I also dig my fingers into her, which she seems to like. Once in a while I happen upon a spot where it doesn't feel good to her, but so far I've been able to see this from her reaction, and stop. I haven't noticed any hesitancy on her part that I might take things too far, that it will get out of her control. But, since it's a strip club, I can't help but wonder it it isn't just a big double fake-out. She pretends to be into S&M because she thinks I'm into it. But she has been known to come to work with some major hickeys.
It's fairly common that dancers ask you to dig your fingers fairly hard into their back and upper chest muscles. Or into the last vertebrae in their back before their neck. Occasionally under their shoulder blades. One dancer complained I was doing it too hard. But then I pointed it out to her that she was backing up on my hand, and she laughed. One former fav wanted me to bite her nipples, but I was too scared. I'd press her nipples against my upper teeth with my tongue.
Your experiences?
If I were to name my 10 top SC journey moments, one would be the first time I asked a stripper (Chase at CP!) if I could spank her. I've been doing light bdsm with strippers in the VIP ever since -- decades later. Long as she's consenting and you're communicating limits etc it's a great time.