strippers getting annoyed no matter what you say
docsavage
Indiana
I've noticed that many strippers seem to be looking for reasons to get annoyed. Most common is probably where they would get annoyed being offered money for sex because they aren't a hooker but also getting annoyed if you were to say you wouldn't be interested in that, the implication to them being you don't think they are attractive enough. A second situation is where they ask why you don't call them so you call them and then they don't answer the phone, return calls or act annoyed if they do pick up the phone. It's possible this is a general female thing. Once I lived with a girl who got angry and told me to leave and then two weeks later called me and angrily starting yelling at me about leaving even though she was the one who had told me to leave. Have you noticed this with strippers? If you have, is there a reason behind it?
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NAAAASTY
With civilians, I find that most often when a women appears dissatisfied with all reasonable options there is a different, unrelated, issue in play. Often times its a trivial thing she knew wasn't worth getting upset about, but its subconsciously on her mind. To be honest though, I can't sit here and say women are the only ones that happens to. If it's a frequent thing in a relationship, I'd do some self reflection and talk about it though.
There probably is a little something in what the others said about how the dancers perceive you. When they gripe about getting propositioned (which if they're cute happens all the time) is it just complaining or directed at you? If you're known as a guy who likes have fun, maybe it's girls letting you know they're open to being asked.
"It's possible this is a general female thing." That sounds about right. Stripping is a job and each dancer handles it in her own way. That includes how she deals with customers. My enjoyment of the hobby went way up when I stopped chasing the rush and let things happen in their own time. If you're getting shit regularly from someone in a customer service job, you've got to decide if it's worth throwing more time and money after a bad outcome.
Strippers love it when I say that!
If I get that attitude, about how difficult things are for her, she better be able to pull live rabbits out of her asshole while my cock is in her mouth!
The only other comment I'd make is on phone calls. With few exceptions, no stripper wants you to actually dial her number for a voice call. Even if she really means she wants to call you while she's drunk and rolling in the club, that will go away as soon as she wakes up the next morning. No matter what she calls it, just text her, man.
Juice could probably manage that!
"have very low EQ (one of the hallmarks of which is, you take anything that doesn't meet your needs, to be a personal insult)."
That's not just a characteristic of strippers, it also describes a certain poster here without naming him and getting into a flame war all over the internet let's just say he has a buddy who's a lion, another buddy is a turtle, and a third buddy who I don't remember is either a vulture or a skunk. and his name rhymes with Lick Coogan, but hey, it is what it is.
Then why do all your OTC girls keep leaving them boiling on your stove? https://youtu.be/ecWhXP2jM28?t=75s
Now someone who would write this, THIS is reflective of low IQ: "Subraman you wound demented. You talk down on strippers claim thete jave low iqs"
To me it's the cost of doing business. See the same girl enough and it's inevitable. Some guys set ground rules about what's off the table for chit chat, but I'd rather a dancer talk about what's on her mind than constantly filter. I don't need a personal connection, but don't run away from it either.
To sum up, dancers react according to their current emotional state and their emotional state is always changing so their reactions are always changing too. Some of them have psychological, drug or alcohol problems and that exacerbates the problem of erratic behavior. Women also like drama and some of their behavior can be explained as a desire to manufacture drama where none exists.
To counteract this and get them to behave better would be to act a little less eager to please, don't put up with bad behavior, drop them and find someone else if bad behavior persists, and don't reward the bad behavior by throwing more money at them.
Op dancers are people just like anyone else. In tbeir jib theyre nice to everyone. Good people skills are a no just. If theyre consistently annoyed with you it could be you
Also, did you look up with EQ is, so you can see how foolish you're making yourself look? lol
And stop calling them, man!
We are the ones holding the cash that they wish to earn. Were you confused by that?
That was just so so subtle 25. Dammit I give up - who could you possibly mean? 😀
When supposedly grown ass men are having a discussion on a strip club site about "emotional intelligence" we know that shit has gone very wrong. Somebody may need to perform a self exam to relocate his testicles. I'm not saying who of course because I don't want to start a flame war... 😉
Agree 100% on the first part, but that's a two way street. Nobody owes anyone in a club unless they agree to xyz. I can spend my money on whomever I choose and she can do the same with her time and attention.
Where I'll disagree is with the notion that all "tricks' are created equal. I think that, on the whole, the average tuscler spends more on girls than many other customers, which gives them a certain amount of bargaining power, especially on slower nights with few strong options. Now this may hold more true in some cities and clubs and less true in others, but there it is.
Icey being a socialist really doesn’t understand the concept!
The answer to all of OPs questions is they want the most money for the least effort.
Negotiating p2p is a dance. A lot of girls like plausible deniability, it's how the whole sugar baby thing started.
Or it could be that the stereotype about self esteem and daddy issues is accurate. Occam's Razor.