So who has actually provided “mentorship?”
nicespice
So I saw this video
https://m.facebook.com/WeAreSTV/videos/5…
It’s not the first time I’ve heard “mentorship” thrown around. My initial thought is to just dismiss it all as just yet another way for both parties to feel better about their cheap sex work by giving it an illusion of class.
But hey, I try to keep an open mind and thought it might be an interesting question to ask the Seeking Arrangement crowd around here:
1. Has anybody on here provided life or career advice in any way?
And by that, I mean something ACTIONABLE and you actually considered HER personal needs and knew it could help if steps were followed. I don’t mean just lazy lecturing about not buying avocado toast or whatever stunt McDonald’s/Visa did back in 2013 where they embarrassed themselves.
https://www.theatlantic.com/business/arc…
2. Has anybody put themselves out there as a letter of recommendation?
For example: somebody wants to apply for a scholarship, apply into some type of post-bachelors program (med school or whatever), or even be a reference when applying for a job.
3. Did you ever introduce somebody to somebody that could improve her in anyway?
Business contacts in a related career field may be one thing, but I’ll go ahead and make this broader. Bonus if you actually paid for any self-improvement services for her: Pay for any foreign language tutors? Any therapists for mental wellness? Any personal trainers or nutrition counselors or culinary instructors? Seminar of xyz topic? Etc
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I’m sure it can happen.
Even as a mere “sex worker” who has never used that site, I remember one individual once sitting down and having a serious conversation about vanilla career goals and encouraging sending a resume to be critiqued (which I did) and no it wasn’t just some creepy attempt to get personal information. A nice thoughtful thing even if I didn’t get around to doing much vanilla work after finishing school 😝
Also, random tidbits of interesting conversation with people over the years when they described their jobs and what it entails in passing.
Or random tidbit of stuff like advice for best camping gear products. Or recipes I’ve heard. Or restaurant/things to do recommendations when in an area.
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This thread is mostly targeted at the Seeking crowd but if somebody gets along with strippers long enough that personal life stuff comes out and you feel you could answers any of these questions seriously, feel free to chime in.
https://m.facebook.com/WeAreSTV/videos/5…
It’s not the first time I’ve heard “mentorship” thrown around. My initial thought is to just dismiss it all as just yet another way for both parties to feel better about their cheap sex work by giving it an illusion of class.
But hey, I try to keep an open mind and thought it might be an interesting question to ask the Seeking Arrangement crowd around here:
1. Has anybody on here provided life or career advice in any way?
And by that, I mean something ACTIONABLE and you actually considered HER personal needs and knew it could help if steps were followed. I don’t mean just lazy lecturing about not buying avocado toast or whatever stunt McDonald’s/Visa did back in 2013 where they embarrassed themselves.
https://www.theatlantic.com/business/arc…
2. Has anybody put themselves out there as a letter of recommendation?
For example: somebody wants to apply for a scholarship, apply into some type of post-bachelors program (med school or whatever), or even be a reference when applying for a job.
3. Did you ever introduce somebody to somebody that could improve her in anyway?
Business contacts in a related career field may be one thing, but I’ll go ahead and make this broader. Bonus if you actually paid for any self-improvement services for her: Pay for any foreign language tutors? Any therapists for mental wellness? Any personal trainers or nutrition counselors or culinary instructors? Seminar of xyz topic? Etc
——
I’m sure it can happen.
Even as a mere “sex worker” who has never used that site, I remember one individual once sitting down and having a serious conversation about vanilla career goals and encouraging sending a resume to be critiqued (which I did) and no it wasn’t just some creepy attempt to get personal information. A nice thoughtful thing even if I didn’t get around to doing much vanilla work after finishing school 😝
Also, random tidbits of interesting conversation with people over the years when they described their jobs and what it entails in passing.
Or random tidbit of stuff like advice for best camping gear products. Or recipes I’ve heard. Or restaurant/things to do recommendations when in an area.
——
This thread is mostly targeted at the Seeking crowd but if somebody gets along with strippers long enough that personal life stuff comes out and you feel you could answers any of these questions seriously, feel free to chime in.
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I've put plenty of girls up on game.
One night I was at her place, and she asked if I wanted some dinner. Having just expended most of my daily calories, I agreed. She starts pulling ingredients, spices, and pans out, starts cooking, and before I know it (admittedly, some of it was pre-cooked, but by no means all), I have a plate of simply delicious beef stroganoff in front of me.
She'd learned how to cook from her (deceased) dad, a small time "chef" at some place in Chicago, growing up, and loved cooking. Really loved it.
Me: "So why not go to school for this?"
Her: "There's no way I can afford it."
So we started going over what it would take for her to go to Sullivan (one of the best food service schools in the country). Turns out, it was a lot more affordable than she'd thought. So she started at Sullivan, using my "contributions" to supplement her living expenses while at school. She's now working at some high class place in Houston and loving life. We still talk occasionally, and she's promised me a free meal if I ever make it there. :D
As for my ATF, I've helped her move, advised her when she was having problems with her husband, watched her kids while they went out, and a host of other things. I've lost count of the number of papers and homework I reviewed and proofread for her while she was attending school. Even bought her a laptop.
Another escort turned out to have an amazing talent for photographic composition, so I gave her one of my old cameras and bought her a couple of books. She's and her fiance are doing it professionally now. Making a good buck. She doesn't talk to me much now, because while her fiance apparently knows about her former life, he definitely would not be OK with her talking to someone like me. So I just follow her on facebook and occasionally comment on an especially good picture.
I don’t want a protege. I wanna pay a hot woman $1000 to suck n fuck. Simple as that
SJG
Maybe I'll set up a Sugar Baby Consulting business . :-)
SJG
It seems like the Sugar world is using the term "mentor" in a similar way. I can't see it being the same sort of mentorship that you find in business or the trades. So, I think it's just up-cycling the word "advice" to make it sound more like something you could post on LinkedIn, but leaving out the part about the blowjob.
But my own organization will not actually be like this.
SJG
SJG
I have recommended a dancer to a company that was hiring. That was 7 years ago. She is still with the company and has been promoted a couple of times. She's doing great.
And similar to Warrior, I spent a lot of time advising a dancer on her online businesses and helping her with some challenges.
I also mentored a dancer who started a yoga studio. I also invested in that business and was paid back with a decent return when she sold the business a few years later.
A lot of this is quite natural as it corresponds to my real job. So when girls are entrepreneurially minded, it comes up, and I help.
Some months back I had what could best be described as a semi-sugar thing going with a girl who was clearly seeking mentorship. I shared a few thoughts while we were just sitting around drinking anyway, but that's as involved as I was willing to get. She had a lot of issues, credit in the toilet, expenses that were unsustainable vs. her income, working crap vanilla jobs since she didn't want to dance anymore, less than ideal living setup for her and her kid, etc. I could have helped her in any number of ways with little additional cost to me, but that's a rabbit hole I just can't go down, so instead I moved on.
^ Aww, dont be so coy Ricky! Ricky is my life mentor. He teaches me the benefits of not taking shit anyone!
Finally back after Covid and seeing another econ student at cu Boulder. Only 2x per month now which is more than enough.
I have also seen many SBs who have absolutely no interest in mentoring, even though they put it in their profiles. I'm totally cool with that, but those SB's tend to drift off sooner...
I've never been asked to author a recommendation letter, but I might for those I deem worthy and if I was comfortable it wouldn't compromise my professional standing.
Finally, I have introduced SOME SB's to a few network connections - again - as long as I felt the intro was legit and she could conduct herself professionally.
As to financing specific costs? Yes, as part of her allowance.
Every arrangement is different. Part of the magic of the Sugar Bowl is helping people who genuinely need/want it and who will appreciate Daddy's help in a very psychical manner, over and over again. :)
And over and over again....
Finally, the worst outcomes for me happened when an SB mistook my kindness for weakness. Those ended quickly.
This has not been my experience at all. A smart, over-achieving, balanced college girl is going to open up far more opportunities for herself than someone who has bad-decisioned herself into a corner and has fewer options. My smartest SB was a pre-med college girl who was incredibly smart, super close with entire family. She picked my brain for all its worth: how do I set up a good LinkedIn, should I take this summer to study more for MCATs or get an internship instead, should I take some money and invest it or start paying off student loans, how does someone invest in stocks anyway? The questions were never-ending, and she wanted to dive down into my reasoning for everything. A smart young woman who has a lot of options, her family is poor and out of its depth, but she has access to a successful older person who has already achieved what she wants to, is going to take advantage of that. You don't have to call it "mentoring", but if she's not asking you for advice, she doesn't think it's a valuable use of her time. Seeking advice has nothing to do with whether she's a college girl or stripper, whether she's the product of good parenting or not.
This isn't just theory, every SB ends up leaning on me. And mentoring is far more of a thing on the sugar forum, than it is on strip club forums. If your SBs aren't asking you for advice, that's the unusual thing. Go start a poll on the sugar sub, "SDs, if you have an SB who had good parenting, do you still do any mentoring?" You'll get overwhelming Yeses.
These were imo mostly great answers on this thread, including from members I have personally trolled before (and probably won’t stop). Also, some answers were really unexpected and those were interesting stories. It’s the diverse amount of perspectives that keeps tuscl interesting. 😋
I would think that counts.