What would you do if newly single and had a very high income?

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TxVegas
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First: This is not one of those asking for a friend things when I am really asking for myself. This is definitely not my situation.

I just had dinner tonight with a newly divorced friend. He is in his early 50s and his kids are in college. He owns his own business and makes over a million dollars a year. He will not be paying spousal support as she has her own career and did not need the money. They spit what they had basically in half. He and his ex had been having difficulties for the last three or four years so he has not had a great time recently with regard to women. They had been married for 27 years. His ex was very attractive and he will be popular on the “friends trying to fix you up circuit.”

He asked me what I would do in his situation. I gave some vague answers but what I was really thinking was he should just go to all the high milage strip clubs across this great land and play for a few years. If he finds someone he
Is really into, he should take high end vacations with her to places where a bikini or less is appropriate attire.

What would you mongers do in his situation?

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CJKent_band
3 years ago
@TxVegas

Q: What would you do if newly single and had a very high income?

A: If I was in your friend’s situation would make up for loss time regarding women and sex...

Sexual interactions in various forms is nothing new in western culture...

I would refer him to Demosthenes (384 – 12 October 322 BC)
Greek statesman and orator of ancient Athens.

1. We have courtesans for the sake of pleasure.
2. Concubines for the daily health of our bodies, and
3. Wives to bear us lawful offspring and be the faithful guardians of our homes

In this list is the Greek view of woman in the classic age.

And in all ages and times.

All men want that, but only some can afford it...

In today’s world the rich can say:

1. We have high end escorts, centerfolds, actresses, models, etc that provide PSE/GFE for the sake of pleasure.
2. Mistresses/Sugar Babies/Strippers ITC OTC; etc, for the daily needs of our bodies.
3. Trophy Wives (with an ironclad prenup) to bear us lawful offspring, and be the faithful guardians of our homes.
4. Realistic Sex Dolls/Gynoids/Fembot, and Internet Porn and Instagram/Onlyfans “Models”, for kicks-and-giggles”

Also I would ask him;

Have you considered going to the Nevada brothels, like the Moonlite BunnyRanch, Chicken Ranch, etc.?

How about traveling to the Happiest Place on Earth (according to Krusty) TJ?

https://tuscl.net/photo.php?id=1401

Or the German Freikörperkultur (FKK) clubs.

Just something to think about...
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gammanu95
3 years ago
I think you gave him the same advice I would have. After being hitched for 27 years and having what you describe as a high level of discretionary income, I would take an extended European vacation, being sure to hit the German FKKs and some casinos in Romania, the Czech Republic, and the Balkans (Latvia, Lithuania, Estonia).
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herbtcat
3 years ago
Your friend is the ideal candidate to be a Sugar Daddy. He can date (date = fuck) as many 20-ish hotties in a week as his libido can stand and dump any and all whenever he wants to. No guilt. Lot's of hot sex. No commitments. No babies as long as he covers up.

That's what I did when I retired 3 years ago, with a nice stack of disposable cash at hand.

This is his time to indulge all of his hedonistic desires. So sure, add the trips to German FKK's, Thailand GoGo Clubs, etc. Tell him to pass on the Nevada brothels - they suck and not in a good way. And TJ is ok, but the Euro and Asian locations are much better with a moderate to large budget.
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bang69
3 years ago
Trave and hit every extras club in the US
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Papi_Chulo
3 years ago
I would let him know what I know about the P4P game (SCs; sugaring; etc) and the fun that can be had in places like TJ and German FKKs - I wouldn't necessarily push him towards it nor try to convince him, but sorta give him an FYI based on my mongering experience although there may be reason to not bring up P4P w/ certain people one feels would be judgemental about it or if that info would get to other people you wouldn't want it to get to via him disseminating that info.

One should also assume that P4P (SCs etc) is not for everyone and a lot of people don't have any interest in it and prefer to be in relationships.
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Uprightcitizen
3 years ago
Honestly if he is venturing into mongering the advice he needs is don't spend out of proportion to his income and understamding market value. Bloomberg doest post this but most traders in my experience are mongers and understand it
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Uprightcitizen
3 years ago
The main danger of post marriage and high income is falling into the trap of emotional vulnerability. A ruthless shark hustler can take a bite out of this guy.
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Papi_Chulo
3 years ago
Yeah I would def give him a heads-up on the pros/cons of P4P and what to look out for - as well as civvie golddiggers
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rogertex
3 years ago
Rich people have many opportunities and generally don't need advice!
I can offer experiences on "living large" for folks on a budget.
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rickdugan
3 years ago
Idk. Every guy is different. I would just let him find this on his own - or not as the case may be. Not every guy is emotionally equipped to casually fuck around with strippers and sugarbabies in a healthy (meaning self protective) manner.
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rediguan
3 years ago
Late to the discussion but agree with Papi and Rick. It never cease to amaze me (i.e Deshaun Watson - QB1 Houston) that individuals with enough wealth do not choose the path that offers them the most privacy. If your friend has the means to do so, as stated above, there are so many means to satisfy your needs without it going public - see Woods, Elderick (yea, I know - Escalade and a 7-iron). The Sugar route or the European Germany FKKs carry risk - hell every option carries risk. I suppose the best option to your friend is to determine the least amount of risk in accordance to his wealth. Easier said then done but given his circumstance as you laid out, there are places in Nevada or elsewhere.

I wish I had his problem but first and foremost would be protecting my wealth.
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Jascoi
3 years ago
I advise have some discipline and restraint... Don't get hooked on Vegas girls...
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ATACdawg
3 years ago
One thing that you haven't mentioned is what caused the breakup. If it was changes in libido, then yes, then an FKK/Tijuana tour(s) might well be the answer. On the other hand, if was his own long buried nastiness (and I'm not implying that it was - I just don't know!) he might need to get that sorted first.
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misterorange
3 years ago
He's going to be extremely vulnerable to hot younger women trying to rip him off. The "power of the pussy" will be tough for a middle-aged guy who is coming off several years of bad or nonexistent sex, and is immediately labeled as a "good catch" for lots of sexy young babes.

If he's been making over a million a year for a while, I assume he has lots of cash and other assets like real estate, insurance policies, etc. He should transfer a big chunk of it into an irrevocable trust with a corporate trustee, so it will be protected from any future bad decisions he might make.

Then he can go off to rediscover his youth with large current earnings still at his disposal.
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Leonard313
3 years ago
I'm not in the "millionaire" realm...but I'm in a similar situation.

I did a lot of P4P in Cali when I was semi-retired, living alone, and had about $100k of funds to live off while I was looking into other job opportunities. However, money doesn't last long in Cali.

When I moved to Iowa, Backpage got destroyed and PFP wasn't really an option. Plus, my income took a -60% hit so I couldn't really afford it even if I could find it. I also put on another 20-25 pounds so standard dating became problematic.

Now that I'm in Michigan with a new job, my income has more than doubled and I have some disposable income to play with. So, now what?

A part of me thinks I should just dive into the online dating scene and try to drop 30-40 pounds to make it worthwhile. Another part of me thinks it'd be fun to sample some extras clubs and maybe find a "regular OTC" option.

Honestly, if I had millions, I'd probably go the dating route vs. PFP. There's plenty of attractive women that would have sex with him for free (other than costs of dating) if he's bringing in that kind of dough. And, you can afford a personal trainer and top of the line exercise gear...so it's harder to use the excuse that "real women" wouldn't be interested.
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max_starr
3 years ago
I agree with the vulnerable comment. Even with some experience, it is best to take things slow and find a few girls you really like who are reliable, professional, safe, and fun.
Some girls will try to get a guy hooked on drugs so they don't have to perform and take all their money until they have no more. Million or not. I used to hear stories from OTC girls about these types of scenarios. They had no problem telling me what they did and I even saw them do it to a couple guys. I visited more than one hotel where I was fucking and having a great time while some idiot is there handing out cocaine to the girls all night for little in return.
Maybe your friend needs a guy to guide him to the first few adventures and watch his back.
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Eltriste
3 years ago
I'd save some money and would travel to every country.

If I were old and wanted to spend it on hookers I'd do exotic shit like strip clubs in Nepal or getting blowjobs on the Mongolian steppes.
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Tiburon
3 years ago
Thank goodness you didn't tell him what you were absolutely thinking. Because that is all terrible advice for a businessman.
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skibum609
3 years ago
Only someone living in a basement of a crack house would think there are strip clubs in Nepal. Fucking moron.
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shadowcat
3 years ago
Maybe he was thinking of Cameron Diaz. In "something about Mary" she was obsessed with going to Nepal.
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VanessaM
3 years ago
Go to Center Stage and ask for Vanessa 😌
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Lone_Wolf
3 years ago
I'd bet major bucks the rich dude the OP is talking about is already married again.
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