Dancers giving money back or refusing it?

I've had girls go the extra mile and not charge.
I've had the occasional dance where we both lost track of time & costs, she told me to pay her what ever I thought our time together was worth.
Never had one refuse $$$.

Girls like that make clubs worth it. It's the kind of service that keeps you coming back.

My favorite story involves my original ATF named Carter. She worked at the Columbia SC platinum Plus. She was expecting me one day back around 2003 but when I got to the club she was in The Champagne Room with another customer. An hour in the Champagne Room could run $600 or more per hour. She came out once and told me that she didn't know how much longer she would be and tried to give me $40 to get dances from other girls while I waited. I told her to keep her money. That I would just wait for her.

A while later a guy in a suit came to my table with another dancer. He introduced himself as Eric, the manager. He told me that Carter had just bought me 4 dances with Kitten, the dancer with him. And for me to take Kitten back to the lap dance room and enjoy it. I knew Kitten from previous visits and did enjoy the dances. I found out a few months later than Eric and Kitten were secretly married.

Carter finally came out of the Champagne Room and spent the rest of the night with me free of charge.

I've had it happen, but not lately.

Shadowcat that sounds like a great experience. It's the kind of positivity we need more of here

Last time it happened to me. The girl told me to save my money to take her to dinner the next night.

I've had...

* "pay me what you think I deserve"
* much higher degree of extras for the standard dance rate
* "that one was free"


...but never money back, and never "that's too much money". With dancers I know well, I get what I was expecting to get for the price I was expecting 99% of the time. For dancers I don't know, I get what I want ~60% of the time. Of the 40% of the time that I don't get what I want, it ends up being about 3/4 meh and 1/4 wow that was terrible!! That last bit I keep to myself in the club and then write about here because it's more interesting than "had a nice lapper this morning with CF".

A bit here and there, but seemed more like marketing than true love.

The first time I met one fav, I spent all my cash on her, so she asked me to just rub her back for a while. Didn't seem like marketing. Bittersweet. Nice to know I can do something for a beautiful young woman sometimes besides $. But unfortunately a back rub could only tame her demons so much.

I usually buy my lap dances in lots. For example lapdances are $20, I say “I’m gonna give you $100 let me know when that runs out.” Then when that happens I say “okay I’m gonna do another $100” or “thank you that’s enough for now.” Often if I keep goi g girls will throw in a few extra dances for free, we often both lose count as well. No biggie.

I've had dancers leave me and go after guys that offered them more money. I didn't mind it too much since I pay at the end.

I had a dancer who let me finger her to orgasm while we were sitting at a table and didn't charge me for touching her.

A LONG, LONG time ago, I used to go to a club that was BYOB. They only sold sodas/mixers. I frequently would bring in a bottle of liquor. When you bought a girl a drink you would pay the bar and they would give a percentage of that price to the girl. The girls would usually give me that percentage back for shots in their drinks.

Ldk was she a new girl? That kind of naivette is cute

No, nor would I ever want that. If I give money to a girl it's because I want her to have it. I wouldn't be there if I needed the money more than she did and the same might apply to her as well. I would also never want a favorite stripper to view me as a candidate for a charitable refund for all sorts of other reasons I won't go into here.

It's not charity.

Most of the time like in any industry it's good business sense and keeps a customer coming back and feeling special.

If she likes you. Very young girls especially. They want to blur the customer line at the club. And its instinctual for women to act nurturing. Give you things take care of you when they like you.

Howd you guys get all this
Dont many clubs make you pay the money to a bouncer or vip manager not directly to the dancers so you have no chance to get money back from a dancer unless they give it to you after the dance from their own cut of the dance fees...

I've never been to a club where I didn't pay the dancer directly for her services. I have paid the house fees upfront to the club for the use of their facilities.

Sirachabob. I guess it depends where you're at. Yeah you pay the staff for vip. But on the main floor you pau the dancer.

A stripper is not a restaurant or a mechanic or anything else where the likelihood of repeat business is high because, after all, they have to eat and service there cars *somewhere.* It's purely discretionary entertainment with guys constantly coming one day and then disappearing after. Guys go broke, switch clubs, fall in lust with other gals, get busy, etc., etc., all the time, notwithstanding some of the dayshift unicorns around here that visit the same gals for years.

The girls know this all too well, which is why notions of "customer service" and "repeat business" aren't likely to compel most of them to forego cash today in the distant hope of more cash tomorrow. They also have a minimum nut to cover that night just to break even as well as whatever they need to walk out with on top, which makes this even more unlikely.

I have has the lost track of dances bit, and the we will start counting with the next song bit.
And once my my at the time ATF swung by my table grabbed me and dragged me i to vip, where she set about having a very good time for herself. I tried yo negotiate when she said something like dont worry about the cost i need this and she went yo town.
When we finished she all but fell asleep snuggled up to me until the call warner her she was up next. She got up thanked me and walk off i got up went yo t he rest room, tipped he at the stage and went home.
Looking back on it i messed up, could have probably got her to go home with me the mood she was in.
This was back when things were not as common and a lot of dancer only crossed a line if the knew or liked the customer.
What i really want to know is who/what got her all reved up…. who ever it was… thank you. :)
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@rick: “ A stripper is not a restaurant or a mechanic or anything else where the likelihood of repeat business is high because…”

This is a very interesting premise. Do strippers take a “building repeat customers” approach or not? I guess it depends on the circumstances: day/evening, bachelor party/obvious PL, vu/local club ? I know for sure that I have had dancers act in a way that implied they saw me as a possible repeat customer, but not always or even most of the time. I think I’ll make this into a thread!

Many years ago, I saw an ad for a black escort with smoking hot pictures, but a rate way on the low side. Which is a red flag that she's either got fake pictures, or a pimp, or just wants to lure you into a robbery. But I decided to chance it. Turned out she her pictures were accurate, and she provide top-notch GFE. So I gave her a tip that roughly covered the difference between what her rate was and what it should have been. She got excited, and blurted out "are you sure you can afford this?" One of my first experiences with how the mindfuck of being a sex worker is even worse for black chicks.

After my first true extra from my ATF she told me I gave her too much money and that she would get change. That is the best $ I've ever spent in a club.

Wome if yiu are mistaking strippers for hookers.

Hookers love repeat stable tricks

===> "Do strippers take a “building repeat customers” approach or not? I guess it depends on the circumstances: day/evening, bachelor party/obvious PL, vu/local club ?"

Of course. Some girls specialize in building a stable of regulars so they don't have to bust their asses every time they need to make their nut. But there's a world of difference between giving a guy a bit more attention and mileage in consideration for money already paid and the hope of future business vs. actually handing him cash back, lol. Every regular has a shelf life and one never knows when the expiration date will hit - any day could be the last for any one regular.

No - but if I really enjoyed the dancer and if she took her time with me, I’m always very generous. The generosity pays off very well because it gives me a favorable reputation with the dancers and with the waitresses at the small number of clubs I go to with any regularity.

I believe my reputation as a generous regular is why I rarely have a dry time when I go clubbing.

Spending a lot on their services doesn't make you look generous. It gives you a reputation as a stable trick.

I once got money back from the dancer after we had just entered VIP and I farted as I sat down. She gave me too much back and whispered to keep the change as her eyes were squinting and watering.

A dancer telling me I gave her too much money. Oh yeah...all the time.

Also, I named the pig that just flew out of my ass, "Melvin" and he can do algebra.

And, as much as I HATE to agree with RickyD...I don't want my money back! That's insulting. If I give a dancer $100 and she hands it back to me and says "no thanks"...thats an insult. For a stripper to turn down money...you might as well find a cave and go live in it. A stripper will let you light her on fire if you pay enough. The only time I'd consider taking my money back is if she explained that I'd need it for medical costs because she just fucked me bareback and is pretty sure she has an STD. In that case, I'd probably offer her $50 of the $100 as a tip for being honest and keep the other $50.

Now, have I experienced the opposite?

Me: "Wait, I thought it was 3 songs for $60?"

Her: "That was 3 songs. Do you want another 3 for $60?"

Me: "Bitch...I may be ugly, but I can count to 3. Even the music I hear when I'm on hold (telephone)...the songs last more than 35 seconds."

I was drunk and my brain wasn’t working. I somehow was peeling off and handing bills to the dancer that would have been double the cost of our private dance. The dancer kind of laughed and said “what are you doing ?” and handed back half the money.
I thanked and gave her a nice tip. Veteran dancer I had taken back maybe one other time. Nice honest lady.

Leonadd I meant when she does it for a nice reason. Not coz you're like Rick and get rejected by hookers and strippers

I just meant expecting a stripper to give you a point of service rebate...because you're too generous....

...is like going to used car lot, offering the sticker price, and having the car dealer say, "Ya know, here's the $7,000 you coulda saved had you bartered with us."

It just ain't gonna happen.

If I REALLY want to get a dancer's attention, I might stage tip her a $20 bill. I'd be SHOCKED if she handed it back to me and said, "honey, you only need to stage tip $1."